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  1. On 5/13/2022 at 7:16 AM, Yeah No said:

    I was surprised too given how close I was to NY at the time.  By the mid '90s they were everywhere, though, although most of them sucked by NYC standards.  Now I live further away but we get great bagels.  It's surprising to learn that Texas had them so soon.  My Jewish grandfather retired to North Carolina in the '70s and '80s and was always complaining that he couldn't find bagels, so we used to bring a dozen with us when we visited.

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    This quote from this article, written in the NYT in 1982:

    So that's some reference as to how rare they were.

    I know this is old but I had to answer being a native Texan. I don’t know what that article is talking about. Crawfish season is and has been for all my life (I’m middle aged) a huge thing in texas. I feel like people don’t understand that texas is not like most of the other southern states. It’s extremely diverse and has quite a prominent Jewish community. When the Jews fleeing during wwii were turned away from New York they tried to get into the country through Galveston and ended up establishing themselves here. Can speak from experience bagels werent a foreign concept in texas in the early 90’s in texas.

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  2. On 11/28/2022 at 4:17 PM, MrWhyt said:

    see that is at least based on stuff we've seen in the show.  Contrast that to the "Greg has hired Quentin to kill Tanya" theory which presumes that:

    A. Greg wants Tanya dead

    2. Instead of pushing her off a cliff or arranging some other "accident" on their Vespa ride he decides to contract it out to his gay not lover from 30-40 years ago

    iii. Once Quentin accepts the offer he decides the best course of action is to hang out with his target and a gaggle of witnesses. Take her out on a yacht, treat her to the opera, have her stay over and then at some point dispatch her?

    Yes Greg is acting shady and may be cheating on Tanya. Obviously Quentin has kept some things hidden from her, but these do not add up to an elaborate murder plot.

    Am I the only one who doesn’t care who is dead? I find the storylines in front of us interesting enough without trying to guess who is dead. Bottom line is all these people are miserable. It doesn’t matter who is dead because the ones who aren’t will go on with their miserable lives despite not being dead.

    I would much rather commiserate about who dumb Albie is being or laugh about Tanya calling out Portia (FINALLY!) for her hideous clothes.

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  3. On 11/25/2022 at 7:00 PM, Joimiaroxeu said:

    Portia is awful. Poor Albie.

    Sex in a church. What could possibly go wrong?

    Yeah, I too don't get Ethan protecting the bro code over his marriage. What's Cameron got on him?

    Now I'm wondering if perhaps Isabella is lowkey working Valentina. (Or if she's eventually going get her salad tossed by Valentina, ha ha.)

    Was Albie a virgin? Who passes out from a blow job?

    I think it was one of my favorites. There was a lot of incisive character development.

    Wait, what? 🤯

    Some people use "Viagra" as a generic term and its competitor Cialis is a yellow tablet.

    Re the comments about Portia's fashion sense--or lack thereof--a number of her outfits are on the Worn on TV site. That usually means a) the clothing is or recently was available for purchase at known stores; or, b) viewers have expressed an interest in buying the clothes; and/or, c) it's deliberate product placement on behalf of a vendor or designer to help drive sales. Look-see here.

    I refuse to believe anyone would want anything that Portia have a wearing at all. The only time she looked decent was the night she hooked up with the Essex guy. Every single piece of her wardrobe is distractingly hideous to include her hair, jewelry and make up.

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  4. On 11/21/2022 at 12:23 PM, DrSpaceman73 said:

    Of course she doesn't say it explicitly.  No man or woman ever says it like that.  

    But she makes it pretty clear without explicitly saying it.   

    Albie has to literally be told everything with women. He is getting oral sex and is asking the woman .....in the middle of the process.....if he can orgasm. 

    Yes she is rude to him for using him  As her back up play if nothing better is available.  But I wouldn't fault her for not specifically telling him that.  He is in his mid 20s at least. Read the room albie.  

    This absolves Portia of her at best rude, at worst cruel behavior. What an odd take.

    and just for the record…yes, you should let your partner know, especially if they’re a new partner, if you want to orgasm in their mouth BEFORE you do it and you should abso-freaking-lutely be sure they are enthusiastically ok with that.

    im a middle aged woman who isn’t huge on this whole explicitly asking for consent for every sex act but you’re damn right if bodily fluids are going to be exchanged there needs to be permission asked. That is what a man with experience and integrity does.

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  5. 23 hours ago, gesundheit said:

    Yes, I think there are extremist cults in many faiths. Kind of like your mainstream Mormons vs the FLDS. Those are not minor differences along some reasonable spectrum.

    This comment and further comments about Israel and such are maybe what this series was going for. I was hoping they weren’t painting Orthodox Jews in the us as some sort of cult but apparently a lot of viewers are seeing them that way. It is disappointing to me especially this month with a lot of the high holy days, especially after I’ve been hosted by a Jewish orthodox family who knows I’m atheist and still welcomed me with open arms. The comparison (not in the quoted text) of Orthodox Jews to born again Christians is not a fair comparison at all knowing what I know about Orthodox Jews.

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  6. I just don’t agree with your assessment of what went down in the wedding, especially with my own personal observations of the community but like I said it’s been one of my concerns about this show. Those with little knowledge of the community interpreting it through those eyes. I’ve been quite surprised at how little they’ve explained about the Jewish faith while relying heavily on it to portray family dynamics.

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  7. The men didn’t walk out in protest. They walked out in respect for their wives and out of feeling uncomfortable for being forced into a situation that doesn’t align with their faith. I actually saw the mom as being defiant and antagonistic because if she had that much knowledge of the Jewish faith that she made it her life she’d have known that she would make everyone on the wife’s side of the family and her son feel uncomfortable by her actions. I’ve never seen anyone from opposite ends of the spectrum of Judaism treat each other this way. Hell, even the non Jewish employees at my work don’t treat those who are orthodox this way. Everyone is respectful of the differences and makes allowances for them. Hence my familiarity with kosher foods as we have different kosher and non kosher eating areas at my work place and shaking hands between opposite sex people usually comes with asking for consent first. It’s not that hard. It’s one of the things I think I find the most bizarre about Alan and the mom’s characters.

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  8. 2 minutes ago, sistermagpie said:

    Sorry, that was my bad. I should have known she was a cantor--though I don't know the nuances either. I did get that the problem was that she was singing in mixed company. That doesn't make it better to me.

    I thought his wife was wearing a wig--another aspect I don't know the nuances of but know is a thing. It looked like one to me. 

    That’s kind of my point tho. On the surface, or I will admit even in practice by those who wish to abuse it, some of the things Orthodox Jews do could be misconstrued as misogynistic but that’s to someone who doesn’t know, or in Alan’s case, refuses to learn why they choose to do these things. It’s something that’s actually been a big plot point imo. Alan is now starting to realize that he was stuck in his stubbornness and refused to learn about or give respect to the way Ezra and his family choose to live. There’s great beauty in some of these rules Orthodox Jews have as they’re centered around the husband and wife relationship. I actually worked super closely with an orthodox rabbi for the better part of a year and had many of these same questions. Working so closely with the community has given me a new perspective on how beautiful a lot of the religion can be…and this is coming from an atheist.

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  9. 8 hours ago, sistermagpie said:

    I went through that back and forth too. I think they were kosher treats--I don't know what kind of selection there is there, but this deli might not have had the best. 

    I wasn't sure about the son's reaction either. He's the eldest so maybe just gets what's going on more and is stressed about seeing what his dad is dealing with or maybe loves his grandfather, while the other kids are also stressed but less clear about it and confused about the treats. The older son could see his struggling with the box bringing out some emotions.

    I like all the focus on religion and the family relationships, though when Alan talks about his son wanting his respect it just seems like another way of his being misogynist. Dad should respect his religious choice to consider his mother unfit to be a rabbi because she's a woman, because as the man, Dad's the one who can withold respect. Mommy's just supposed to love him and care for him and get limited respect for that.

    I often deal with kosher foods due to my work. Those didn’t look like any packages of kosher candies I’ve seen. In order to be deemed kosher they have a symbol on them to show that’s what they are. I totally didn’t get that scene at all and I’ve actually often wondered about this show and how much they leave up to viewer interpretation with regards to the religious points. I work with reformed, modern orthodox and Orthodox Jews and regularly take part in learning about Judaism and I’ve had to ask my coworkers about some of the things I’ve seen on the show. I’ve often been wondering how the casual viewer is supposed to get the nuances of certain things.

    for example, the mom wasn’t a rabbi, she was a cantor which is different. And it wasn’t about the mom singing period but her singing in mixed company. Also the wife of Ezra doesn’t cover her hair so that was confusing. Idk I hope they explain the candy scene later.

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  10. On 12/2/2021 at 4:30 PM, ItsHelloPattiagain said:

    I kept thinking of Roy reading the book while Keeley was trying to work.  Imagine six weeks of that. 

    Other than when Roy was exclaiming out loud about the book I didn’t understand what the issue was with him reading in the same room as her.

  11. On 2/11/2022 at 3:57 PM, kwnyc said:

    Yes, but a therapist worth their salt would terminate the therapy, try to hand the patient off to another therapist, and see if there is anything outside the therapist/patient relationship. 

    No they wouldn’t. There are lengths of time (years long) a therapist would have to wait prior to being able to date a former client. Everyone got up in arms about Rebecca and Sam saying because she was his boss, which to me is only problematic based upon the people involved, but they’re ok with an actual therapist whose job it is to create a safe space so the client can be vulnerable dating a client? 
     

    I don’t care if Nate gets a redemption arc or not. I’d rather not have Ted be in a relationship by the end of the show, he’s still in love with his wife. Keeley and Roy are the only two I feel super strongly about how I want their story arc to go. Ted lasso has done a really good job of avoiding tropes so I’m going to trust they keep keeley and Roy together. In recent years it’s supposed to be this feel good tv message that a woman starts out kinda lost, finds herself, starts a business then because they’ve “grown too much” they can’t stay in their current healthy relationship. It’s dumb. A healthy relationship helps you grow, it doesn’t hold you down. A very recent example of this is Alexis and Ted in Schitts creek. I have to hope the writers will keep on subverting tropes and not break them up.

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