Popular Post BeatrixK March 20, 2017 Popular Post Share March 20, 2017 25 minutes ago, Lana X said: I dont understand how amabella keeps having issues with a classmates like biting and nobody else sees it. that is baffling to me! THANK YOU! This seems like the most obvious WTF? portion -- you have a kid who the school, parents, and administrators all seem to agree she's been the target of bullying.....but allow her enough 'unsupervised' time that she can get bitten -- hard enough to break the skin?!?!? It seems like that kid should have a shadow in the shape of the teacher following her at all times -- if nothing more than to protect the school's butt for liability issues down the road. As for Kidman -- BRAVO, GIRRLLLLL....BRAVO. her portrayal of an abuse victim is far more on point. I am getting to a year out of an abusive relationship (mine was mental and emotional -- different but equal in terms of long-lasting damage.) -- and I can tell you the denial, the inexplicable refusal to recognize it, let alone call it what it is, is frighteningly real. I am a college educated, IT-career industry 20+ year professional....and I think of the idiotic things I put up with that slowly, incrementally tore at me...and the ways I would defend his indefensible behavior. It's a HUGE hill to climb to admit to yourself what is happening to you, because it does feel like 'I'm too smart to allow this to happen, so.'...yet each time, you find a way to rationalize it to yourself by saying it's how YOU are misinterpreting it, how YOU egged it on...a skilled abuser knows how to make you turn it on yourself. Kidman is playing a woman who was an accomplished attorney, has a pretty outwardly-appearing perfect life -- you think the stuff that happens to abuse victims happens in trailer parks and on COPS -- not in your lovely home with your upper-middle class spectrum folks....you are the only one who 'understands' the stress behind your 'troubled' spouse, and that he 'doesn't mean it -- not like those drunks in trailers do when they abuse their wives.' The rationalizations you will come to in order to avoid confronting that leaving your abuser is terrifying on multiple fronts are truly mind-blowing, and she is just handling that maze of emotional with Streep-level skill. Kidman is doing an absolute MASTERFUL job portraying the realities of what the self-denial and the mounting evidence against what you're denying to yourself and how those force things to the surface, no matter how hard you try to push them down and pretend all is normal in domestic hell. 55 Link to comment
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