Riiight??!! I seriously don’t get it at all. At all! I’m baffled by it. I’m not one to bash on looks, because he is conventionally attractive enough... except for... well everything... once you notice him for more than a glance. He has a body like a skinny young teen with very thin weak arms. Fine, he is not a muscle head; however, his body looks teen-like... scrawny... not like a late 20’s man. His clothes are bizarre, which given this show and the reunion is not easy to do! He was wearing a purple blazer!! And his hair is like late 1980’s Jordan Knight NKOTB. Both he and Dayna looked like they were invited to a 1989 party. Sooo bizarre. If he had a really cool personality, I could see that maybe he is really cool and has a unique confidence to pull off wearing weird clothes, but he doesn’t!! He is a petty whiny bitch who has sex with everyone and could not deal when Dayna saw him for who he is. He is really rejection sensitive and was so hurt when she moved on, yet he slept with 7 girls and blew them off to tell Dayna he had feelings. He is a the kind of guy that makes women crazy in how he lies, minimizes, and dismisses, yet he is not even cute or cool, so I don’t get why they like him to start with either!! Unless, it is because he is very sweet, coming on strong in the beginning with a full court press on how great you are and how you uniquely connect and when you start to consider him, he then pulls it away.
He looks skinny and he whines poor me when called on any of his bs and shitty behaviors. He turns in to a victim. Seriously so not sexy or masculine energy at all. I don’t weigh much and I feel like there is no way that he could pick me up to carry me out of a burning building. I feel like I would need to carry him, which is very much the opposite of sexy.
Yesssss!! It is a classic pick-up-artist trick and I suspect there are many male coaches on YouTube teaching this as there appear to be a increasingly greater amounts of this “behavior type” in the world. It has to do with his psychological games because it makes zero sense that so many of these girls fall hard for him and he never even gave them a commitment and treated them as a “good friend” and an “option” and did not care to drop them quickly when they start to have feelings. He accidentally somehow ended up with his penis in Scheana’s mouth on their platonic weekend??? He is a dismissive avoidant and he can trigger unhealed attachment wounds in women, especially those who had an avoidant male father-figure. Unconsciously, the behavior can seem familiar and recognized as what “male love” is because that is their primal experience from male figure (I.e., inconsistency) they have experienced in early life and it triggers a huge desire to be seen and loved and get security and it is exactly the opposite of what he offers. He offers insecurity. It probably stems from his own attachment wounds in how he is fearful so ambivalent-attachment. No matter why he behaves as he does, it is dangerous for the hearts of others who get involved with him. He will make you appear to be overreacting and say good things to you and downplay you to others. Happy that both Scheana and Dayna moved on. He seemed to mess with Dayna’s head and yes, she is an adult, but she didn’t deserve his post-break-up vitriol. You either care or you don’t, Max, and you have shown how fragile your ego and sense of self is that you can’t handle someone seeing the truth.
He looks strangely small next to Dayna and Scheana. In LA, the looks capital of the world, Max is sleeping with several hot girls at a time who want to date him. It makes No. Sense. Except that he creates an unstable, undefined connection that creates an anxious attachment and thus, women are looking for clarity and definition because his words and actions don’t align (and they don’t want to look stupid on TV... so want to know what is up). Then when he dismisses at first sign of discomfort or the wind blows, it can trigger a real rejection wound for others (if this was already a wound for them) because of how he handled it. It is a narcissistic manipulation and it is the worst energy to be in any relationship with. He also seems to use his position of authority at a cool popular place and his access to entry or employment as currency to get girls and manipulate them because they have to still be around him and also to prey on girls at TomTom who want to be seen as cool. The sad thing is that he truly thinks he is a nice guy and continues to have that reputation (not anymore due to his old tweets and being shown for who he is this whole season!) as a good guy who also does well with ladies. When his pattern is so much more insidious and calculated and intentional! Ick. Bye Max. He is the definition of a f-boy packaged as a good guy in a purple blazer with shoulder pads.