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I hate when people do that. You insulted/spread my business publicly (on TV no less), but when you realize how dead wrong you are and want to apologize, you want that to be private and off-camera. That's just ridiculous. Cynthia should have apologized for sticking her nose in someone else's marriage when it was none of her business period. Whether it was true or not, it wasn't Cynthia's place to confront Phaedra over any of it. But now that the shoe is on her foot, she had an epiphany about how it felt for folks to confront you over stuff in your marriage publicly and now she gets it.

What I found so funny was that after that talk to give their marriage another try, neither of them tried to hug the other one. No affection. No happiness that we're both on the same page. Just, thanks and goodbye you can leave the room now. Wow. I don't like Peter and frankly I would have cheered if she'd answered "I feel out of love with you on Day 4 of no contact, by Day 10 I'd talked to the divorce lawyer," but that was a cold scene. No warmth between them at all. Even though allegedly Nene was the problem win their marriage. LOL

It just felt like she totally let Dom off the hook for abandoning and threatening that boy. And then couldn't understand why Mom and Sis would be pissed off that they're left raising him while Dom badmouths them. She didn't lose custody for nothing. And yet Iyanla spent all her time raging at the mother. Granted, Mother's response to both daughter's abuse and not including her in the wedding was pretty foul. But she's clearly doing something right cuz that boy is sweet and loving and smart and the other daughter doesn't seem like a mess. This is the second time she seemed to focus exclusively on the wrong person IMO. Mother was foul but what about her grown daughter's agency and willful actions? She spent no time on that. If I was the Mother I would have left as soon as Iyanla was in her face saying she didn't like her - because after that Iyanla was going to lay it all at her feet.

I know I'm not supposed to day this out loud but...I'm so sick of hearing about Bindi and her deceased father. I hate the overwrought obvious heartstring tugging. I'm not saying she doesn't miss her father, only that I could go a week or two without anyone mentioning him on the show or how she's making him proud or how she's dedicating this experience to him. Enough about him. I didn't hear about him this much when he was alive.

I kinda wish Iyanla hadn't spent so much time trying to get Tiffany to accept some blame for not seeing through the lying liar who lied. It was as if she couldn't believe that a wife may not have seen any signs. It was his fault for using her that way, not her fault for not knowing he was lying and gay.

That's what is so funny. The sisters allegedly hate how Tamar acts, but are willing to so Tamar-esque impressions for camera time. I'm looking at you Towanda aka I'm a doo w** pop chick. Lol. The most weird thing about this Tamar vs. Everybody storyline is just how isolated she is and how they won't own up to freezing her out. If they don't want to speak to her that's their right, but don't front like this isn't what you're doing. The fact that not even Toni called the other sisters out for not telling Tamar about Trina's bday party is ridiculous. That no one has to explain that, even to their mother, is beyond me. It was the same when she was argu8ng with how Traci always bucks up on her and they all pretended not to know what sge was talking about. Tamar should just give up trying to be close again. Kick it with your man and your friends and show up for Christmas ans Easter dinner only. If they don't want her presence, give them the gift of her absence.

What I think is so funny is that NeNe was barely there. There was no reason for the women to focus on her that much. She tried to be cordial but that wasn't enough these women wanted hugs and hang out time. Why wasn't her saying "let's be cool enough to be in the same room but we ain't got to kick it" enough? Especially since they say they didn't want anything to do with her. Just wave, say Hi and keep it moving.

The one thing I love so much about BMJ is that it is rooted in black culture, i.e. she's not the only black person around, she has black friends, she wears her scarf to bed, she's working through her identity at her job like many black professionals I know, etc. Unlike Scandal, where it doesn't appear that Olivia Pope even knows any other black people (RIP Harrison, lol), or is seen with any, or speaks to any on the regular, or has to wrap her hair at night, etc., this feels real in a different way. Every so often, you'll see Olivia remind the world that she hasn't forgotten she's black, but it is not the status quo at all. Don't get me wrong, I like Scandal, but that is clearly rooted in the "diverse" or "multicultural" universe and it shows. I like that BMJ explores Mary Jane's life in all its messiness and craziness and foolishness. Even if I occasionaly want to smack someone. lol

Have they ever said what Kiwane actually does for a living? Because to me, their problems seem more money based than anything. They are the most touchy feely and that puppet porn shows that they can get it in when they want to. It seems like Syleena is constantly gone while she's grinding for her career to be able to support the family and then Kiwane feels that she isn't home enough for quality time with him and with the boys. I don't know what the fiscal breakdown is, but maybe Syleena is working so hard and gone so long to support the fam on her income and Kiwane is a fantastic hubby, but isn't the primary breadwinner. They seem like two cool people who like each other alot and that this will help them reconnect. Spencer and Heidi - Jim and Elizabeth are trying really hard to make me feel bad for them, but I don't. I used to watch the Hills (don't judge me. LOL) and they were awful to people when they were rich and famous, they were the biggest brats you'd ever seen and often for no damn reason at all other than to ensure screen time. So now that its over and they didn't save any money and they've ruined most of their relationships with people, I'm supposed to feel bad that they haven't grown up like real adults? That they have to live in his mommy's vacation house in Malibu? Really? They're both young and immature and if they weren't living off someone, they would likely have broken up awhile ago since they would have to get real jobs and earn a living and neither of them seems to understand that success usually takes hard work. Neither of them seem to want to do anything or work at anything. Except Heidi wants a baby, but doesn't seem to have any concept of how they will support that baby and yet Spencer is the crazy one? Rachel should just pack her bag cuz he is not going to marry you any time soon or ever. Girl, pick your dignity up off the floor and go home.

I'd like to have an actual group of slighly interrelated friends, similar to the first season of all the housewives shows. The problem with the current cast, in addition to personalities and drama-starters, is that these women aren't "friends" and for the most part don't interact outside of the show (ignoring twitter/instagram,etc). So they have to create all these fake events and reasons to contractually require folks to be present so they can film together. If people already had established relationships I would think the falling outs of people would play more realistically because it means more. There was a reason why the Kim/Nene friendship breakdown was so darn ugly. It had history. Right now, nobody cares if Claudia is mad at someone or not, she just moved to Atlanta and these people don't know her from a can of paint. So the drama comes off as super fake/scripted and unintersting. Second, after about the 4th season, everyone is so "On" that no one is their natural selves. I think that has hurt the show. People are so concerned with being a brand and having Bravo-businesses that they don't really show their lives anymore and the show (Much like The Hills on MTV years ago) tries to ignore their actual pseudo-famous lives. So we won't see NeNe in New York preparing for Broadway or Porscha in her business meetings for her weave/wig line, etc. All we're left with is "I heard she's dating so and so" I think they should start all the way over.

I'm so irritated with these women. They're all running around acting like Chante seriously wronged THEM. As if they have done or said nothing that was out of line or they were not the ones issuing threats (I'm looking at you Mo). You can't be mad at her for bringing security when you were constantly threatening physical harm to her. I'm even more upset that they were asked back to the show after behaving in such crappy ways and that Claudette was given the boot. I refuse to believe this wasn't good for her "career" if for no other reason than the paychecks. That being said, it looks like the new chicks are straight crazy. How does the chick from X-factor who kept saying that she wanted to be a pop star and not in a R&B box, that Whitney slapped, that allegedly has a kid with Bishop Noel Jones from Preachers of LA/Grace Jones' brother, end up on a show about R&B or Divas? This ought to be entertaining.

Rosie should seek her own show since she doesn't work well with others. She doesn't appear to be happy and neither do they. Maybe another solo sho would be seen more since apparently all those fans didn't watch her on OWN.

It was obvious to everyone that Countess wasn't going to be ready 2 days after full body lipo. I'm mad that she was going to make this production look even more bootleg by showing up, half drugged on whatever pain killers they'd given her, to do a love seen in a full body compression stocking. And Paula, boo if you can't clear 3 days off work to shoot the film after missing all the planning meetings then you can't be the director. Are they doing a reunion show? Cuz I'm here for that. I also second that we should all email Todd about a Shar/Countess show.

After all the complaining about Loretta being involved, if she hadn't been there would not have been any Preach LA event. And I'm not sure what else Myesha had going on, because that dance routine shouldnt' have taken more than a couple of hours to learn, Dominique could have helped as could Loretta. Frankly, none of them even really said "thank you" for doing all the labor intense work so that we could show up and look good. And I can't believe that Dietrick was the only one who stepped to S-curl about his absence - although S-curl's smug responses had me wishing his mic got cut off too. I also agree that Myesha isn't the greatest singer, but since I too have some liquid leggings I'm going to go somewhere and be quiet. LOL

Those folks know they were wrong not to help Loretta. Heck, the McClendons shouldn't have even showed up as they haven't had anything to do with anyone. Myesha should have opened for Dietrick. For all his crazy, he's a great performer.