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I take the signs as a way of explaining why they might be driving more slowly? I don't have one, but they don't bother me. I've never had any sort of bumper sticker. The ones that aggravate me are the ones that are vulgar or express an extreme opinion. It's not that I don't think they have a right to their opinion, but I generally stereotype them as someone who might have road rage. Is that fair? No. But, I try to avoid conflicts with other drivers, so I give them a wide berth. I do think this because I personally think there's a time and place for strong opinions. A bumper sticker is so visible to everyone...why have vulgar or shocking language?

Studies have shown that people who put stickers and signs on the back s of their cars are much more likely to have a road rage episode, so you're not being unfair at all. The psychologists think that it has to do with being territorial about the vehicle.

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The original point of the Baby on Board sign was to alert emergency personnel, in the event of an accident, to look for a kid in the car.

I've seen this claim before but can find no evidence that it's true and Snopes says it isn't. Do you have a source for it? 

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Yeah, I've always assumed the point of those signs was, from jump, simply to be an obnoxious twit, saying, "I'm carrying precious cargo, so don't run into me, cut me off, or otherwise do anything that might endanger The Baby."  (Or, possibly, "Excuse my obnoxious driving, but I'm a helicopter parent who must keep my eyes on my baby in the rearview mirror at all times rather than watch the road, so, sorry for making you swerve or slam on your brakes, but, I reproduced and thus have special privileges.")   Um, how about I drive safely because you're another human being using this road and that's my responsibility?  Even though I like cats approximately 8,793 times more than I like babies, a "Cat on Board" sign would annoy me just as much. 

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and fabric sheet I only use with items that have cat hair, also there are stain removers.

 

What is it? Does it get the cat hair off? (Not that I can use it if it has a scent because it would probably irritate my son's incredibly sensitive skin. We don't use stuff with a scent anymore.)

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I like babies more than most adults. They might be loud, but they have so much potential at that point, and they aren't mean inside. They scare me way less. I'd always be excited if a friend or relative had a new baby. Though, no, I wouldn't want to suddenly take care of someone else's child for days on in. But, yeah, I like baby humans and baby animals. Baby humans are much needier than lots of baby animals, but that's how the world works. There's nothing to be done unless everyone just had an abortion and ended the world. I'm not, personally, going to do that.

I hold adults being mean, selfish, dangerous, rude, etc to them way more than a baby screaming his head off and pooping.

Sure, drivers should be safe around everyone- but the reality is they don't. I don't begrudge someone having a baby on board sticker. I understand an eye roll maybe but nothing more, personally. But, I do believe it would be nice and great if people are a little more aware around a baby or child.

It's like people in public who notice a child but still curse and talk about adult things. Yes, I'd think it would be great if they didn't anywhere in public. Yes, I know they have the right to say what they want, generally. But, I still think it's rude.

I think the same thing about treating elderly people in a kind manner and giving up a seat on a bus if someone looks like they need it more than I do. It's just polite. No one has to, usually. But, it's just decent behavior, in my opinion. I know a lot of people disagree. There's tons of articles about a person who thinks they have just as much right to sit down as anyone else or say anything. I just don't like it.

To me, hating the baby on board sign would be like hating the signs on buses that say to please give up a seat to those with an obvious physical disability. I might agree to do it or not disagree to do it, but I don't hate the signs.

Not trying to attack anyones point of view. I get annoyed by all kinds of things! I'm just saying that I don't understand it IF it goes beyong an eye roll to an actual anger or hatred.

I think the signs could also be there in the hope that a reckless driver would care. Even if it's a long shot. I don't like ascribing intentions to people. Now, the sign might tell you that that you think they might swerve or slow down suddenly. If that's what the sign means to you, if be glad to see the sign! Give them that wide berth, like I do the offensive stickers. Hey, it's a quicker, immediate way of letting you know- don't be close by me! I don't drive well or politely!

And, I don't doubt there are people who really and truly dislike babies. It's just hard for me to understand having a best friend or sister having a baby, going to visit...and actually sitting there, looking at the baby and thinking- I don't like you. I don't like you at all. I get thinking, "you make me uncomfortable and your yelling is annoying!"

My two cents..or 500.

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What is it? Does it get the cat hair off? (Not that I can use it if it has a scent because it would probably irritate my son's incredibly sensitive skin. We don't use stuff with a scent anymore.)

Yes, it does help to get the cat hair out of my throws. I saw it in a Good Housekeeping article and I asked my vet. I have heard it is often the fragrance of the products that people are allergic to.  It works pretty good. I sympathize with your son, because it seems like everything is scented.

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Sure, drivers should be safe around everyone- but the reality is they don't. I don't begrudge someone having a baby on board sticker. I understand an eye roll maybe but nothing more, personally. But, I do believe it would be nice and great if people are a little more aware around a baby or child.

Even discounting the possible arrogance of it, the reason I think the notion of putting a sign on your car in order to get people to be extra careful around you is because nobody is intentionally going to hit another car. Even the drivers who are reckless aren't going around thinking, "Gee, I hope I hit a car today!" Those drivers are behaving that way because they think they can do so and have no consequences. So putting a sign on that basically amounts to, "Don't hit my car. It is extra important because there's a baby inside," even if a person is willing to accept that it's extra important for that reason is just silly. Drivers typically make a point not to hit any car on the road. If they hit your car it will have been an accident. 

 

I do think reminders to drive carefully/alertly are in general a good idea. But I think those reminders should be...well, general. It's important to drive safely because controlling a massive, fast-moving piece of a machinery is a big responsibility and not taking it seriously puts you and people around you in danger. 

 

It's just hard for me to understand having a best friend or sister having a baby, going to visit...and actually sitting there, looking at the baby and thinking- I don't like you. I don't like you at all. I get thinking, "you make me uncomfortable and your yelling is annoying!"

I think that discomfort/annoyance is exactly what people typically mean when they say they dislike babies. Not dislike in the sense that they think they're bad people. I love babies but I understand that when my friends who don't love them say they dislike babies they don't mean they think babies are evil or out to get them and it certainly doesn't mean they think people should stop having babies. It means they don't enjoy spending time with babies. 

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I just don't think everyone with a baby on board sign doesn't care about anyone else or actually thinks other drivers are out to hit people on purpose. I really see that it could be about getting cut off or honked at. I understand how no one wants rude behavior. I just don't see the signs and think the driver thinks that he or she is oh so special and I should kick rocks.

Maybe the signs are completely pointless. But, I don't agree they mean the driver is arrogant, narcissistic, hoping the rest of drivers get into accidents, and that other drivers are out to hit people. I truly see that's it's there just in case it matters to anyone.

About babies- I just find the word "dislike" to be strong, in that case. I like the clarity of- I dislike the annoyance, but I don't dislike the person.

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Incidentally, those Baby on Board signs (which I almost never see, actually) aren't a particular peeve of mine. I just think they're stupid. But lots of things are stupid and don't really bother me because I just ignore them, and those signs fall into that category.

 

I sympathize with your son, because it seems like everything is scented.

I don't have any allergy or other reaction to scented products but I tend to really dislike the types of scents that are put in soaps and other household products. I use unscented dryer sheets and unscented detergent, for example. What's annoying is when something that I would never expect to be scented is. For example, recently I bought two big boxes of Swiffer duster refills. Got them home, opened a box, and was assaulted with a very strong and horrible smell. Turns out the dusters were scented. If I'd known such a thing existed I would have carefully looked for boxes of unscented ones, but it never occurred to me for a second that anyone would ever want a scented duster. Ugh. 

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I don't "dislike" babies.  I am completely ambivalent to them, the way I am about dogs.  I don't find them inherently interesting, endearing or cute, just because they are babies.  Or dogs.  I'm not drawn to them.  I pay them no attention until they do something that affects me, like create noise, mess, or odour.  Then I am absolutely within my rights not to like.  I don't like adults who do those things either.  And I will not alter my behaviour, including my driving, because some one else has reproduced.  

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BYAM is on board with no one having to alter their behavior within the legal confines or being ambivalent toward anything. :) heck, I'm "fine" with most things. Doesn't mean I always agree. My only real point of bringing up what I have is to say I think there are many reasons someone might put a sign up and regardless of why, it doesn't make me angry. I do understand it might end up completely pointless or may be annoying. I've never even googled to find studies about the stickers. I've never had one. I'm no sticker expert.

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Haha. This to me would be a perfect example!

If someone said, "I will not tolerate baby on board stickers."

What would that even mean? A person only has control over their own car/s. Unless the person is announcing a new law banning them or runs a store that could sell them, there's nothing legal they can do about it...I don't think.

Eh, I see babies as more important than just something that was reproduced. Babies require care from someone. They are easily injured. Sure, it's mainly the guardians' responsibility. But, if a person is engaging in a dangerous activity, sometimes that needs to be altered to not harm a baby if one pops around. But, for most people who are acting in legal, safe ways, there's not much to really change anyway. And, to be clear, I never said anyone isn't within their rights to dislike anything. You can dislike babies, dogs, women, lizards, yellow things, and the third hair on top of your right ear. Just saying the word "dislike" isn't always accurately used. And, sometimes it is. I don't care unless someone randomly comes up to me and starts screaming that my baby is ugly and worthless, which I don't believe the very vast majority of people would never do- whether they love, like, hate, or don't care about babies.

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I don't like babies.  Or toddlers.  Or kids.  This doesn't mean I think they're bad or want bad things to happen to them.  Quite the opposite; I wish they were all safe, healthy, well fed, and nurtured into fine adults by people who love them.  But I don't like them.  (And I think that's different than saying I dislike them, which is why I didn't phrase it that way.)  I'm not interested in them, I don't find them cute, I don't like being around them.  Kind of like snakes, only much more difficult to avoid.

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I'm recovering from spinal surgery and have been loving this thread! Its kept me busy

On the lighter side of those "baby" signs, my mom's said "Ex husband in trunk"

I loved the selfie discussion. I understand taking one if you want to get the sights in the background, take a picture of a pregnant belly or if you're with friends

What I do not understand is somebody aiming a camera at themselves, making a face and taking a picture of themselves.

My daughter's friend takes and posts at least 4 or 5 pictures of herself every single day.

She'll take one of herself with a smile and coffee, or with a frown and say she's having a bad day.

I often wonder what goes through a person's mind when they do that. Do they look at themselves and think "damn....I look so good that I must take my picture" or is it raging insecurity?

When my kids were little they loved it when I made up songs for them. They would pick a category and I'd make up a song about it (they are in their 30s now and still sing the song I made up about Kool Aid to the tune of Pretty Woman) I've been composing a song called Selfie Queen, to the tune of Dancing Queen. Its about what goes through people's heads as they take yet another picture of themselves.

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I hope you feel better and recover soon Maharincess!

That's funny about the sticker. :)

Hmm...I usually think it's because the person thinks they look good. And, with social media I guess they think they'll get more likes than just a post saying they're drinking coffee. I'm trying to think back in my earlier twenties what I thought, and yes, I totally thought I looked hot in a few. I have one that I can't believe I took...with my body showing tan in a bikini at my pool. I'd never do that now! I mean- I still think I looked good (ha- better than now!) but the public sharing part? No!!! Though, really, it's the seductive nature that now embarrasses me more than the selfie aspect. Hope that's not too much information but want to answer the question honestly. It's not a truth I like, but it's what happened.

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Thank you so much. The morphine and this site are helping me a lot. The boredom is really setting in.

This girl screams for attention wherever she is. She and my daughter were roommates and my daughters boyfriend once said he thought curly hair was sexy. Next time he came over she curled her hair. When they all get together this girl has the smallest bikini and the biggest mouth.

I will just never understand taking pictures of one's self. I would feel so silly posing for a picture that I'm taking of myself.

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Yes, it does help to get the cat hair out of my throws. I saw it in a Good Housekeeping article and I asked my vet. I have heard it is often the fragrance of the products that people are allergic to.  It works pretty good. I sympathize with your son, because it seems like everything is scented.

What brand is it? (Maybe they make unscented.) We use unscented dryer sheets and still use the detergent recommended for babies even though he is almost 4. We have to take detergent with us when we visit family (except his paternal grandparents because Grammy has the same issue). We also always travel with his soap (CeraVe). He had really bad eczema as a baby, but I hope will grow out of it so he can use more regular and cheaper stuff someday.

When one of his shirts went home with another child from daycare, when we finally got it back, it was clean, but reeked of laundry soap or fabric softener. And the shirt was covered in towel dandruff (so they shouldn't have used fabric softener anyway). I washed it immediately. It took forever to get the shirt back. I had to put up posters (it was a shirt from Nana and not easily replaceable). What kind of people come home with something that is not theirs and don't take it back immediately? (Assuming they did not intentionally steal it.)

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We use unscented dryer sheets

Have you tried dryer balls?  Cheaper and much more friendly for the planet.

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I'm the opposite of most of you. I love the scented laundry soap and dryer sheets. I only buy Gain soap because I love the smell and I use tropical breeze scented dryer sheets.

Of course if anybody in my family had issues with the scents I wouldn't have used them. Its just my husband and I these days and we both like scented stuff.

I don't like when somebody smells like they took a bath in perfume. I've gagged before standing in a line with somebody who's wearing too much perfume.

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I very much enjoy some fragrances, too:

Meyer lemon soap- Williams Sonoma

Calvin Klein euphoria

Renewzit air odor remover- I think that's the name

Dove deodorant in the light pink stick

Those are my favorites right now

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And, with social media I guess they think they'll get more likes than just a post saying they're drinking coffee.

 

This is what I just plain do not understand about the way Facebook, Twitter, etc. are commonly used.  Whence does the idea come that people should, or will want to, know someone's every mundane move and/or thought?  Let's go back just ten years -- only the most bored and narcissistic of people would have routinely sent out a group email saying things like, "I'm drinking a cup of coffee."  The ability was there - one could have set up a mailing list with everyone's email addresses, called it "My Peeps," and in one click used that to disseminate information just as quickly as they now do by making a Facebook post - but the mindset that such a thing would be appropriate wasn't.  And I'm truly perplexed as to the development of that mentality.    

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Yeah, I don't really know why I got back on Facebook. Guess I was nosey and bored. Oh, and wanted to download some pictures I'd lost. But, I do secretly wish the whole thing would disappear. I'm sensitive to very strong opinions about hot-button topics, and I do sometimes feel upset. I don't say anything on there. I do have it plague my mind for a week or more. Ugh, my inability to let things go gets on my nerves. I want to just scroll through Facebook and say, whatever! Next! But, I think about it and worry and ponder and fret and cry in the shower about life.

Okay...exaggerating. But, still. Some people write some doozies of posts and comments there.

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I signed up for Facebook because all of my daughter's friends kept begging me to. I've known them all since they were kids, they all call me Mama B. so if it wasn't for them I would have never joined Facebook.

It has put me back in touch with a couple of cousins I haven't seen in years so its not all bad.

Some of the comments sections are horrible though. Some of the things people say to each other leaves me in shock a lot of the time. People can't seem to handle opinions that are different than their own and resort to name calling. It gets crazy.

I still don't do twitter, instagram or any of that.

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 I'm sensitive to very strong opinions about hot-button topics, and I do sometimes feel upset. I don't say anything on there. I do have it plague my mind for a week or more. Ugh, my inability to let things go gets on my nerves. I want to just scroll through Facebook and say, whatever! Next! But, I think about it and worry and ponder and fret and cry in the shower about life.

Okay...exaggerating. But, still. Some people write some doozies of posts and comments there.

Ahh...we all know that person with the social or political viewpoints that they must express!  I think a lot of people look at it as a pontification platform where they really don't need to engage in an honest exchange of ideas with people who disagree with them.  The like minded thinkers witll give them a "like" and anyone who disagrees will be blocked. 

 

In the days when personal email was just becoming common, we had family groups started out nicely as a way to touch base with distant relatives.  It soon devolved into religious, political or social commentary by a hand full of the group.  Eventually, a large group of us did a reply all stating we were opting out as we did not want to receive lectures disguised as family updates.  But, the lecturers (and those who dared take a contrary position) at least had to write out their own thoughts and not just cut-n-paste some extremist media outlet. 

 

I'm not on social media - no facebook, no instagram, no twitter, or anything else which makes me odd man out with friends and family.  I've poked around on someone else's a few times and find the majority of it trite (at best).  But I find it tends to make me more skeptical since everything on it is for public consumption.  My s-i-l always posts these comments and photos about the importance of family.  In reality, she has really strained relationships with both her kids and her and my brother have been divorcing since the day they got married.  So I don't know how much of what other people post are fact vs fiction too.

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This is what I just plain do not understand about the way Facebook, Twitter, etc. are commonly used. Whence does the idea come that people should, or will want to, know someone's every mundane move and/or thought? Let's go back just ten years -- only the most bored and narcissistic of people would have routinely sent out a group email saying things like, "I'm drinking a cup of coffee." The ability was there - one could have set up a mailing list with everyone's email addresses, called it "My Peeps," and in one click used that to disseminate information just as quickly as they now do by making a Facebook post - but the mindset that such a thing would be appropriate wasn't. And I'm truly perplexed as to the development of that mentality.

I'm more perplexed by the fact that people are willing to broadcast all of the details of their life that are necessary to steal their identities, ruin their lives, or otherwise turn them into victims. Want to burgle a few houses? Check Facebook to see who's on vacation. Did Nasty McDude hurt your feelings? Dig out that incriminating selfie he posted and email it to the police and his boss.
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Hmm...I usually think it's because the person thinks they look good. And, with social media I guess they think they'll get more likes than just a post saying they're drinking coffee. I'm trying to think back in my earlier twenties what I thought, and yes, I totally thought I looked hot in a few. I have one that I can't believe I took...with my body showing tan in a bikini at my pool. I'd never do that now! I mean- I still think I looked good (ha- better than now!) but the public sharing part? No!!! Though, really, it's the seductive nature that now embarrasses me more than the selfie aspect. Hope that's not too much information but want to answer the question honestly. It's not a truth I like, but it's what happened.

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a picture that you think you look hot in - in fact, given how self critical a lot of us are, that would be like spotting a unicorn! 

 

And maybe that is my problem with selfies - I'm too self critical about my looks in photographs.  I'm pretty comfortable with my looks in everyday life, but I've taken very few photos that I like how I look.  Putting them out daily or weekly shots on social media would be my idea of hell.

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I used to look better, but I remind myself that when I actually do my hair and makeup, I look fine. Sure, I used to be more active so tanner with more muscle tone. I used to get my hair colored more often and get my nails done each week. But, I'm choosing not to do those things right now, so there you go. It's not the end of the world.

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Another socail media thing that bugs me is people posting pictures of their dinner.

I don't give a crap what you ate for dinner.

Maharincess, I suggest you stay out of the "What's for Dinner?" topic over in the "Food" section.  ;)

 

I agree with the comments re: social media. I don't do it, unless it's a work-related necessity (LinkedIn for example). My mom has a Facebook page to keep up with her cousins and old friends who have moved away, but she rarely posts anything other than wishing people Happy Birthday or to tell them she's praying for them.

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I have a cousin who I only see at funerals, and a few years ago she emailed a bunch of us in the family who don't use Facebook, inviting us to join "so we can keep in touch."  Give me a break; if you can't be bothered to send me an email from time to time (and, yes, I'd sent her some), you're not concerned about keeping in touch with me.   And, sure enough, several of us wrote back and said we weren't interested in Facebook, but it was so nice to hear from her and we'd love to stay in touch via email, here's what's going on in our world, how are the kids/grandkids, etc. ... bupkis. 

 

Maharincess, I suggest you stay out of the "What's for Dinner?" topic over in the "Food" section.  ;)

 

Heh; that was my first thought, too.  But at least that's what it's for; if you want to see what others are planning to cook (which I like to do because if often inspires me to make something similar, when I'd been sitting here thinking "I don't know what I want to eat tonight"), you go there, and if you don't give a crap what others are eating, you don't.  If you're getting someone's Facebook updates because that's the only way you get important news about their lives, and are stuck getting nightly pictures of their plate ... I'd have that on my peeve list, too.

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Not my pet peeve, since I'm not on Facebook, but I've heard there's a trend to post your workout info. Not just "I went to the gym today and feel great" kind of things, but "I just did 50 burpees" and later "benched 200" followed by "got my heart rate up 20%" -- okay, good for you. Now go eat something healthy but don't post a picture of it.

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Ahh...we all know that person with the social or political viewpoints that they must express!  I think a lot of people look at it as a pontification platform where they really don't need to engage in an honest exchange of ideas with people who disagree with them.  The like minded thinkers witll give them a "like" and anyone who disagrees will be blocked.

My most active friends on Facebook frequently slip into this territory.  They are genuinely funny people, and I enjoy both their company and their updates.  But I can get really tired of when they use this form of social media to make a point.  At the moment one of them, a teacher in a suburban school district in NY, has been posting 1-4 items per day telling us why we should have our children not participate in the standardized testing.  I went from sympathetic to nearly blocking her updates. 

 

And on an unrelated note, Facebook actually loves these people. They don't have any content of their own. Their entire business model relies on the relatively few people who keep updating over and over again. They need people to upload lots of pictures of themselves and lots of BS updates that keep people checking back to see what is going on. 

 

Not my pet peeve, since I'm not on Facebook, but I've heard there's a trend to post your workout info. Not just "I went to the gym today and feel great" kind of things, but "I just did 50 burpees" and later "benched 200" followed by "got my heart rate up 20%" -- okay, good for you. Now go eat something healthy but don't post a picture of it.

Yes, there are some running apps that give me updates of some of my friends' progress. By that I mean, they run. They enter in how far they ran. Facebook puts "Tina ran 3.8 miles in 31:19 today!"  I will not relegate this to pet peeve territory, but it is not exactly the highlight of my Facebook news feed when I check in.

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I'm noticing a lot of non parents lecturing parents about immunization on Facebook. The non parents saying some horrible things about parents abusing their kids by injecting them with poison.

I just don't understand how these people can be so mean to each other. I'm all for a debate about things but most of the comments are full of name calling and horrible insults. If I spoke to anybody that way I would feel terrible.

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Hey, we don't post photos over on What's For Dinner. We just talk about food.  A lot, and in great detail.

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Its different if its something that's dedicated to food. I just hate random pictures of people's food along with "sooooo good".

Most of the time the pictures of the food look like somebody already ate it.

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Neil Patrick Harris has a great Twitter account, but apparently people were getting annoyed at all the food photos, so he created a second account just for his food porn.

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I wish my new co-worker would post photos of her food instead of telling us all about it while I am trying to work.

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Wow - this has been interesting reading about all the stuff people post on Facebook.  Now I'm beginning to understand all the complaints about FB.  I only have 14 "friends" on FB.  We all have separate group sections (e.g., my stepdaughter, her mom and I have one so we can enjoy lots of photos of my little grandson and the funny things he says without boring other folks).  I've heard that the husband of one of my "friends" posts lots of political rants on his page so I'm glad I don't have to see that (if I did, I'd just drop him as a friend...he wouldn't even notice).  

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Its different if its something that's dedicated to food. I just hate random pictures of people's food along with "sooooo good".

Most of the time the pictures of the food look like somebody already ate it.

Right.  I get some posts from friends about their travels - not on FB, but on a yahoo group we are all on.  And I like when they include photos of fancy dining type things they've encountered -  special desserts, or a buffet display that's especially well-done. or some local dish that's unique.   that's the "food porn"  idea. 

 But photos of regular food?  like a piece of chicken and some potatoes?  I cannot understand why anyone wants a photo of that.    

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If I never see a white shirt described as "crisp" again, I will be a, well, less cranky individual.

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And while we're at it, nobody is ever allowed to describe anything relating to fashion, hair, or makeup as "fierce" anymore.

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"Ex husband in trunk"

 

for the win!

 

Glad to see I'm not the only one not in love with social media in its many forms. Like some of you or not,

 

- I'm not crazy about myself in pictures - the only time I really feel I look good is when it was taken by someone I love and I'm looking at that person when the pic is taken or a candid one - no way a selfie would fit into any of these categories!!

 

- Teens communicate more by sending pictures than by writing - I see how many updates my 16 year old son receives on Instagram, so in that case, ok (not by thing but ok)

 

- When at a party I see people immediately taking picture of the food and hear later that they instantly posted them on Facebook, I feel sad for them - is sending probably badly taken pictures to people who couldn't care less really more important than enjoying the moment, people around you and - yes - the actual food?

 

- I'm actually a very good photographer (and I deplore the monopoly of digital that's crept over us, because the quality was way better with "old style" cameras and films, but most places don't do a good job developing them anymore, and I should have learnt to do so), and the thing that make my pictures great is that they reflect some unexpected quality, be it beauty, strangest, arrangement of shape or colors or textures, or an expression on a face that I was waiting to capture (if someone I know well) or was taken by (yes, I'm one of the "soul stealers" that don't hesitate to make a portrait of a face that strikes me of someone I don't know - that's when a good camera and 200mm zoom come in pretty handy), and all my pictures reflect what my eye first saw. As I don't walk around looking at a mirror, no way would a selfie reflect what I saw :-)

 

- Facebook killed meaningful exchanges for me. Being a nomad and having moved often and lived in various countries (I roughly spend a 1/3 of my life on each of threee continents, with as many as three countries in Asia), email was a way to keep in contact, personal contact, with friends from my past. Once they adopted FB, these emails disappeared. We still connect when we meet face to face, but not so much in between. I have so far refused to get on the FB, twitter, IG etc. bandwagon. I've been on LinkedIn since just after it was created though, kind of by accident.

 

Back to the topic of pet peeves: I find it sad when I see families or couples having lunch or dining out and each person in the group is on some electronic device and they don't talk. I wonder about the impact of technology on social interactions and I'm not very optimistic. It seems to me that for an increasing number of people "fantasy life", i.e. social media, is becoming something they spend more time on than on real life interactions. Recently I heard of someone whose significant other had become increasingly glued to a smartphone, turned out it was not a case of working constantly as was first alleged but of chatting up members of the opposite site on a hookup App and then meeting up with them at an increasing frequency, in city where they lived but also on business trips, to the point of having someone lined up before trips. And because so many people do it, or so it seems when you go there, it feels "normal". Down the drain went a c. 15 year marriage. I'd say the injured party is better off but I really got me wondering about the unforseen consequences that the overwhelming presence of technology from the last 10/15 years will have on us, our moral fiber, our kids, even the future of humankind. Sounds melodramatic, I know :-) it's my inner sociologist talking :-) 

 

Back to the topic of scented products: when I stay in a hotel, I usually wake up with a very swollen and weepy eye on the side I mostly sleep on. So I've started taking an old, soft T-shirt with me, and wrapping it around the pillow. Problem solved :-) no more one swollen eye and need to wake up early enough before first meeting to allow antihistamine medecine time to work.

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Oooh. So. Many. Things.

 

Traffic-related

 

(I live in Melbourne, Australia, which means trams and a whole unique raft of complaints)

 

  • People who don't learn how to perform hook turns.
  • People who do not stop behind stopping trams on shared roadways. (To explain, trams run in the middle lanes of the road, meaning alighting pedestrians have to cross one or more road lanes to reach the footpath, some arsehole drivers shoot up the inside while pedestrians are boarding and alighting, nearly running people over.)
  • Two or more lanes merging down to one with zero warning.
  • People who honk at you while doing the speed limit.
  • People who honk in traffic jams.
  • People who drive like lunatics in the pouring rain.

 

Public transport-related

 

  • People who treat the train/bus/tram like their living room.
  • People who sit next to you even when the bus/train/tram is half-empty.
  • People who try and talk to you even though you have your headphones in.
  • People who don't offer their seats to people who need them.
  • People who swear and scream at each other, PT is not the place for your domestic dispute.

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@JacquelineLHope:  That person who sits next to you even though the bus/tram is half empty may have autism.  I just learned this recently.  They have issues with "space" and have no idea that what they're doing (e.g., sitting next to a person even though there are lots of empty seats available) is perceived as creepy.  Now I wonder if that applies to parking lots as well.  Whenever I've had a new car, I always parked way out in the middle of a lot to avoid dings.  Then, when I'd return to my car, almost always there would be another car parked right next to it, even though there were a gazillion empty spots all around the two cars.  Go figure!

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People who treat the train/bus/tram like their living room.
Like when they trim their nails.

 

Then, when I'd return to my car, almost always there would be another car parked right next to it, even though there were a gazillion empty spots all around the two cars.
How can one be sure that at the time the other car parked, there weren't tons of cars around?

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If there isn't a spot next to a curb (or pillar in a garage) available for me to park in, I generally will park next to another (well-parked) car rather than somewhere with empty spots on either side. Between two well-parked cars is even better.  I think it reduces the chance of some horrible/careless parker pulling in next to me at least slightly. I want to be next to another person who is as careful as I am.

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Yeah, I always park between two cars (or a car and a curb, etc.) if possible.  Sure, while I'm gone, those people may leave and be replaced by assholes who ding my car, but I figure my odds are good. 

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my biggest traffic peeve is when people wait to use their turn signal until they are actually TURNING.   It's almost worse than not using it at all.  

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my biggest traffic peeve is when people wait to use their turn signal until they are actually TURNING. It's almost worse than not using it at all.

Have you been following me? ;)

I try very hard to use my turn signal appropriately. I sometimes fail. I don't like that I do this. I have I think a very odd turn signal. It's not broken...it just is sensitive and yet has to be manhandled at the same time.

Is that sexist?

Never thought of it until now. My dad uses the word in every other sentence. It's bleeding over.

Just like "that's good. That's good" has from my mother.

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