SometimesBites July 18, 2014 Share July 18, 2014 The thing that really surprised me is that, in the book, they all talk about how warm and inviting the lifestyle is. But when they had the episode with all their mothers, they talked about how hard their lives have been. Was this bunch just completely clueless when they were kids that they never picked up on the tensions and tears? That dichotomy has always frustrated me so much. I believe wholeheartedly that the phenomenon of the plural wife telling her tale of woe is a treasured convention of polygamy. They ALL do it, and don't seem to ever consider how weirdly schizoid it appears to the rest of the world, how blatantly it fits the old adage of "talking from both sides of your mouth." In the course of everyday life, these women must pretend to embrace plural marriage, are expected to "keep sweet" and to suffer their heartache without complaint. But if they are given the opportunity to openly discuss their struggles? Oh baby! They spill their guts, they weep, they give the gory details of their pain. These women are all hurting and no matter how much lip service they give to polygamy, they LOVE their opportunity to talk about how much pain they are in. It sometimes seems like they're even in competition to be the wife who has suffered most; their suffering is a badge of honor, and is part of why Meri and Robyn are forever weeping, in my opinion. No matter how much they try to imply that we boring monogamists are missing out on the blessing of sister wives, no matter how much they claim they have the better deal because they don't "have to" have their husband around every night, the truth ALWAYS COME OUT, as it did with Meri, once again, last Sunday: this lifestyle makes them desperately unhappy. Sister Wives has, perhaps, convinced some people that not every plyg family is a Warren Jeffs nightmare, but it has not done much to promote polygamy as a just-like-everyone-else choice. Even if Kody wasn't a douchebag--and that's a big "if"--this show would leave most of us saying thanks, but NO THANKS. 10 Link to comment
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