TheRealT March 20, 2019 Share March 20, 2019 5 minutes ago, Rebecca said: The whole “rescue from the Linds” thing was a bit much. I understand that it’s still not following the agreement so they were justified in leaving to get her immediately. I don’t think it should have been Cole alone who went to pick her up and (supposedly) said all of those things to Donna. There was no need for the swearing and dramatics. Just leave, pick her up and then contact your attorney or whoever, explain and show them the message. I agree the Linds don’t seem to understand that their son sucks compete ass in all ways, especially as a father so just contact the proper people and do what you need to do officially without all the theatrics, especially from Cole who seems to be enjoying his “perfect guy” role a bit too much. Yeah, Chelsea, your MOM is the only one pushing the adoption things. Sure, Jan. You ALL need to stfu about it. Aubree may NEVER want to be adopted. Imagine that. Yeah. I'm torn because I think the whole, "OMG, Adam can never be in Aubree's presence outside the visitation center!" thing is a bit melodramatic, but I also understand how it's important to maintain strong boundaries with Adam to protect Aubree. For me, part of it is that Chelsea and Cole seem to enjoy (mostly) excluding Adam from Aubree's life so much. They're certainly not obligated to do so, but they could (for example) agree to let Adam attend Lind family gatherings with Aubree if Chelsea/Cole/another family member could be present as well. Again, they're totally not obligated to do so, but it would be a nice way to compromise and allow Adam to have contact with Aubree in a safe environment, possibly an environment that would be healthier/happier for Aubree than the visitation center. I totally get them being concerned about the Linds allowing Adam to drive Aubree (or whatever), but if safeguards were in place to prevent anything like that, it's probably healthy for Aubree to see Adam within the context of a family gathering (where he's less likely to be high/behaving inappropriately, etc.). I don't think they should consider something like that to be nice/fair to Adam/the Linds, but to give Aubree the best opportunity to have positive, healthy time with her dad/be part of family gatherings including her dad. If the worst happens, it will be good for Aubree to have happy memories of playing ping pong or eating Grandma Donna's famous fried chicken with her dad rather than just remembering him standing her up at the visitation center. And, though Adam is clearly a piece of shit and a lousy father, he is also clearly a fucked up person with significant emotional issues. Maybe he is too overcome with shame/guilt/anger/etc. to complete visits at the visitation center. Yes, that's his problem and yes, that makes him a lousy dad, but, I don't think even Adam is claiming that he's not fucked up. If he's more comfortable visiting with Aubree at his parents' house, that's something that deserves some consideration (ideally, though C&C don't have to be "ideal"). 11 Link to comment
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