Seashell Lover
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I was at work today and saw the most perfect maternity tshirt for Jessa it had the words Nike Just Do It
I Did It !
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Why is it whenever I see SOS MISSION I think it means Save Our
Scam?
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Hi all I am still here but I got a job and I am very busy so I can not be here as much as I would like to. I have talking to the kids counselor I will not be adoptiing my soon to be 3 grandkids. It would be very confusing for them to have me go from granmom to mommy after what they have gone through. When the time comes I will be getting permanent guardianship and custody until all 3 grandkids are 18.
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Seems unusual that the county is making arrangements to have the child removed from it's parents before it's even born.
Keep in mind that I'm very cynical, but the county may be trying to shift and end it's current and ongoing responsibilities to the children onto you if they're trying to change the arrangement from wards of the state in foster/kinship care to adoption.
The county is being proactive with the baby. I do not know if she ever got shots or medical care for my 2 grandsons and she said she wanted to have the new baby in the wilderness so at least she is being forced to get medical care for this one.
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So... I'm not sure what kinds of thoughts you were asking for. Seems like your mind is made up. Or maybe there's more information you'd like to share. Are you receiving some state assistance as a foster parent now that you would likely lose if you adopt? That's a major consideration if so. Because babies are not inexpensive family members. Babies are a whole different commitment level (IMO) than the older boys. And if you don't choose to adopt, can you apply for "foster" assistance from the state? I know you were given custody, but is that as a family member or as a foster parent? Babies cry often, and often for no apparent reason, and often when everybody else wants to sleep. (And the boys will still have to be seen after in the mornings whether you've slept or not). Babies have to be cared or 24/7 - no school or anything for a break. And have to be taught everything from the ground up.
Although, like you, I tend to believe the siblings should be raised together. (On the flip side, the boys won't have memories of having a sibling if she's removed right away). For me, a grandchild is an extension of myself and my children. I wouldn't allow someone else to raise my grandchild if I could prevent it in any way. But that's ME, and the "right" answer for me may not be the right one for you at all.
I'm also curious how your daughter is dealing with all this? Do you continue to have some sort of relationship with her? Is she allowed visitation with the boys? How did you come to have custody in the first place? I know you said she was an extreme fundamental, but that usually leads to raised eyebrows, not child removal. Was she neglectful as well?
My daughter and SIL have no contact I got custody not only because of Fundie but they were abused physically mentally emotionally possible sex abuse and living off the grid.
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Seashell Lover, I thought you were already planning to keep the boys. Is that right? It seems like you're doing very well with them. So the question is whether to take the new baby also, or let it be placed out for adoption? Is SS insisting that the three siblings stay together, or do you have the option of adopting the boys and allowing the new baby to be placed elsewhere?
I am keeping the 2 boys and I have first choice if I want to adopt 2 or all 3. There is no way in hell I will not be adopting all 3. Also I got no husband I got rid of him 24 wonderful years ago.
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I think that whoever told you there would be no support from the state might have been trying to make their own life easier. If you're considering this, please get do some research on what resources you have available. I think it's more than they're telling you.
I know all the services I can choose to use but I do not want to due to the fact that if I used any for the money like tanf ie welfare the ss agency will be micromanaging my life and me and the kids do not need them in our life like that.
I'm not a lawyer, and I strongly suggest you consult one if you can, but assuming you are considered to be a fit parent, and if you are already the legal parent of the baby's siblings, it's likely that placing the baby with you will be the recommended option in a foster arrangement.
If the baby is made available for regular adoption, I don't know. Ring legal aid organizations, law schools etc for advice.
They have already told me I am first choice for the baby.
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Social Services know it's in the child's best interest to be placed with family, and it's the easiest option for them, also, I assume that's why they called you first. Do you want to take the child? Will Social Services support you financially?
Of course I want soon to be 3 grandkids and no once I adopt no support not that I am getting any now.
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Please help need advice. I just got off the phone with social services and they took custody of my unborn daughters baby. They said the kids will be terminated from their parents and I have first crack of adopting all 3. I am scared will it be the right thing to do at my age 3 yrs. away from 60? I know we will really have a lot of rough times but their will also be good times. So what do all my friends think I should do.
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a placenta tear or something. I had never heard of it, but it could have been dangerous. So God bless that new little family.
Do not read if squeamish I had the placenta tear away from my uterus with my 3rd child and I was bleeding out from it. I lost all my blood and as fast as they replaced the blood I lost what they replaced.
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I give her props for having 3 miscarriages and then a very difficult pregnancy. Her delivery was quick but painful. She had wanted an epidural "as soon as I walk in the hospital". She must have known she wasn't one of those natural all the way gals, so good for her! Unfortunately, baby Carson had other ideas and there was no time for the epidural. She also had something wrong with the actual delivery--a placenta tear or something. I had never heard of it, but it could have been dangerous. So God bless that new little family.
Bringing my reply to the Prayer Closet.
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Smuggar" deserves to face accountability for his actions. If he can't go to jail, he ought to be liable for what he did- perhaps the fifth victim will press forward with her lawsuit. The parents are just as, if not more, guilty for their role in covering it up, brushing it under the rug and then blowing it off like "No big deal" when the truth came out.
This comment was on the linked article this person has to be one of us as who else but us calls him Smuggar? :)
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How are they going to explain to us that he gave away a piece of his heart and now is damaged but because he is a Duggar giving away a piece of your heart doesn't count.
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The boys told me how the classrooms were set up. The different teachers they have. What classes they have on each day. Also they want to join the Boy Scouts and they have a Cub and Boy scout troop in the school so I know they will not get bullied from the other kids in the scouts so I am letting them join it. The school is extended day and school year. They go from 7:30-3:30 and the last day of school is June 10th. I think they will really enjoy the experience. The also have group counseling 1 hour a week.
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Well my boys just got home from their first day of school and they loved it. I have so much paperwork to sign. Some of the boys they went to the ranch with are in their classes. I can see why they needed the Ipad and laptop as the class size is 15 kids in each class and you work at your own pace so you never feel like you are holding the class back or being bored because you are ahead of the class. Which I feel is a great way to learn. Each class is made up by the type of abuse that someone did to you so a Fundie would never be in the same class as a physically abused person. They are doing their homework now so when we eat dinner they will tell me more and I will let all of you know.
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I might be the only person who finds this news story funny. Buckley RD closes because of buckling.
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The only way they would sell anything of theirs if they got double the retail price of the item because it had used by the Duggars on it.
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I've never eaten at Chik Fil A or whatever. Saw one for the first time ever a year ago. Just noticed there is one only a couple of miles from me but in a complex that is the very devil to get into and park. So I'll probably never even try. As good as people say it is, I've never had a chicken nugget, and that looks like what they mainly sell. Barf to chicken huggets, based on opinion only.
Go ahead somebody tell JB it was CatLick monks who laboriously wrote out copies of the bible pre-printing press, pre-literacy, in parchment days. Also camping out in front of stores must only be done for fun, because the deals to be had at opening are not great. You can get trampled to death at WalMart, shot at Kmart, battered and bruised at Macy's for half-off Christmas paper. No, it must be the fun in the line, party all night atmosphere.
I just got a picture in my brain of cats licking papers with their saliva and writing the bible :).
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Sew Sumi
We are sorry for your loss and will keep you and your family in our thoughts.
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Maybe she does not wants to be associated with Chester.
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My boys are mad at me because I did not know what shots they had if any we just got back from the DRs office and they got all the shots they needed from baby shots to adult shots. Now they are not talking to me.
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Oh what great memories you all have brought back. Does anyone else remember the history related movie series "You are there" narrated by Walter Cronkite? They would put you back in time for a certain event like the Revolutionary War. I wasn't into history much but enjoyed the movies. My husband found some in DVD form on line & surprised me at Christmas. One other thing I remember but don't know if it was just done in our area (near Baltimore). A reading program called SRA. You individually read little stories on cards & answered questions. You worked your way up thru different colors. We had SRA day once a week & loved it.
I went through all the SRA Colors in 1 month then again I was reading adult books when I was 6.
School House Rock! Conjunction junction what's your function ...
And After School Specials.
Thank you now I have Conjunction Junction What's your function stuck in my brain.
Better yet, who remembers Miss Frances and Ding Dong School? And Romper Room.
I was on Romper Room.
Who remembers Captain Kangaroo?
I do I do now I am going to bed and cry because I feel so old now :).
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That's so cute. My favorite part of going back to school was going shopping for new supplies. Give me a new packet of pencils and a new notebook and I'm a happy girl. I was a huge Lisa Frank groupie during my school years.
(You're exempt from this quiz, chocolateaddict, but I wager a great many will know these things.
The smell of chalk
First grade paste (not Elmers Glue)
The smell of mimeograph
Brown lunch sacks and a thermos
Teachers who whacked kids in the open palm with a ruler
Wearing galoshes to school (and snow suits!!!), parking the boots and hanging the wet snow suit on a peg in the front hall of the building
Going to sleep with bobby-pinned curls plastered to the head
May-Day poles
Dick and Jane
Big fat pencils and crayons (I never COULD use those!!)
Smoking allowed in the teacher's lounge
Female teachers wore dresses and the men wore ties
Referring to my second grade teacher as "Miss Kathy" on Sundays, "Miss Miller" on Mondays
Math homework from a real book, where the odd answers were listed in the back but the assignment was always even
Being sick enough to call your mother meant you'd better be bleeding profusely or puking
No such thing as ADD/ADHD
Book satchels
Metal lunch boxes
Knee socks
Saddle oxfords and Mary Janes
Bonanza on Sunday nights
"This is the house that Jack built"
Lastly, having a gigantic crush on Davy Jones. I'm positive he died a broken, lonely man because it just never worked out for us.
And of course, one of you geniuses will have to point out that you still use brown bags and a thermos. But YOU know what I mean.
I still love Lisa Frank and I remember most things on the list.
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Small Talk: The Prayer Closet
in Counting On
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I have missed all of you here is the latest. I was hit by a car in the parking lot at work been out of work but work and comp is paying me. The Same day my oldest got stung by a wasp and was in the hospital for a week. My youngest is at a 3rd grade level and they wanted to skip him and I said no. The oldest is at a 4th grade level this is what homefooling does to kids doesand he is being tutored and also goes to Saturday school for extra help. They also love Boy Scouts. The also enjoy school and all the activities they have there.