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  1. Was anybody else besides me surprised by Nya's reaction to Lisa and the insecurity that came of it?  

    Nya was introduced to us as this revered and highly-respected Columbia University professor whose classes were legendary and provocative in high demand.  She is a published author and activist.  Professors like that at a university like Columbia usually also have 1) an ego (a well-earned ego, but an ego), 2) confidence in who they are, what they do, and what they specifically bring to a table and 3) a remarkable ability to socialize with a variety of different social circles.  I highly doubt that Nya would have been so intimidated by Lisa showing up in a limo to paint a women's shelter and calling in a couple of taco trucks.  If she hasn't met Lisa before, she's certainly been surrounded by 100s of other people just like her over the course of her career -- all of whom were probably tripping over themselves to make the acquaintance of Dr. Nya Wallace.  

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  2. I also can't understand why Cynthia Nixon is trampling all over the character that, honestly, she will be remembered for.  And Miranda was a good character - she was smart, she was independent, she was successful, the character grew immensely, she was respected, she ended in a really wonderful place, and Cynthia Nixon is the one who brought Miranda to life.  Why shit all over that professional legacy for the purpose of....telling your own story that's already been told?  That just doesn't make any sense to me.   Even "ego" doesn't explain it.  

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  3. For those who have pointed out the inconsistencies with the "woke agenda" on this show - i.e. gender identification vs. antisemitism - isn't that the whole argument against the woke agenda as a whole?  That it is ultimately not nearly as accepting as it claims?  It certainly was not as inclusive of the AAPI community in the beginning and Jewish people have pointed out the silence towards the rise in anti-semitism.  I feel like disability acceptance was neglected until very recently.  Body acceptance is a whole other "movement" on its own - (hey SATC righting your wrongs writers and cast, have you ever had a plus size character on the show?  Or how about a confident, comfortable, plus size character?).  Art imitates life, I suppose. 

    The writers have it wrong about white women and their checkbook. The rich white woman is absolutely allowed to still write her check instead of rolling up her sleeves. You don't want her to go away. You don't want ANY donor to go away, unless it is Bill Cosby or Richard Sackler or somebody like that. You can't dictate how a person chooses to be charitable unless they want to give you a check for something that doesn't quite fit your priorities or mission, or there is some quid pro quo thing they are trying to push through.  You just can't prop the white donor on the pedastal anymore.  Instead you have to talk about the impact of that gift and focus on the community it helped.  Think pictures of the women and children in the shelter, and an article about how their lives are more stable now with maybe a small mention of the donor. As opposed to a story about the white woman and her checkbook and why it was important to her to write her check for this specific cause, along with a perfectly poised photo of her all glossy and impeccable, surrounded by the shelter children.  That is what doesn't work anymore.   But if Carrie wanted to write a check to the shelter and join Seema for a cigarette while Miranda, Charlotte, Steve, Nya and others painted?  That is perfectly acceptable. 

    Honestly, these writers are just SUCH dumbasses.  They remind me of all of the white people who ran around in the beginning of the black lives matter moment preaching *their* beliefs and *their* observations and *their* stories until the black community collectively said "sit down, shut up and just start listening because your observations and preaching about standing with us just proves that you still don't get it."  These writers are not witty and woke.  They are sanctimonious, simple-minded nitwits.

    And finally, that safari chic outfit looked like it was straight out of a very original banana republic catalog with some gold detail added to it.  Yes, I am old and remember when BR first opened and was this weird safari hiking clothing brand with lots of his and hers khaki cargo shorts.

     

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  4. I am willing to cut poor Lily some slack.  I, for one, have lost the string.  Sure you find it but, then first time it happened I remember the panic.  And while I figured out a tampon in a non-tragic manner (mirror, instructions, tampon), I remember it took a friend of mine 3 hours the first time she needed one.  She got caught off guard on a beach vacation.  She was 14.  

    That said, if Lilly doesn't want to wear a tampon just buy her a Ruby Love bathing suit and be done with it.  But as a mom of an 11 year old, i appreciated the humor, especially with Charlotte's demonstrating tampon positioning, and going from "slide it in like butter.." to "just shove it in!!!" I laughed.

    I am sorry but Miranda does NOT deserve Steve wearing his ring forever.  Is CN writing what she wished had happened in her own life?  Or was she that insanely oblivious in her own life that she thinks this is really how it goes?  I know there are plenty of couples who split and do great as coparents and friends.  But that takes time and work and communication and consideration (ahem...looking at you MIRANDA).  Not 3 weeks.

    I love Seema.  Give her a show.  And bring Samantha back for that one because that formula right there would be amazing.

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  5. Here is my hope for what happens given what happened in this episode, but also the prior episodes.  

    Miranda - for better or for worse - is clearly going through a lot.  She reached for the bottle during covid and exhibited alcoholic tendencies afterwards.  She and Steve haven't had sex in a long while and she has become more and more detached from the relationship and is no longer satisfied with their life together.  She doesn't like the direction that her parenting has taken with her son or the liberties that her son has taken within her parenting.  

    Enter Che.  Che taps something in Miranda (sigh...no pun intended but literally and figuratively I suppose) and it's exciting for her and new to her.  And she makes the not uncommon mistake of thinking that Che represents the solution to her problems.  So she runs off to Che in rom-com Cleveland.

    Except a few things happen.  Che has already told her that they loves her.  Che also told her they can't give her traditional and MIranda doesn't stop long enough to think about what that means (and probably thinks traditional in terms of sexuality and white picket fence, not that they might mean a monogamous relationship).  We also saw Che express immediate discontent for how Miranda handled their relationship and they clearly told her that she needed to work out whatever was going on.  MIranda interpreted that to mean her marriage.  We didn't hear Che specifically say that.  Because Miranda - as unhappy and discontent people often do, is grasping for what she thinks is going to be the fix, without really addressing the problems that got her there in the first place.  Honestly, most people can't just skip over that part.

    So here is my hope.  She runs to Che in Cleveland.  She either discovers first hand what "untraditional" means for Che, or Che acknowledging the steps Miranda has taken is wise enough to say "I can't and won't be your bandaid, you need to deal with EVERYTHING first."  But no matter what, Che does not become endgame.

    And instead we find Miranda left dealing with her messy life as she should be. Miranda is a mess.  Since episode 1 we've said "what the hell has happened to Miranda?"  Maybe, just maybe, the show will end with Miranda starting to deal with "what the hell has happened to Miranda?"

    And if she comes out of that as a recovering alcoholic who now identifies as queer wanting to explore life in a new relationship, reconnecting appropriately with her son, working through a real separation with Steve (SOB!), yet coming back to her kick-ass Miranda roots, okay.  

    But that type of recovery and self-awareness does not happen in just a few months time and it certainly doesn't come at the hands (literally and figuratively) of Che.

    With our luck, we'll get Che and Miranda end-game, happily ever after for them, nobody else is bothered, because our writers suck at this.  

     

     

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  6. Behind the paywall to me, but is the LA Times implying that the backlash is BECAUSE they are people of color?  

    I've seen plenty of backlash against very white Miranda.  Very white Carrie.  And very white Charlotte.  

    The backlash isn't because the character is new and a person of color.  It's because the storylines feel so forced.  Ironically Seema, who primarily has been used to prop up the protagonist, is the one that I care most about, probably because we're getting to know her as opposed to be told "you must like this character because she represents something different for the show!" 

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  7. There has been a lot of criticism of this show and these same issues keep coming up over and over again, in the media and it seems like with each interview I read they only kind of sort of answer the questions. 

    For example, when asked "why are you butchering the Steve character" we simply get "we love steve, and the actor has hearing issues."  Okay, but that wasn't the question.  When people ask "what are you doing with Miranda, this isn't our character" they answer by reiterating the story they are telling, but again, that's not the question. 

    Nobody has said anything like "if you go back through the series you get glimpses of Miranda and her dissatisfaction, for example, this, this and that happened and we're building on that idea.  Additionally, it was not uncommon that during the pandemic, a lot of people realized that their lives had landed somewhere they were unhappy with and they had drifted from their spouse.  Combine those things together, we have Miranda where she is now."  We're not getting that probably because they didn't plot the stories that way and that's why the criticism is that this is without understanding of the characters that developed over the years.  

    Which leads me to believe that when the show hears the criticism, they simply bottle it into a "they aren't aware enough to get it, so let me repeat it again."  Or "they are uncomfortable because we are pushing boundries and don't get it so let's repeat it again."  Or "the show had a lot of problems, and it needed fixing" (Why?  To my knowledge nobody has tried to do an Archie Bunker reboot, and it simply lives in the timeframe in which it existed with all of its highly inappropriate and offensiveness and we all move on).  

    Maybe it's not common of shows to fix their errors, or admit their errors, but I don't get how they can just disregard all of this valid questioning.  

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  8. 22 minutes ago, chitowngirl said:

    It was 2:30 in the morning-that’s a bit much!!

    I miss urban stoop life.  I don't miss the noise that came with it.  I invested in earplugs.  

    What was more remarkable was the 20-something knocking on the door to apologize.  If it had been Carrie and crew 20 years ago we would have had carrie going on and on at brunch about how it's New York, the city never sleeps, why should you???  

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  9. Oh, and what was up with Che and their surprised and judgy "your son doesn't know you're in an open marriage?" statement?

    No, Judgy McJudgerson, and I would guess that in the large majority of cases, most children wouldn't know if their parents had an open relationship.  Who would want their kid to know that and what kid wants to know that?  

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  10. I suppose I'll start with the good.

    I really like Mom Charlotte.  Yes, she is overly shrilly at times, yes she has her idea of what life and family should look like (coordinate Oscar De La Renta), yes, she angles and positions just as all of the UES society does.  But, in spite of that, she cares about her kids above all that.  Whether trying to understand and be supportive of Rock, even while acknowledging this could be a phase or not, talking to Lily about not just having a finsta, but about what that means and how its so different from what she was used to, acknowledging that there were parts of her upbringing that she'd like to do differently and being honest about that with her children, and understanding when space is a good thing...that's a good mom.  And ultimately at the end of the day, that's what Charlotte dreamed of.  Being a good wife and being a good mom.  That doesn't mean it's not without its challenges, but I really like Mom Charlotte.  I sill think KD's plastic surgery is overdone and was probably unnecessary because she was a really beautiful human, but so be it.  

    I like Seema and I like her style.  

    And now....

    Fuck you, Miranda.  The problem when somebody saying "is this enough for you?  Is it really?  Are you happy?  Really happy?  This is really enough?"  is that behind those words lies judgement.  So when she had the gall to sit there and say to Carrie "I didn't make him feel bad, I didn't blame him" my mouth dropped.  Yes, she DID make him feel bad for being very happy with their settled and stable and traditional life.  Yes, behind the words there was PLENTY of blame because there wasn't "more."  Miranda has been looking down at Steve all season long.  There was plenty of blame coming from her.  And if she wasn't blaming, then somebody forgot to tell CN that she shouldn't play it that way.  I can understand the "wanting more."  But did she even give Steve a chance for "more" and tell him "I need more, let's do more?"  

    And I'm really angry that we didn't get the conversation past "I met someone."  I'm really glad that Che called her out  But STEVE should have gotten the opportunity to do that as well.  #justiceforSteve for SO MANY REASONS.

    Che said to her "you won't get a traditional relationship from me."  Miranda wasn't even willing to entertain the conversation of what CHE wants in a relationship.  She has absolutely no idea if they are on the same page or not.  She is going to show up in Cleveland or wherever she was running and nothing good is going to come of it.  

    When does she come out to Brady?

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  11. So....the writers get their storylines by having this bizarre "this one time?  At band camp?  My phone read my text messages to my husband!" discussions and they all get a chance to play?  Forgive me my ignorance but is that how it works in the writers room?  Talk about ego.  The rest of them are right up there with MPK.  

    I, too, liked Richard (until the Hudson hotel episode with Smith, then i hated him).  I swooned on the rooftop with Samantham. And I also liked how Samantha watched herself in that relationship knowing that it was not right. That was a character driven plot line.  Not an example of band camp stories.  

    The one storyline I haven't hated is Rock.  I think it is actually being handled okay. Charlotte is acting like a lunatic elsewhere in life.  But her and Harry navigating this as parents feels....normal.

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  12. On 1/10/2022 at 12:36 AM, RealHousewife said:

    Wow! Don't critics normally give lower scores than us?

    I think these days it is very hard to be critical of "the woke" no matter how valid the criticism or feedback.  

    However even if I didn't know the SATC characters, there is still more than enough wrong with this.

     

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  13. Another interesting consideration with the way they are handling Miranda cheating, vs. Steve cheating and Carrie cheating, is that we saw the interactions with their actual partners.  

    Steve cheated, which we thankfully didn't see, but we saw the aftermath with Miranda.  It was her movie storyline.  Carrie cheated on Aiden on the show and then kissed him in the movie.  We saw her interactions with Aiden while she was having the affair with Big and the interactions with Big after kissing Aiden.  So far we have seen nothing related to Miranda & Steve since this Che stuff started.  Another misstep on the part of the show, IMO.  It's like they are trying to ignore them all together.  Even if I am supposed to buy into this Miranda storyline, stop ignoring this major piece of her life.  

    I went back to SATC and watched a couple of episodes to see if maybe I was over-romanticizing the show in my head a bit.  Granted I watched 2 of my favorites, the post-it and Big leaving New York, but it was just so much better than this.

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  14. 3 hours ago, EllenB said:

    It just occurred to me that the title of this shitty reboot might be an indication that they're going to dump all the spouses. Big died (good riddance, I thought he was scum from the beginning), now there's a possible divorce in the works for Miranda and Steve, and don't forget Harry's colonoscopy! I liked Steve, but it felt like he was a nice normal guy who'd wandered into the wrong show. Same with Aidan. Harry's the only one of the nice guys who seemed to fit, because he had a strong enough personality to stand up to Charlotte's most obnoxious Princess moments, and a white collar career.

    Steve stood up to Miranda plenty, including from the moment they met, he called her on her bullshit.  He wasn't her "on paper" perfect match but he matched her in other ways.  He would add in his goofiness as part of his charm but he was never weak and too nice for Miranda.  

    Aidan, I agree on.  Plus, Carrie wasn't very nice to him.  Ever.  Twice.

     

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    Was everyone disgusted by Carrie when she was having her affair? I'm asking sincerely because I wasn't chatting with SATC fans back in the day when it was happening, so I am curious. Being unhappy with Miranda's (or Carrie's) choices is something I can understand, but finding a character "disgusting" seems pretty harsh.

    I was.  

    But it was also treated differently by the show.  At the time, it wasn't *really* part of some great love story, that "endgame" attitude came later on in the show.   There was lust and guilt.  The relationship felt sordid and damaged.  It was portrayed for what it was - an affair.

    I was also disgusted when Carrie kissed Aidan in Abu Dhabi.  

    Now, we're supposed to put aside infidelity and embrace empowerment, I suppose.  It's not working for me.  I'm not disgusted with Miranda. I'm disgusted with the writing of Miranda. 

    This isn't Miranda, IMO.  I don't know who this character is, but it's not Miranda.   This is some unrealistic made up version of Miranda.  Why? 

    I know there are plenty of people who have gone through this pandemic and drank more, been with their partners more and discovered, "hey, not so sure about this" and maybe realized they weren't in love anymore.  There are plenty of women who get into their 50s and have "done it all right" (maybe not in the expected order) and realized that they still feel unfulfilled.  There are plenty of people who, in our current day, feel more comfortable exploring their identities because this climate allows that, when even 5 years ago it wasn't nearly as common.  There are plenty of people in their 40s and 50s who go back to graduate school to either boost their career or do a full career change or shift.  There are plenty of people who are trying to be liberal parents and find their kids running roughshod over them as a result.  

    But I don't know of a single person who is checking all of those boxes at once.  That's why it's some fake fictional unrealistic Miranda.

    Moving on...

    I really really like Seema.  I don't know if I love the professor, but I like Seema.  I'm enjoying Anthony more.

    And I guess I'm the only one who thought Carrie got confused about Diwali and dressed up like Frida Kahlo instead?

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  16. 4 hours ago, carolinagirl81 said:

    Nah, If she announces a second pregnancy it'll be Tristan's because God forbid she adds another strike to her being the "ugly sister" by having children with different fathers. 

     

     

    Why not?  Kris did.  

    I keep going back to Tristan's statement about how his actions don't reflect how he feels about her or the respect he has for her.  Oh sweetheart, but they do.  Anybody who has matured past the manchild stage of life knows that when you love and respect someone, doing this type of thing not just once but over and over again just --- isn't an option.  It's not on the radar.  It's an absolutely foreign concept.  No matter who you are.   So yes, you've told the world a million times over exactly how much respect and love you have for Khloe.  The problem is that Khloe isn't listening.  

    I can't stand Khloe.  But I can't stand Tristan more.  

    I would LOVE to know what Kim and Kourtney are saying to her right now.  I hope we get Kim filming her TH when the paternity news break.  3 for 3!!!

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  17. 4 hours ago, ifionlyknew said:

    As much as I liked them as a couple I never bought they were each other's soulmates or they were meant to be together all along.  I don't think any man Carrie was involved with seemed like the end game.  Now that I'm older and have had quite a few years and several re watches to look at things differently, I would rather Carrie have ended the series single.  

    Now that she is single let's see what the writers do with that.

    There were alternate endings to the series, and one of those alternate endings had Carrie single.  They just didn't go there at the time.  But perhaps it is buyer's remorse?  They are using the final lines of the original series where Carrie talks about the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself and everything else is just the cherry on top as rationalization why they HAD to kill Big because it was never meant to be her and Big endgame, it was always about just Carrie.  Or something like that.  Which doesn't quite fit either.  Because the ending was Carrie narrating over the 4 women (I remember charlotte taking all of her puppies for a walk with Harry...) and saying those lines, so it wasn't just about her back then, it was about the 4.  But hey, why quibble with the lunacy.

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    I get the whole “I’m not like a regular boss, I’m the cool boss” vibe they’re trying for, but, good lord, if Che were a man, he would get extremely MeToo-ed for HAVING SEX IN AN EMPLOYEE’S APARTMENT while said employee was 50 feet away!  That’s the one issue they haven’t covered yet and I am begging the writers not to. (Though I guess they kinda covered it with Ron Rifkin’s perviness at Vogue in the original series.)

    Thank you.  This is one of those things that drives me nuts about these things.  The standards apply to everybody.  Not just straight white privileged men.  Che has crossed SO many lines and it's not "woke," it's definitely not steamy, it's not cool, it is offensive and honestly they should be fired. 

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    I don't understand why they thought it was appropriate to show up at Big's funeral. Or the hospital. Or Carrie's apartment. I have co-workers that have become my friends but if someone I only recently started working with/for inserted themselves, uninvited, into any of  these situations I would tell them to take 37 GIGANTIC steps back. 

    Thank you.  I can give a pass on the funeral.  When my parents dies half of my office showed up at the funeral, the other half made their way to the visitation.  But the hospital?  The apartment?  Send gift card to doordash or a bouquet of flowers.  Even dropping off the food and drink, okay,  but when Miranda said "come on up, come on in" the only appropriate thing for Che to do at that point was drop off the bottle and go and stay on the other side of that doorframe.  Yes, you can point a finger at Miranda here as well for inviting Che in, and I do, but at least she has the decency to admit that she is totally fucking things up right now and is unhappy (credit to CN for the acting on that one).  Che just sauntered out of there practically licking their finger.  

    Poor Steve is just collateral damage in all of this, they are using him like a prop instead of recognizing that he is a beloved, respected and well established character in the show.  And I don't get why.  There are other ways to tell this story without sending in the wrecking ball.

    And don't tell me that Miranda doesn't know how to keep it down during an orgasm.  She's lost all credibility in her complaints about her son and his girlfriend being too loud and not having boundries. 

     

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