moonb April 17, 2016 Share April 17, 2016 Richard's character summary in the Gilmore Girls wiki got me thinking about his relationship with Lorelai, secondary though it is to hers with Emily. I think the description of him as "somewhat close" to Lorelai is a little simplified, although he grows to admire her and by the series finale they're on friendly terms. However, I also think their relationship is perhaps the more brutal of Lorelai's with her parents. There's a lot of argument that Richard doesn't love Lorelai quite like he does Rory, and maybe that's true: Richard and Rory connect really easily because of similar literary tastes, academic and travel interests, and being introverted only children of devoted mothers they're very close to. Lorelai and Richard, on the other hand, don't appear to have anything in common or any ability to connect with each other, and yes, sometimes don't like each other very much. Emily and Lorelai, for all their vicious fights, use their words a lot to tear into each other, and though they go about it in really different ways, a lot of their lives are dedicated to events, hospitality, charity and socializing. To Richard, most of Lorelai's life since her pregnancy must seem like a huge rejection of himself and everything he values, and to her, Richard is ashamed of her, dislikes her, and so she tries her hardest not to be around him too much. Imo, that's always underneath their worst scorched-earth moments together - their arguments in season 1's Christopher Returns, in season 2's Richard in Stars Hollow, season 3's Let the Games Begin, and season 4's Afterboom, where he says of course he expected Lorelai not to care about her family, making it seem like he's preemptively decided not let her hurt them again. And vice versa, since she quits Friday night dinners but always goes back to them. And the shows hints a couple times that Lorelai's childhood relationship with Richard was pretty distant too, since he was a typical father of his generation who would have left Lorelai-related issues to Emily, or to nannies. Though they did have their moments of growth and bonding over Lorelai's business talents and dealing with college-era Rory in later seasons. I'm curious to see how Richard's death and/or funeral will affect Lorelai in particular in the revival. Losing a parent you have a complicated history with is as difficult as losing one you're very close to. 3 Link to comment
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