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Which brings me to a huge pet-peeve: picky adult eaters. Grow up already and quit acting like an entitled oaf, especially at dinner parties!

I usually feel bad for the adult picky eaters, in that they are missing out on so many interesting things in life.

 

However, I will verge into pet peeve territory when the picky eater describes a food that pretty much everybody else likes as "Disgusting!"  Hey, I'm okay with the fact that you don't like mayonnaise, but dial it down with the disgusting commentary. There is a reason that it is a common food item that most people consume in one form or another, and the reason isn't because everybody else is wrong about liking a disgusting food.

 

 

And on the other topic, I will go out on a limb with a generalization and say that the older men who are falling under this category of "unwilling to date women over 30 because they are bitter" have probably been jackasses all of their lives, and this is not something that just popped up when they got older.

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Oh yes. In fact, when a man throws out the "bitter" line...it makes HIM seem bitter and jaded. I just turned 30 this month, and I feel remarkably fine about it ;)

Oh, DeLurker.....that dynamic is alive and well in DFW. My father is a prime example. I'm now older than all the girls he dates. It's always awful getting Neiman Marcus cc statements with lines and lines of dresses and jewelry and high heels. Meanwhile, if he's around, he bans me from wearing such clothes. But, he did buy me a boob job. His reasoning was he hoped it would fatten me up all around. He subscribes to the "women should keep sweet" motto. I hate judging him. He's allowed to date whomever. it does bother me, though. He flat out tells me he enjoys spending time with them more because they don't whine or complain. ...except for more 500$ shoes and a night out in the Ferrari. Barf. I, on the other hand, would like to see him and get a hug. :(

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Okay, this is too good not to mention -- the ad at the bottom of the page says "11 Things You Should Never Do Again After 50" underneath a photo of someone crowdsurfing. Of course it's sponsored by AARP, who will be sending me mail soon, I predict, because I turn 49 in a couple of months and they want to make sure I send them money as soon as I'm eligible to join their organization. Much in the way that "More" magazine started sending me ads for their "women over 40" publication before I'd left my 30s.

 

No, I'm not bitter, why do you ask?  ;)

 

Reminds me of that episode of Designing Women when Julia is talking about the double standard -- George Bush was elected President but the headlines didn't read: "Grandfather Elected President." If a grandmother won the Nobel Prize, though, the papers would read: "Grandmother Wins Nobel Prize."

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Okay, I know there's still snow on the ground that makes it hard to get to your roofs and your trees but good grief, April is a week away.  Christmas is over.  Valentine's Day is over.  St. Patrick's Day is over.  So if you have red and/or green decorations up on your home, take them down already.

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Friends who routinely poo poo almost everything you say. I recently told a friend about being pregnant. He was happy. But the following annoyed me:

Him:Are you nervous?

Me: Yes, I am, about labor.

Him:That's silly. You get a shot and don't feel anything.

Him:How long will you breastfeed?

Me:I've read and am comfortable with at least 6 months.

him:That's too long! Just do it a couple of weeks. No need for anything else.

Me:Well, you never know. Sometimes the baby has trouble latching or wants baby food early.

him:What? That never happens!

Him:Where will you live?

Me:I'll need to move if I do public schools. The ones near me aren't good. Maybe ____ or _____.

Him:No way. That one is good now, but I'm sure it'll go downhill. You never know. Good to day. Drugs everywhere tomorrow!

Just things like that. I think mostly he tries to be positive, but it's annoying. He does this about any topic conveivable. I just nod or change the subject. Lol.

Oh and not trying to start any argument about breastfeeding or pains of labor! Just sharing my conversation about what Im thinking/hoping for myself!

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I'm not sure I ever had that level of conversation about my pregnancy with any guy not my ob!

 

Self Peeve - after spending 90 minutes with an online tech support to figure out why my cell wouldn't ring, resetting settings, reinstalling the whole phone profile, yadda yadda yadda...I ended up taking it into a provider store on my way to do an errand.  It took the girl there 1/2 a second to turn the mute slider button back to the off position.  So totally a duh! moment on my part.

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Betweenyouandme, bless your heart! I wouldn't have been as nice -- I'd have probably asked the guy "so, how many pregnacies have you had? None? Then back off already!"

 

(And in case I haven't said it already, Congratulations!)

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Haha, yes. It gets old. But, we've been friends for many years. There's a lot I don't say, but I do speak up sometimes.

Thank you for the congratulations :) made me smile. And, that's great because I've had a cluster headache for about 50 hours so far and another shingles outbreak. Oh well. It will stop eventually. I'm sickly lol. Another pet peeve of mine!

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Well, a lot of you are going to hate me because I drive the posted speed limit no matter which lane I'm in so if I'm keeping pace with you, too damn bad.

 

On the other hand, I really hate people who use up my green light arrow allowing me to turn left across an intersection in order to go right on red.  It's not your turn, dammit.

Is there some reason you can't drive the posted speed limit in the right lane? The left lane is for passing, not cruising. You are holding up traffic. Every interstate I've been on has big signs saying "Slower traffic keep right." If you look in the rear view mirror and there is someone behind you, YOU are the slower traffic and need to move to the right lane. Show some courtesy.

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Yup:  

 

the traffic in the lanes to right are going slower than the speed limit

 

or

 

there's no room for me to change lanes

 

or

 

I'm exiting to the left up ahead

 

While it's true that there are signs that say slower traffic should keep to the right, that does not mean those in the center or left lanes are obligated to speed.  In my state, you have to stay within the limit even while passing.

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That's true in most, if not all, states. However, most also give you a 10 mph leeway above that before they'll ticket.

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Fair enough.  Feel free to give me the finger when you get a chance to drive around me.  I'll wave back.

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However, I will verge into pet peeve territory when the picky eater describes a food that pretty much everybody else likes as "Disgusting!"  Hey, I'm okay with the fact that you don't like mayonnaise, but dial it down with the disgusting commentary. There is a reason that it is a common food item that most people consume in one form or another, and the reason isn't because everybody else is wrong about liking a disgusting food.

Except mayo is truly the devil's condiment.

 

/not a picky eater

 

ETA: To be halfway serious, though, mayo really is quite controversial, so I don't think it should be used as an example of a food that "pretty much everybody else likes": Mayonnaise hatred: A brief history of mayo and disgust.

 

ETA 2: Meant to post a peeve of my own: I hate it when people constantly ask if I'm okay just because I'm quiet. Dude, that's just me. I'm not an outgoing person. One of my closest friends is the biggest offender here, and it irritates me because we've known each other since the seventh grade. You think she could have figured it out by now. And yes, I've told her that I'm fine and that I'm just a quiet person, but it's like she has this compulsive need to ask me if I'm okay every hour because I'm not chatting her ear off. 

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the traffic in the lanes to right are going slower than the speed limit
That at least makes sense.  What's more annoying (to me anyway) is when people are just hanging out in the passing lane for no apparent reason.
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Re: traffic peeves:

 

I hate driving on the freeway only to have some joker cross about 3-4 lanes of traffic to get off at the next exit!  For Heaven's sake is it so hard to put yourself in the right hand lane in advance?

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or if you're about to miss an exit, to get off at the next one rather than kamikazeeing it across all those lanes?  Same with surface roads.  If you miss a turn, don't cut a bunch of people off turning left out of the right lane.  Continue through the intersection and turn around.  It's not that hard.  Really.

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Except mayo is truly the devil's condiment.

 

/not a picky eater

 

ETA: To be halfway serious, though, mayo really is quite controversial, so I don't think it should be used as an example of a food that "pretty much everybody else likes": Mayonnaise hatred: A brief history of mayo and disgust.

Hee!  However, I stand by my broad generalization!

 

Just because the mayonnaise haters are both loud and very amusing, it does not make them anywhere near a majority.  In fact, they have even convinced the mayonnaise lover who wrote that article to make his own broad generalization with this statement:

She was right: I have a mayo problem. But as my shame faded, I began to wonder: Was the problem really mine, or was it hers? Ketchup and mustard—our nation’s uncontested condiment king and queen—elicit no ire.

 

Ah ha! The truth is, Mayonnaise is by far the uncontested king of condiments regardless of what the mayonnaise haters club of America would have this poor writer believe.  In the link below, we can see that brands of Mayonnaise not only occupy the top selling condiment spot, but 5 of the 10 spots on the list.  I submit to the mayonnaise haters: How can so much mayonnaise be consumed every year if not pretty much everybody but them likes it?  Heh.

 

Hellmann's Mayonnaise - America's best selling condiment

 

What’s America’s favorite condiment? Hint: it’s not ketchup.

 

The answer is mayonnaise: specifically Hellmann’s, which the nation apparently slops on everything except french fries.

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Mayonnaise is by far the uncontested king of condiments

This filthy, blasphemous LIE. 

 

My completely unfounded speculation as to why mayo sells so well is because the people who like it, REALLY like it and buy enough mayo to [insert clever turn of phrase here that I can't think of right now]. You mayo lovers make up for those of us with the good sense to disown this gloppy tool of SATAN. Putting it in your tomato sandwiches and all that jazz... 

 

ETA: Being serious again, I can buy that the majority of people might like mayo, but IMO (just to quibble over semantics) that's very different from saying "pretty much everybody else [aside from picky eaters]" in that people who dislike mayo aren't exactly outliers. It's like cilantro, I think, albeit less extreme. 

 

(down with mayo!!!)

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is it so hard to put yourself in the right hand lane in advance?

 

You're being much too kind!  Those people don't want to slow down or heaven forbid, wait behind people in front of them to exit.  They fly along until the last possible second and then act surprised when nobody lets them cut in front of them.  Happens every morning which is ANOTHER reason I'm doing the speed limit in the left lane-- I don't want to get stuck behind those last-minute-morons!

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(down with mayo!!!)

Fair enough!

 

I should not have used such a controversial food as my example.  Although I am at a loss right now for what much loved and/or consumed food would not also have a very vocal group of people who will insist it is disgusting.  White bread?  Probably not. I'd probably rile up the bread snob faction.  Bacon? Forget it. That will have both the vegans and the bacon backlash group on my case.  Mac & Cheese?  No, there will be objectors to both the cheese and the texture.  Ketchup?  No, we don't have to look outside of the "foods you hate thread" anywhere to find ketchup haters.

 

So I got nothing.  Which goes back to my original pet peeve.  If somebody doesn't like a food that somebody else in the room probably does like, how about starting with "I don't like it" as opposed to "It's Disgusting"?  Save the disgusting angle for when the discussion over who is right turns ugly. 

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what much loved and/or consumed food would not also have a very vocal group of people who will insist it is disgusting.  White bread?

 

I find white bread (basic white sandwich bread) disgusting. 

 

See what I did there?  I agree with you it's annoying - and a bit rude - to declare something inherently subjective to be awful or terrific, rather than just saying it's [insert adjective here] to you.

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Agree.  There is a difference between "I don't like that" and "Gosh that's vile. I don't know how anyone can eat that".

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Well, I think the bigger picture for me where I draw the line in my head between what is a matter of taste (food, art, music) and what is a matter of opinion (politics, sports). At this point in my life, I'm not okay with making statements about why somebody else is dead wrong about a matter of taste, but I am perfectly okay with firing the first shot in a discussion that involves a matter of opinion.

 

Or, you know, exactly what Bastet just said.

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I've always said there are 2 categories of food you don't like;

 

that food which you can choke down at least a few bites in order to be polite (meeting your future in-laws or a job interview over lunch), but you would avoid if you had a choice.

 

and the food that you could not get past your lips even if you were dining with the Queen.  Or it was the last food on earth and the alternative was death.   For me, eggs, tuna and mushrooms are in the last category.  I would rather die.

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I can eat anything unless it's against medical advice or drugs or was made in an unhygienic place. Yesterday, I watched an episode of Hoarders where a fiancé visited his future family in law. The kitchen was...well...I'm sure people can imagine.

Beyond those things, I can choke things down. I got into trouble in the first grade because I told my assistant teacher that I thought pepper was gross while she was sprinkling it on her soup. I learned my lesson. She was scary, and I've always hated offending people anyway. Oops.

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Happens every morning which is ANOTHER reason I'm doing the speed limit in the left lane-- I don't want to get stuck behind those last-minute-morons!

So you are a passing lane hanger-outer, not just a speed-abiding passer! :)

 

I like mayonnaise. But.  You know how egg white is supposed to be good for your hair?  Well, a friend of my mom's told me once that she puts mayo in her hair instead because it's easier to distribute than egg white, but she heats it up for a few seconds so it's not so cold on her scalp.  So I decided to try it, but I put it in the microwave for too long, and it got hot, and it smelled so bad.  I wanted to throw up.  I couldn't eat it for a while after that.  So I can see how if you're bothered by the smell at all (because normal mayo has a slight smell), you'd find it disgusting.

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Sure, there are foods I can't eat, they literally make me nauseous.  I could not drink coffee if my life depended on it, for example, just the smell makes my stomach turn.  But I would never tell others what they are drinking is "disgusting" or "vile".  I just say "I don't like coffee", if asked. 

 

Back to the traffic thing.  I really don't care if someone in the left lane is going above or below the speed limit, as long as they are actually passing people, and it's possible to pass people (you can only go as fast as the car in front of you).

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I also don't like being made to break unnecessarily. If you're currently in a center or right lane and check your mirror and see me in the left lane approaching you and going faster than you are, please don't get into the left lane ahead of me. I get you're trying to pass another car, but you're still going slower than I was before I had to break and wait. It's just rude. But, no, I don't flip people off or anything. I just slow down and hope they return to the center lane at some point.

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So I can see how if you're bothered by the smell at all (because normal mayo has a slight smell), you'd find it disgusting.

For me it's not so much the smell but the texture. A thin scrape of mayo on bread for a sandwich is okay. But when you really glop it on... *shudder* I feel the same way about oatmeal. The consistency reminds me of vomit. 

 

Don't worry, I don't go around telling people to their faces that the foods they like are awful, but I'm not above engaging in trash talk here. :D 

 

The most annoying thing is when a certain food SOUNDS like it'd be good, but I know I won't like it. People talk up tomatoes so much and they sound so delicious, especially fried tomatoes, but I'm always disappointed when I eat an actual tomato. And Southerners get downright poetic when talking about tomato sandwiches. Maybe that's why I'm so bitter (heh) about mayo.... all the tomato sandwich recipes I've read mention that you have to really slather it on. And I wish I could like oatmeal, because it'd be a nice breakfast, but I just can't. 

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and it's possible to pass people (you can only go as fast as the car in front of you)
That's another thing!  Tailgating!  Tailgating period, but also, why are you tailgating me when there is clearly a car in front of me?  I am obviously not the one in control of the speed here.
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Inexplicable Brakers - drivers who brake for no apparent reason.

Variable Speed Drivers - drivers who randomly accelerate then decelerate for no apparent reason. Used to work with a guy who did this. Being a passenger in his car was torturous.

Same co-worker never met a parking space he could fit his rather sporty compact into. It was always parked at some odd angle.

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How about folks who don't use their turn signals?

I nearly rear-ended some dumbass the other day because this chucklefuck apparently found it comepletely acceptable to STOP in the middle of a busy left lane, only for me to realize seconds later that he was possibly making a random left turn into the random street on the other side. Then I almost turned on my emergency flashers/stopped my own car to help this idiot because I figured his car had suddenly stalled, but NOPE, he's just the inconsiderate fuckwit who nearly caused a 3 car pile-up behind him because his dumb ass couldn't even put on a helpful left turn signal!

Is it really so difficult to literally flip your wrist slightly to reach over and turn on your turning signal??!! I just don't understand this lazy phenomenon.

Another lazy phenomenon I don't get: leaving your shopping cart where it is because your lazy ass can't be bothered to walk it a few extra steps to the shopping cart return in a parking lot.

I've seen so many people do this that it disgusts me. Go into any Wal-Mart parking lot, and you'll most certainly see a sea of stray shopping carts left all over the place. Given the usual large person clientele that shops Wal-Mart, it's not surprising but it is sad to witness. I've also had at least two car scrapes thanks to these stray carts running into my car.

Honestly, I'd love to see every shop start charging a quarter for all these unreturned carts, because I guarantee that'd stop half the cart-returning issues dead in their tracks.

Another shopping cart pet-peeve? The sad folks who actually steal them from stores. You might as well just tattoo "I'm pathetic" on your forehead at that point.

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Oh parking lot peeves!  I hate the people who cut across the parking lanes to get too another row instead of driving to the end of the row and making the turn where designated. Granted, some do so at modest speeds and only in areas where the parking lanes are virtually empty, but most of the time I see people do it at not-safe speeds and as soon as they can. 

 

I also hate when I see someone coming out of a store or restaurant, get in their car, fire it up and then get on their cell phone before they even start to back up.  I have a hard time believing that the topic was so important you couldn't wait.  I

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When people pick dead skin off themselves and flick it on the floor. A woman did this today in my Sunday School class...in between spilling donut cumbs.

It was not cool.

Leave picking at yourself to the shower or your own bathroom please!

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Another lazy phenomenon I don't get: leaving your shopping cart where it is because your lazy ass can't be bothered to walk it a few extra steps to the shopping cart return in a parking lot.

 

This drives me 'round the bend.  All the markets at which I shop have taken pains to include ample "cart corrals" in their lots, so that wherever one is parked it is a fairly short walk to put the cart away.  Yet nimrod after nimrod sees fit to just leave their cart in a parking space, at the end of an aisle, etc.  Sometimes mere steps away from where the cart belongs. 

 

In other parking lot peeves, I, too, hate when people don't hurry their ass up when they know someone is waiting for their space in a crowded lot.  Instead, they get in, fuss with their phone, find a good song on the radio, fix their hair, etc. before finally backing out. 

 

Also, people who take so long at the ATM I figure they must be conducting a hostile takeover rather than simply depositing a check or grabbing some cash. 

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There have been studies done that show when someone is waiting for your space, drivers take longer before they start to back-up.

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I make a conscious effort to move quickly when I know someone is waiting for my space (not that I'm much of a dawdler any time).  I also take care to haul my buns quickly when I'm crossing the street on foot; I may have the right of way, but that doesn't mean I should amble across like I'm on a nature walk when people in cars are waiting for their turn.

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Another lazy phenomenon I don't get: leaving your shopping cart where it is because your lazy ass can't be bothered to walk it a few extra steps to the shopping cart return in a parking lot. I've seen so many people do this that it disgusts me.

 

You should come over to Chowhound.  A thread on this very subject generated over 400 replies before getting shut down.  All because of a bunch of Sanctimommies whining "But I can't return my cart, I have to think about the babies....." and the rest of us saying "the fact you have reproduced does not excuse you from basic manners."

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Oooh, how about the people who follow you to your parking space? I mean, you're walking and they are driving, waiting to pull in as soon as you pull out. I saw this mostly in college, at the library, but I have also seen it at malls during the holidays. The driver's apparent attitude (patiently smiling versus scowling) dictates how much time I take to pull out. I'm childish in that way, I suppose.

 

Bastet, I know what you meant, and I try not to comment on typos, but I had to laugh when I read your post:

Yet nimrod after nimrod sees fit to just leave their cat in a parking space, at the end of an aisle, etc.

Poor kitty!  ;)

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Ha!  Yeah, that would be much worse.

 

Okay, I just looked up that Chowhound thread and it is cracking me up.  So these people managed to walk all around the store with the cart and kids just fine, but somehow when they got to the parking lot, the ability to walk the cart to its designated spot evaporated due to the presence of the children?

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I just called my mom to ask, "Before I was big enough to handle putting the cart back myself [because that was my job; I thought it was fun to collapse one into the others], what did you do with me while you put it back?"  The answer, of course, was "Um, either left you in the car or took you with me; what else would I do with you?"  So I explained that, apparently, my existence entitled her to just leave it around the parking space, because pushing it where it belongs is just too much to ask of someone who has kids with them.

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Last visit to Target I pushed the cart into the corral thing.  The wind blew it right out and I could not catch it and it hit another car.  Keep thinking to myself I should have been lazy & left it by my car LOL.

   Are the people with kids saying they could not put the cart away because after they put the kids in their car seats they would have to walk the cart over to corral ?    That is how one child here was abducted.  I think now there are mommy/baby parking at some stores and the corral is close and/or the store is not that far away.

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Well, can't the parents/caregiver walk the cart to the car, unload, put the cart up, and then take the baby from the empty cart and carry her back to the car? Doesn't make sense to me why this is a problem. Maybe I'm missing something? Are they scared the cart could roll away or get hit if the baby is in it while unloading the bags?

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Well, can't the parents/caregiver walk the cart to the car, unload, put the cart up, and then take the baby from the empty cart and carry her back to the car? Doesn't make sense to me why this is a problem. Maybe I'm missing something? Are they scared the cart could roll away or get hit if the baby is in it while unloading the bags?

Well, that's exactly what I would do.  I don't see what the problem is either. 

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I, back in the baby days, either buckled my kids in their car seats, locked them in the car & ran-walked to return the cart, or if I had a tiny one I always used a sling in the store so they were already attached to me & the older child held my hand & usually had an extra sling used as a leash/restraint because she was a runner. (Yep, I was one of those moms who did that.) I also always park near a cart return because it makes my life easier.

ETA: Regarding the cart rolling while a child is in it, that's what a foot is for. I would put one foot in front of a wheel as I was unloading the cart if it might move. I also body checked it with my hip or butt when needed, even if it dinged my car.

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Well, can't the parents/caregiver walk the cart to the car, unload, put the cart up, and then take the baby from the empty cart and carry her back to the car?

 

Yes.  Yes, they can.

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Another shopping cart pet-peeve? The sad folks who actually steal them from stores. You might as well just tattoo "I'm pathetic" on your forehead at that point.

About this -  Here,  when a new grocery store opens up, they have mini-carts.  replicas of the regular shopping carts, but kid-sized,  kids can push a cart, and gather groceries, along side mom or dad.   But they only have then for about a month.   The store manager here said it's because some parents like them so much, they put them in the car and take them home.   regular-sized carts are walked off with, but the kid-size ones fit easily in a trunk.  They're too expensive to keep replacing, so you only see them when the store is new.  

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