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Have a goal you're trying to reach? Want some extra eyes on things to "keep you honest?" Or maybe you finally reached that goal/finished that project/did that thing and would like to take a victory lap, complete with requisite applause? 

Post here. 

The rules are simple: support. No criticism. And you can opt out at any time. With no shame! Want to go back to your dodgy kitten juggling ways? We'll keep our mitts off the keyboard and schtum. Promise, or heads will be thumped.

While I can't guarantee that if you want to become the world's most accomplished kitten juggler that you'll get a whole lot of support, at least there's no abuse here. (If you're looking for harsh truths, they can (sometimes) be found in the advice thread, especially if you're being a noodle... ;-)) This is for "atta-person's," "go you's," "keep trying's" and "next time for sure's!"

Have at it!

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Example (and totally true story, by the by): So I had a root canal. As (my) luck would have it, the drill bit broke off in my tooth, and they were unable to finish the procedure without excavating it. That was as unpleasant as it sounds. (Fear not, it apparently can't happen to you. I'm just special that way... Oh, lucky me. :-() It took four sittings and over six hours. (And we're still not completely finished, because I gather now it needs a crown. sigh.) After the third sitting, things became aggravated, and I ended up postponing my fourth appointment, until my cheek stopped throbbing and I looked less like a mad hamster. (Not a good look.)

Several years ago, I was diagnosed with trigeminal neuralgia, which is one of the more painful and simultaneously useless things imaginable. Basically, a blood vessel loops around a nerve in my face, and occasionally my pulse gets interpreted as pain signals. (So you're in pain, but you're not even hurt, which I think is fairly stupid as dysfunctions go. Faulty wiring. Seriously.) As a result, when things go wrong toothwise, they can go incredibly wrong very quickly, and the last time it did, it literally cost me a month. It took pretty much all my courage to drag myself back to the dentist's last week for the fourth appointment. I couldn't sleep the night before. But I went, and it's preliminarily sorted. And I'm rather proud of myself, and a bit surprised I made it, tbh. 

So: biscuit for Mimi! *nom* Go me! (Mi?)

Who's next?

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Oh my god. Drill bit broken off in your tooth combined with rare painful nerve condition, and you still have to go back. That's a hell of a combination of physical pain and emotional dread to deal with for a month. 

You should be proud of yourself; that required a lot of strength, and being strong sucks. 

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As I posted in the relationship thread earlier in the week, I was faced w/ both serious car troubles and an unexpectedly nasty breakup. I'm just now coming down from the adrenaline rush that anger gives you, and I'm starting to feel really sad and just run down. My car was deemed a Total Loss from an accident that occurred on Monday, and my insurance company is giving me only 1 week coverage for the rental car. Luckily, my father is willing to assist me in purchasing a new (used) vehicle. So with all the crap that happened in just 6 days, I am glad to just be alive.  Its Day 4 w/no contact from my now-ex and I'm just proud of myself for being able to stay strong and professional around him (we work at the same place) and not give in to any emotions I might be feeling.

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The trigeminal nerve is a ridiculous nerve anatomically.  Want proof of our evolutionary history - follow the path of that stupid nerve.  

I hate, hate, hate the dentist.  Good job going back after all of that!  You're much braver than I am.  I had my maxillary wisdom tooth out last year because my entire face was just a ball of pain.  They ended up having to do general anesthetic and a bone graft because of where the stupid tooth migrated.  But, if I hadn't been in as much pain as I was, I never would've gone the dentist.  It actually ended up being not too bad actually, but I suck at dealing with mouth pain.  I can't imagine having that kind of pain all the time. I deal with chronic hip pain, and that's no big deal, but above the neck - forget it.  

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@JTMacc99, re: being strong sucks - I've long since decided "that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger" is mostly rubbish. I think it's more like "that which doesn't kill us, doesn't kill us, which at least is a decent start." Cynical optimism for the win! ;-) (And I take my wins where I can get them.) 

Thanks, @janestclair, it's not an exaggeration to say I was terrified. There's something about putting your own neck in the noose that somehow makes it worse. I'm lucky though, because it rarely happens, and usually given a trigger. Unfortunately, like dental work. *sigh* 

Have you ever tried a TENS for the hip pain? I managed to get run over, and have had decent luck with a TENS for my back and thoroughly unhappy hip. I prefer that to chemicals, and it was cheaper than the co-pay for the medication to boot. (Not sure what it says about me that I'm talking about nooses and advocating "electrocution"... Probably overdid the DIY today.)

@AgentRXS, I'm very relieved to hear you're sticking to your guns. I think the things you've written here (beyond also providing you with a log if you need to refer to it for whatever practical reasons) can also serve to firm your resolve. His behavior was beyond appalling. You deserve better. And it will happen when you demand it. Maybe not overnight, but in time for sure.

I think when we undersell ourselves, whether in jobs or relationships, somebody is always happy to give us "less" if we're willing to settle. The first step to getting "more" is frequently demanding just that.

Speaking of demanding more, insurance companies expect you to teleport after the first week, don'chaknow? Why can't they do the right thing once in a while?

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So...  Anybody ever do that thing where you get really upset because something shitty happened to somebody you care about, and then you tell them that you are sorry the shitty thing happened, only to discover that you are also delivering the news that the shitty thing happened?

It is a below average feeling. 

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Yep. I gave my condolences to my co-worker because I'd read her sister's obituary in the paper (wouldn't have known it was her sister if she hadn't been listed as one of the survivors). And the co-worker hadn't known her sister had died! Apparently, they'd had a falling-out and were not in communication. She'd known her sister was sick but nobody in the family told her when she'd passed away. I apologized about a million times.

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Oh my god @Babalu, yes.

And what sucks is that somehow doing this makes us feel like the bad news was our fault. In my case, if I had just not crossed paths with the person, an hour later my condolences would have been appropriate. 

Sigh. 

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Yes, it was awful.

Also, in case you're wondering why I read obituaries, because that's kind of a ghoulish thing to do - it's because I live in Hawai'i, and I love the richness of the names here. I kind of love names, anyway, but here especially there's such a diversity of Hawai'ian, Japanese, Chinese, Samoan, Micronesian, etc., and it just fascinates me.

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When I was saving up to buy my house, I did call out research to earn a little money.  The night I called someone whose husband informed me that she had recently died will haunt me forever.

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So here is a thought:

The things that make you you, your heart, your nature, your kindness, they make your friendship invaluable. 

Don't ever let somebody put conditions on your friendship. They either get it all, or they get none of it. 

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Just discovered this page....and saw krimimimi's description of her tooth agony and trigeminal neuralgia.  Wow, somebody else who has this too!  I had never heard of it before I was diagnosed.  I had spent months going to all kinds of specialists with the pain in my head, it felt like someone was pounding a nail into my left temple and my left ear drum felt like it was going to burst...I saw an ENT for my ear, a neurologist for my head, had MRI's done, they thought I had a tumor, etc etc,  Nobody could come up with a diagnosis for what was wrong with me,  meanwhile I was in agony.  Then I ended up in the ER with Kidney stones!  OMG...I was curled up in a ball on the floor crying in pain, my husband took me to the ER....so while they are trying to help me with the pain of the Kidney stones, I tell the ER Doctor about the pain in my head(which at this point was causing me to vomit all day), and the Doctor said "sounds like you have Trigeminal Neuralgia"....I'm like "What's that"?!   So went back to my Family doctor when I got home and had surgery to remove kidney stones,  she prescribed Lyrica for me and that took away the pain in my head...Thank goodness.   All this happened last fall, wow, I was so weak after all my issues, but so glad to feel better now.  But, I was interested to find out that somebody else knows what it is like to suffer from Trigeminal Neuralgia.  Thanks for letting me share

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