I watched trying very hard not to be judgmental, but it's hard, so hard. I had two miscarriages -- including one the very first time I was able to get pregnant at age 37 after months and months of trying, taking my temperature everyday, using an ovulation monitor, etc., -- but I still don't understand feeling like life isn't worth living. You're right....that's a mental issue. I certainly would never tell people that I have three children -- with two of them in heaven -- but then again I was never in a competition to see if I could have more children than anyone else I know.
Lauren apparently posted this on IG: “Many of yall don't know this, but a couple of months ago we found out we were expecting, however, soon after we miscarried. At first, we kind of wanted to just stay quiet about the news, but knew that since everyone is anticipating for us to announce that were having a baby, we felt like it was time that we told everyone that our first and only baby is in heaven. It is hard to hear when people asks us if we are expecting, when we only recently lost our baby. You can imagine it was devastating to the both of us.
Our expectations of setting up a baby room, hearing the heart beat, feeling the baby's first kick in mommys tummy, holding our little one and getting to to see our precious baby were - Shattered. Gone. Right before our eyes. Even though our sweet child is no longer with us, it is such a comfort to know that one day we will get to see our baby in Heaven!"
They apparently never even heard a heartbeat (makes me suspect she might have had a blighted ovum -- when the fertilized egg doesn't grow into an embryo). There's a reason why they say you should wait to announce you're expecting until you're safely through the first trimester. That's the problem with having the ability to use an early pregnancy detector at home....in the old days, many women might not have even been aware they were pregnant in the first place.
And, I get it's their culture, but how rude of people to ask if they're expecting.