S03.E07: Love Is A Battlefield

[Drogo]

Tim & Jeniffer clash on day 1 in Colombia; Caesar heads to Mexico to meet Maria, and Darcey gets emotional in London.

Airs 8/25/19.

[Mrs. Hanson]

Okay, I watched in On Demand, and I won't spoil but to say Marcy gets emotional is to say water is wet.  She cries like all the damn time.

And I will say that if Phoenix Boy chooses ANYONE over that sweet sweet son of his, or dismisses his feelings, or is emotionally harming him in any way, I am flying to Phoenix and taking him as my foster son along with Daniel along (from Tiff and SA Felon.)

I will give Phoenix Boy one bit of credit - and this is not a spoiler - he is telling his sweet son Grayson he is flying to Nairobi to meet a "friend."  None of this "MEET YOUR NEW MOMMY!" stuff.

No spoiling, but we get yet ANOTHER American woman telling her Love Rat:  "No one is gonna tell me what to wear." 

Here is Darcy:

 

Edited August 19, 2019 by Mrs. Hanson

[Scout Finch]

Only $3,000 to open a shop in Tunisia? Azan should move there since it's apparently half the price than it is in Morocco. 

[RealReality]

59 minutes ago, Scout Finch said:

Only $3,000 to open a shop in Tunisia? Azan should move there since it's apparently half the price than it is in Morocco. 

The extra 3k obviously covers azans time and expertise.  

In other news, there was an entire football field of men hoping to meet an American woman....Nicole can have her pick of the litter!

[Scout Finch]

A sleeveless top is one thing and I would give Rebecca slightly more leeway if it were just that. However, as much as it pains me to agree with Oilcan Henry, the exposed tattoo sleeves make it way worse. I don't even like them over here!

I just KNOW she's going to take off her jacket as a "whatever, I do what I want!" move at some point in the next episode.

Edited August 21, 2019 by Scout Finch

[HappyDancex2]

Darcey is pathetic.  It's interesting how she is already recreating history of how they met.

Her drunk crying is grating.   It's a turn off not only to Tom but to most people.   She feels like a goddess but she acts like an insecure child.   It's like a teen who acts like she is an all powerful female who can conquer men but bursts into tears when she realizes she is ill equipped to handle the real world.

I can't 

[HappyDancex2]

2 hours ago, RealReality said:

The extra 3k obviously covers azans time and expertise.  

In other news, there was an entire football field of men hoping to meet an American woman....Nicole can have her pick of the litter!

I would do any of those friends before the greasy one.  And how do you blow dry hair such that it still remains greasy?  Why is he the only one who is out of shape?

That dude is a hard 26.  They actually don’t look age separated when together.

[RealReality]

19 minutes ago, HappyDancex2 said:

I would do any of those friends before the greasy one.  And how do you blow dry hair such that it still remains greasy?  Why is he the only one who is out of shape?

That dude is a hard 26.  They actually don’t look age separated when together.

Yeah, I wonder how regularly he is playing soccer because he trotted a few feet and needed a water break.  It seems like you'd have a little more....endurance at 26?

LOL, he is a hard 26 indeed.  I can't believe she is trying to take him back to the US....girl just get a keychain if you need a souvenir.  

He doesn't even appear to have a job or an education so he will he home all day smoking hookah in her house and dripping all over her couch like that scene from coming to america

[HappyDancex2]

7 hours ago, RealReality said:

Yeah, I wonder how regularly he is playing soccer because he trotted a few feet and needed a water break.  It seems like you'd have a little more....endurance at 26?

LOL, he is a hard 26 indeed.  I can't believe she is trying to take him back to the US....girl just get a keychain if you need a souvenir.  

He doesn't even appear to have a job or an education so he will he home all day smoking hookah in her house and dripping all over her couch like that scene from coming to america

Dies.

get a keychain indeed.  

[blubld43]

8 hours ago, RealReality said:

Yeah, I wonder how regularly he is playing soccer because he trotted a few feet and needed a water break.  It seems like you'd have a little more....endurance at 26?

LOL, he is a hard 26 indeed.  I can't believe she is trying to take him back to the US....girl just get a keychain if you need a souvenir.  

He doesn't even appear to have a job or an education so he will he home all day smoking hookah in her house and dripping all over her couch like that scene from coming to america

I would enjoy hearing some real world conversation, like how he expects to spend his time?  I'm foreseeing her "hiring" him to install those gps locators.

But I expect what we'll mostly get are continuing grunts: "I love you" "so beautiful".  I get that the language barrier is at work here, but he doesn't even seem especially interested in her.

[SevenCostanza]

12 hours ago, RealReality said:

In other news, there was an entire football field of men hoping to meet an American woman....Nicole can have her pick of the litter!

I thought the same thing.  That one guy sounded extra desperate I'm sure he could look past Nicole's big a little bit. He'd probably like her even more than 55%.

[Drogo]

[RealReality]

2 hours ago, blubld43 said:

I would enjoy hearing some real world conversation, like how he expects to spend his time?  I'm foreseeing her "hiring" him to install those gps locators.

But I expect what we'll mostly get are continuing grunts: "I love you" "so beautiful".  I get that the language barrier is at work here, but he doesn't even seem especially interested in her.

Zied is super creepy.  And I cannot understand what the two of them talked about besides how beautiful she was and how he wanted to possess her. 

I truly think she is mostly am object to him.  It's why he agreed to bring her to the soccer game but had to be forced to actually introduce her to his friends and let her talk to them.  

But I have a hard time feeling any pity for her because he doesn't seem to even try to hide his jealousy and possessiveness and he straight up said that he is controlling and jealous and possessive.  

She said she went through this with her ex, so she knows what she is getting into and she knew how he was before she got on a plane so she can miss me with her "well if he shows any signs of jealousy I'm gonna leave!". 

[Mrs. Hanson]

12 minutes ago, RealReality said:

Zied is super creepy.  And I cannot understand what the two of them talked about besides how beautiful she was and how he wanted to possess her. 

I truly think she is mostly am object to him.  It's why he agreed to bring her to the soccer game but had to be forced to actually introduce her to his friends and let her talk to them.  

But I have a hard time feeling any pity for her because he doesn't seem to even try to hide his jealousy and possessiveness and he straight up said that he is controlling and jealous and possessive.  

She said she went through this with her ex, so she knows what she is getting into and she knew how he was before she got on a plane so she can miss me with her "well if he shows any signs of jealousy I'm gonna leave!". 

I agree so much with this whole post.  It is, to me, one thing when a guy introduces you to his folks.  It is a whole different ball of wax with his friends - that is a biggie.  For him to show up with her at a soccer field, then drop her off at the sidelines while he jogged around, got chest pumped and all happy while she stood there.....it was kinda sad.  But then any sadness for her is dismissed by she CHOSE every step of this, willingly pushed it and is actively lying to him by not telling him not oops I may not have as much money as you think or oops my house is not that big but OOPS I AM STILL MARRIED.

The bolding part is especially huge as, to me, Rebecca is emotionally 15 and like a lot of 15 years old girls seem to equate jealousy with caring.  It is not, it is insecurity and mistrust.  We know that but does Rebecca?  Maybe I (and so many on these forums) are just up to here with "If this is gonna happen, I am GONE" and then they stay and defend him!!!  What the holy hell?

Whoever upthread said he looked at her with the eyes of a cold dark killer was SPOT ON.

Edited August 21, 2019 by Mrs. Hanson

[Kroliosis]

I can't w Rebecca.   She speaks to him like a child - "are you going to introduce me to your friends?", "put on your shoes, go put on your shoes, we are leaving put on your shoes".  And the dismissive tone when he is telling her her shirt is not ok - "yes it is fine, my shirt is fine, it will be ok".  How do you know Rebecca?  You have proven you know nothing about the culture, so maybe listen to your boy toy that your shirt IS. NOT. OK.

Lady, if you didn't learn from your 20 year old, imported CURRENT husband, you aren't going to do shit when this guy turns into a complete turd.  Stop pretending you are a badass.  You aren't.

[Baltimore Betty]

9 minutes ago, RealReality said:

Zied is super creepy.  And I cannot understand what the two of them talked about besides how beautiful she was and how he wanted to possess her. 

I truly think she is mostly am object to him.  It's why he agreed to bring her to the soccer game but had to be forced to actually introduce her to his friends and let her talk to them.  

But I have a hard time feeling any pity for her because he doesn't seem to even try to hide his jealousy and possessiveness and he straight up said that he is controlling and jealous and possessive.  

She said she went through this with her ex, so she knows what she is getting into and she knew how he was before she got on a plane so she can miss me with her "well if he shows any signs of jealousy I'm gonna leave!". 

I say this about all of the couples, they talk only of the "I can't believe you/I am here," "You look amazing," "Isn't it great you/I are here," on a continuous loop. No real conversations about finances, living arrangements, day to day life, what the visa process will be like, nothing important.  Few people actually prepare for the culture or language to where ever they are going.

It is alarming how all of these people are struggling financially yet send thousands to their "soul mate," buy airline tickets, gifts, etc...rarely have a pot to piss in but somehow the "soul mate," think they are wealthy.   All we hear about is how bad their finances are and what if they have to pay the bride price or buy a water buffalo or two and they have not paid the rent on their hovel.

There has to be some sort of psychological study done on these people, what makes them tick?  There has to be a name for this syndrome, it would be a syndrome and not a disease, right?

[Drogo]

1 minute ago, Baltimore Betty said:

There has to be some sort of psychological study done on these people, what makes them tick?  There has to be a name for this syndrome, it would be a syndrome and not a disease, right?

It's called Stupid-itis.

[JennyMominFL]

Wow, darcey is just an absolute disaster. I cant believe how she is behaving. I stand by my belief that he will end up being the one who is unhappy and calls it off

[Baltimore Betty]

1 hour ago, JennyMominFL said:

Wow, darcey is just an absolute disaster. I cant believe how she is behaving. I stand by my belief that he will end up being the one who is unhappy and calls it off

I think she thinks if she cries and looks pitiful then the guy will hug her and do whatever it takes to make her stop being sad and it seems it is the only way Tom and the others will touch her.  She see's herself as a damsel in distress and hopes that whatever guy will want to be the knight on the white horse and save Delicate Darcy.

After Darcy's crying jag Tom probably wanted to go out for a pack of cigarettes never to return.

Darcy is so unaware of herself.  Different guy, same old song.

[Burning Rubber]

4 hours ago, Baltimore Betty said:

There has to be some sort of psychological study done on these people, what makes them tick?  There has to be a name for this syndrome, it would be a syndrome and not a disease, right?

Indeed  there is   It's called erotomania.

[Burning Rubber]

It is not without a tinge of embarrassment that I reckon with the fact that Jesse was completely right about Darcey all along. 

Who else wants to catch a  ride on this chariot of shame?

[Baltimore Betty]

18 minutes ago, Burning Rubber said:

Indeed  there is   It's called erotomania.

Aha! I knew there was a name for this syndrome...I googled it, thanks for education!

· Erotomania is a rare mental health condition that happens when someone is fixated on the idea that another person is intensely in love with them.

This describes Darcy for sure.

[jumper sage]

4 hours ago, JennyMominFL said:

Wow, darcey is just an absolute disaster. I cant believe how she is behaving. I stand by my belief that he will end up being the one who is unhappy and calls it off

Of course he will! She will spin it like it was her decision, see Swedish guy.  She needs some serious help.

[Mrs. Hanson]

2 hours ago, jumper sage said:

Of course he will! She will spin it like it was her decision, see Swedish guy.  She needs some serious help.

She really does need serious help, like serious therapy help.  She needs to ask herself some VERY hard questions that she may not like the answer to but really,.....this will not be funny in 20 years.

[Spike]

20 hours ago, RealReality said:

Yeah, I wonder how regularly he is playing soccer because he trotted a few feet and needed a water break.  It seems like you'd have a little more....endurance at 26?

LOL, he is a hard 26 indeed.  I can't believe she is trying to take him back to the US....girl just get a keychain if you need a souvenir.  

He doesn't even appear to have a job or an education so he will he home all day smoking hookah in her house and dripping all over her couch like that scene from coming to america

In the car in the beginning of the episode he seemed stoned or developmentally delayed.  Or both.

[HappyDancex2]

Normally I'm all for women empowerment but it seems like Rebecca is just transferring all of the things that went wrong with her first marriage onto Greasy One.

She must not have much experience with the world other than shopping for men on swipe apps because much of the world is quite conservative in terms of clothing and gender roles.   Americans may consider it backwards but having traveled a lot as a tourist there are many countries where it's just considered normal for women to be covered up.   Hell "people" to be covered up.   Dressed up even.   

Not just not showing skin but news alert, many countries find leggings and athletic tops deemed "athleisure" here in the Americas to be sloppy workout wear at best, overly revealing unacceptable in public wear at worst.

Yes her tank top or tank dress is NBD in America but it's a problem there.   This has nothing to do with women.   This is a culture thing.   And in some cultures the "nail that stands out gets pounded down."   Yes it's a thing.  If you don't like the culture, believe in it or want to assimilate then please don't go there and make your man/woman have to suffer the consequences of trying to shield you.

Have some class and an open mind.   Everywhere is not America, nor should it be.

[Spike]

I don’t think Rebecca would look good in that top here lol.

[RealReality]

17 minutes ago, Spike said:

I don’t think Rebecca would look good in that top here lol.

I agree!

Like maybe you take a stand if you're looking fly, but that top was lowcut and made her boobs look all kinds of wonky.

That look was not the hill to die on.  

[HappyDancex2]

2 minutes ago, RealReality said:

I agree!

Like maybe you take a stand if you're looking fly, but that top was lowcut and made her boobs look all kinds of wonky.

That look was not the hill to die on.  

Total wonk boob.  

She's already tatted in a country where women aren't tatted.   Aren't these a lot of hills that she's trying to die on?!   

Not even sure why any of these women think women in other countries need emancipated.   Maybe they like being that way.   Why is Naked American the gold standard?

[RealReality]

2 minutes ago, HappyDancex2 said:

Total wonk boob.  

She's already tatted in a country where women aren't tatted.   Aren't these a lot of hills that she's trying to die on?!   

Not even sure why any of these women think women in other countries need emancipated.   Maybe they like being that way.   Why is Naked American the gold standard?

I think there are gender equality issues in some countries (and ours!) 

But they are deeper than giving out firm handshakes and showing all the boobs and tatts you can.  These women acting like doing whatever the hell they please makes them a modern day Susan b. Anthony is ridiculous and minimizes the real issues and belittles real struggles.  

[HappyDancex2]

Just now, RealReality said:

I think there are gender equality issues in some countries (and ours!) 

But they are deeper than giving out firm handshakes and showing all the boobs and tatts you can.  These women acting like doing whatever the hell they please makes them a modern day Susan b. Anthony is ridiculous and minimizes the real issues and belittles real struggles.  

LOL I was going to exactly write this!   Well I was going to use Rosa Parks but I didn't want to minimize her contributions but that's what I think these women think they are doing.  

[Spike]

Women aren’t paid equally to men in the U.S.  Fight your local battles first.

[BoomerRumor]

On 8/19/2019 at 2:44 PM, Mrs. Hanson said:

Marcy gets emotional is to say water is wet.  She cries like all the damn time.

Who is Marcy?

[HappyDancex2]

6 minutes ago, Spike said:

Women aren’t paid equally to men in the U.S.  Fight your local battles first.

How much for one of ya'aigggs?   I can tote it.

[Spike]

Just now, BoomerRumor said:

Who is Marcy?

Darcy

[RealReality]

3 minutes ago, BoomerRumor said:

Who is Marcy?

I think Mrs Hanson meant Darcy, but sometimes my autotext wants to call her other names too.

ETA: scooped.

Edited August 22, 2019 by RealReality

[vimsa3]

On 8/21/2019 at 4:10 AM, RealReality said:

The extra 3k obviously covers azans time and expertise.  

In other news, there was an entire football field of men hoping to meet an American woman....Nicole can have her pick of the litter!

Not to mention that every single one of those men looked 100 x better then Zeid 

[Mothra]

17 hours ago, Burning Rubber said:

It is not without a tinge of embarrassment that I reckon with the fact that Jesse was completely right about Darcey all along. 

Who else wants to catch a  ride on this chariot of shame?

Sort of "the enemy of my enemy is my friend," I guess.  You're right, though; he had her pegged, right down to the incipient/full-blown/who knows alcoholism.  But on the other hand, he fucked her, apparently happily and often, so what does that say about him?  I guess it makes him as much of a whore as she is--which is news to nobody.

[Mothra]

10 hours ago, Spike said:

Women aren’t paid equally to men in the U.S.  Fight your local battles first.

And don't act like you're the voice of liberation in countries where native-born women have sacrificed their fucking lives for issues that matter *in that country.*

Like honor killings.

10 hours ago, Spike said:

Darcy

I did make myself a cheat sheet, but I refuse to differentiate Darcy/Stacy/Marcy/Starsky and Hutchsky.  Good for Mrs. Hanson--give the woman some more wine.

[RealReality]

1 hour ago, Mothra said:

Sort of "the enemy of my enemy is my friend," I guess.  You're right, though; he had her pegged, right down to the incipient/full-blown/who knows alcoholism.  But on the other hand, he fucked her, apparently happily and often, so what does that say about him?  I guess it makes him as much of a whore as she is--which is news to nobody.

The sex must have been amazing to risk passing out in a stink cloud of angel.  Maybe the inherent risk of death made the jiggy hotter?

[libgirl2]

12 hours ago, RealReality said:

I agree!

Like maybe you take a stand if you're looking fly, but that top was lowcut and made her boobs look all kinds of wonky.

That look was not the hill to die on.  

My gosh yes! Did she not check the mirror and realize this isn't a good look? Sometimes showing a bunch of skin is not the way to look sexy. 

[Mothra]

59 minutes ago, RealReality said:

The sex must have been amazing to risk passing out in a stink cloud of angel.  Maybe the inherent risk of death made the jiggy hotter?

Not *auto* erotic asphyxia, but some kind of erotic asphyxia for sure.

Good call.  It would explain a lot, wouldn't it?

[RealReality]

9 minutes ago, Mothra said:

Not *auto* erotic asphyxia, but some kind of erotic asphyxia for sure.

Good call.  It would explain a lot, wouldn't it?

LOL, Jesse seems like the sort of guy who'd be into pushing the envelope.  I bet he has had some sort of furry interaction.  Not full sex....but close enough for an episode of CSI.

[Spike]

1 hour ago, RealReality said:

LOL, Jesse seems like the sort of guy who'd be into pushing the envelope.  I bet he has had some sort of furry interaction.  Not full sex....but close enough for an episode of CSI.

With Darcy being so loud, emotional, and dramatic I would hate to be the neighbors when she engages in coitus.

[Mrs. Hanson]

14 hours ago, RealReality said:

I think Mrs Hanson meant Darcy, but sometimes my autotext wants to call her other names too.

ETA: scooped.

Yes Mrs Hanson was a little quick on the draw and said Marcy when she knew FULL WELL that Cryer McCryer is, indeed, Darcy.

1 minute ago, Spike said:

With Darcy being so loud, emotional, and dramatic I would hate to be the neighbors when she engages in coitus.

It is official - no more reading this thread at work!

[blubld43]

2 hours ago, libgirl2 said:

My gosh yes! Did she not check the mirror and realize this isn't a good look? Sometimes showing a bunch of skin is not the way to look sexy. 

Don't these women realize that it is possible to look wonderful, with most of your skin covered? The beautiful fabrics available, the patterns, it makes me crazy to see these idiots wholeheartedly reject any change to their preferred look. 

Sheikha Mozha is an international fashion icon, and she is always covered. 

[KateHearts]

On 8/21/2019 at 2:05 PM, JennyMominFL said:

Wow, darcey is just an absolute disaster. I cant believe how she is behaving. I stand by my belief that he will end up being the one who is unhappy and calls it off

that's an easy one to predict because: a) Darcy is a class-A clinger and doesn't realize that a bad relationship is NOT better than no relationship at all; and b) Tom has already basically told us that he doesn't like needy, weepy women. He seems a little flummoxed at this point and we've only seen a few hours into her visit.

[lh25]

25 minutes ago, KateHearts said:

Tom has already basically told us that he doesn't like needy, weepy women. He seems a little flummoxed at this point and we've only seen a few hours into her visit.

Yep.  Like the "I don't find that attractive" line.  I don't think any amount of on-line communication could prepare one for Darcy in person.  

[Spike]

5 minutes ago, lh25 said:

Yep.  Like the "I don't find that attractive" line.  I don't think any amount of on-line communication could prepare one for Darcy in person.  

She is fun and flirty online, then a needy basket case in person.  Personality catfishing.

[JennyMominFL]

1 hour ago, blubld43 said:

Don't these women realize that it is possible to look wonderful, with most of your skin covered? The beautiful fabrics available, the patterns, it makes me crazy to see these idiots wholeheartedly reject any change to their preferred look. 

Sheikha Mozha is an international fashion icon, and she is always covered. 

I get it. I get what Darcy is going for. I am 49 and in good shape and I want to look my best. Its hard to find that line. I don't want to dress like i'm in my 20’s like Darcey does but I also will not dress “old”. I thought my mother dressed so old at my age and it seems like my generation dresses younger than hers does.

There is a middle ground and dressing too young for your age just accentuates how old you really are. Darcey’s look is actually aging her and she doesn't  realize that.