PhysNerd September 22, 2019 Share September 22, 2019 (edited) I don't think Blake or Caelynn are angels. However, I find it bizarre that Caelynn would trash Blake's reputation during Paradise on national TV and people found this acceptable. However, when he provided proof of their texts to show Caelynn wasn't telling the truth, then he was ripped apart for going too far. Wtf? Blake has every right to defend himself. I admit that I was on Caelynn's side until I saw those text messages between Blake and Caelynn. Caelynn is highly manipulative and immature. I sure hope Dean never breaks her heart. I wouldn't surprise me if she later says that Blake put duct tape on her mouth and forced her to live in a van with him. Smh... The thing that irks me the most is when Caelynn had told Blake before going to Paradise to not make a big deal out of anything. She tried to play it cool even though she had deeper feelings for Blake. She said she was "fine." Then Jordan points out that when a woman says she's "fine," she actually means the exact opposite. This is sadly true in general....at least among women in their early 20s. It's because of these immature women that men do not take "no" for an answer. Many men have been trained by such women to interpret "no" as "try harder." It becomes impossible for them to figure out whether to take their partner's words seriously or to assume that their partner actually means the exact opposite. This is what men mean when they say they don't understand women and why many in the younger generation (30s or younger) have given up on dating altogether. I have had guy friends that stopped when a woman said "no," and were then insulted by these women for not being "real men" (their "no" meant "try harder"). Not cool. Say what you mean, please. Men should be able to assume that every "no" means "no" instead of wondering whether it is a code word for something else. It causes men a lot of anxiety. Note: I'm talking about regular men, not actual rapists. I feel that if a man or woman cannot be upfront with how they feel or establish their boundaries, then they have zero business dating. It is not Blake's job to read Caelynn's mind. She is 24, not 16. If she says she is fine and she has zero romantic feelings regarding their fling, then he should be able to believe her. It is her job as an adult to advocate for herself. If she wanted a real relationship with Blake, then she should've said that from the start. Blake definitely made mistakes, but so did Caelynn. Putting all of the blame on Blake infantilizes Caelynn. Either she is a grown woman capable of making her own decisions or she is a little girl who needs to be protected from big mean men like Blake. She can't have it both ways. It's time to stop infantilizing grown women. Edited September 22, 2019 by PhysNerd 22 Link to comment
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