Grindr guy pulled Kwame's pants down, just in the back and just enough to uncover his ass, while he was pushing him down on the bed. I'm pretty sure he penetrated him.
Also, the most insidious part of the whole Zain thing to me was that he really didn't seem to think he'd done anything wrong. Otherwise, why even tell her? Why not just take the condom to the bathroom and flush it?
What kind of person do you have to be to violate someone's ONE expressed boundary like that and think it's not a BFD???
I wonder if that was kind of a way of dominating her because she had experienced so much more career success than him, when he clearly thought he was more deserving. I've known a lot of guys who would have felt that was fine. Even funny. 😕 That would explain why he told her. It's not as satisfying if she doesn't know she was violated. But he can still pretend to be the Nice Guy (tm).
Also, there's a good chance that he knows she was a recent rape victim. Her publisher is paying for the therapy, and she asked him "Good, or good considering?" and to me, that indicated she expected him to know. When he acted like he didn't, that was when I think she made the final decision to have sex with him. To do something that would make her feel "normal." With someone who didn't know what had happened.
But, in my mind, there is a better-than-even chance that he knew, and he chose that particular way to even the scales between them in his mind precisely BECAUSE he knew. Again, I've known assholes who wouldn't see anything wrong with that. But if that's true...it's magnitudes worse, in my mind.
To sexually assault someone that you KNOW FOR A FACT is still reeling from their recent sexual assault...and you know this because you've been hired specifically to help them with their work because they're not coping? FUCK YOU A MILLION TIMES. Seriously.