I agree with all of this. I don't feel bad for Nora because this is a situation of her own making. She never learns from her bad decisions and she's so, so, selfish. Her upbringing didn't seem that bad to me. Some parents are overprotective, some aren't. Iris had reason to be the way she was and she made some mistakes but nobody is perfect. So your mom didn't tell you you had powers. Am I the only one who feels like that's not a big deal? It sounds like no one used their powers in the family ever again since Godspeed was the first speedster in decades. Everyone made a sacrifice so that you could have a normal childhood without any unnecessary danger. Why are you not grateful? Why did you go straight to a criminal for answers when your Mom who knows all about it was right there? Is still there?
Also her relationship with Thawne skives me out. I don't care what his plan is and I feel like her relationship with future Iris is constantly being sacrificed at the altar of this gross manipulator who the show won't part ways with for some reason.
As the child of a single mom, I will never understand the level of disrespect that she has for Iris. The way she treated Iris when she came to the future to basically tell her that she loved her and wanted her to be with them was unacceptable.
And she should be different. She should be changing all the time if we follow the rules set by the show. I can't imagine a universe where Barry and Iris would still do everything wrong with this child knowing what they know.
I just don't understand why any of this was necessary. This storyline has benefitted no one. Everyone looks bad. Nora is such a shoddily written character made up of the worst of Barry and Iris' traits. She's somehow basically the main character on a show called The Flash. If the writers wanted me to care about her, they failed.