Ugh, I can really see this coming. I'm even wondering if it's going to be part of whatever storyline Will/Sonny have next - tension because of his friendship with Ben.
I'm absolutely with you on TeamBetterWriting and that Ben sucks, but I'm not sure why all the comparisons to Gabi. They can both suck. It doesn't have to be an either/or thing. I think outside of seeing the discussion here on these boards the show isn't trying to compare Ben and Gabi. Other than Ben and Stefan's brief friendship, Gabi and Ben aren't really involved in the same storyline.
I think someone hit the nail on the head in the Current Discussions board when they said that Gabi is being written like Sami back in the day. She does absolutely villainous things, but she gets away with them, and the audience is supposed to dislike the things she does while ultimately still rooting for her. I think overall the writing is worse for Gabi, but I think in a way Gabi barely pays for the things she did whereas I think Sami kind of did. I know I read in the Behind the Scenes topic that either Ron or Ken Corday or someone really likes CB, so Gabi is not written so everyone in the audience hates her, despite what she does. The people who hate her either have for a long time and/or, like me, simply hate her because she has done horrible, very hate-able things.
I really don't get this idea where she's made to suffer or given much worse writing than Ben or Abigail or Kristen or Xander. With Ben, it's basically a carbon copy of the Franco story on GH which Ron wrote. Franco was a serial killer, RC went overboard trying to redeem him by having him do heroic thing after heroic thing and get praised to the skies despite knowing a section of the audience would NEVER warm to him. With Ben he's had it a little bit easier because abs and right out of the gate he's in an apparently popular pairing. Despite that, RC is still determined to shove him down the audience's throat.
With Kristen, she was still being written as truly villainous until not too long ago. Now, just like Ben because she's done such truly unforgivable despicable things, he's starting to go overboard with the over-redeeming.
Like I said though I don't think Gabi is suffering more than these other characters. People like to talk about Abigail being given excuses for her bad behavior and skating on her crimes but so does Gabi. She'll be skating on very serious crimes for the second time in two years. The show bent over backwards to give her a reason (several actually) for her revenge plot on Abigail. They went out of their way to cover her when she left Julie when she was having a heart attack. This time, the excuse is thinner since Stefan was truly responsible for his own death, but still they gave her grieving the love of her life as an excuse. And how has Gabi really suffered? After her revenge on Abigail, the only thing she really lost was her friendships with Chad and JJ. After that she gained a rich husband (even though he was a rapist who gleefully set her up to go to prison but, in modern day soaps, that apparently counts as the perfect romantic lead) and became one of the richest ladies in town lording it over everybody. Yes, there are people in town who hate her but, other than Julie and Abigail, she doesn't interact with them much. The people she loves, who love her, haven't turned their back on her. Despite Rafe and Sonny rightfully calling her out, they both promised they still love her and will have her back. I'm sure it'll be the same with Will. Even when they find out she used a dead baby to get out of prison time, they probably still won't be done with her.
So, I'm just not feeling this poor, poor Gabi is the most persecuted character on the show stuff.
What is with Ron and trying to redeem the truly irredeemable? He's tried it several times on GH and now here. It feels particularly ridiculous that we're suddenly expected to buy this Father Knows Best crap with Clyde and buy this bond with Ben. It wasn't very long ago that Clyde was saying disgusting homophobic things to Will and trying to kill him but because he helped Ben escape our heart strings are supposed to be tugged? Wasn't Clyde supposedly to blame for Ben's unnamed mental illness? Didn't Jordan come back and hint at - or flat out say - Clyde sexually abused her? I think it's even grosser than the show trying to redeem Ben that we're supposed to like Clyde in any way.