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  1. 10 hours ago, goofygirl said:

    Nope.  She's just a dumbass!

    It was awesome.  Jackie had the role of guessing if Melissa would actually know which state the city was in.  So first up, Andy says "we're starting easy - Boise."  Jackie confidently said "okay, she'll know this one, absolutely."  And Melissa, even more confidently announces "IOWA!"  So damn stupid.  Even Jackie pointed out how confident she was in her own stupidity and Joe Gorga was busting up laughing at how dumb she is. 

    The more I think about it, the more I think Teresa is starting menopause.  We saw Caroline become a bitch on wheels.  We saw Siggy go temporarily insane.  I'm a few years away from that stage of life, but already making notes on how NOT to act.  Combine hormones with the fact that Tre really doesn't like any of these people, and that's the only explanation I can come up with her for her being so horrific this season.  

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  2. Oh Jennifer, all of us were having trouble with the melody sweetheart, it wasn't just you....😂  That song writing thing was embarrassing and cringey from the moment they started brainstorming lyrics to their "listening party" at dinner. 

    Tikki with the shade edit.  That one ranks right up there with Jennifer the realtor "it makes you wonder what else is fake in this house!" comment while Melissa is fluffing her hair in the mirror.  

    So what I find interesting is the idea that the show couldn't survive without Teresa, that there's nothing to do without Teresa, there's nothing going on, etc.  The reality is that we have no idea because we don't know.  We've now seen plenty of drama and intersections this season without Teresa that have been fine - downright enjoyable, in some cases.  AND we've seen in some cases a pleasant Teresa.  The scenes with her daughters have been really nice.  The scene with her and Dolores even last night was actually a really nice - of all the cast members there, she is the only one who could probably talk to her so openly and honestly that way.  So there's plenty of possibilities and directions for this show, with or without Teresa, that would shift the tone of the entire show, without sacrificing it's reason for all of us watching.  The cast doesn't need to be held hostage by the outbursts of one 49 year old woman.  (Which makes me wonder if it's possible if Teresa is going through menopause and that explains how much worse than normal she is this season - and I don't just mean the fighting, I also mean the insane mood swings that we're seeing.  I remember Caroline in Season 4, even she admits that she looks back on that season and absolutely hates who she was that season.)  

    To be fair, Margaret isn't innocent either.  She knows where her bagel is buttered.  She didn't have to sit there muttering about what a lousy apology it was.  Jennifer didn't have to point out that Margaret wasn't satisfied with the apology.  Traci didn't have to sit there pointing out its flaws.  Everybody earned their paycheck during that dinner.   Maybe bring in Dr. V, I don't know. 

     

    I thought it was interesting that Luis said that he feels like the women haven't given him a chance.  I feel like there's more that we haven't seen, OR they really don't engage with the group a lot (honestly that's probably it).  

    The boys trip was gross.  If Jackie is concerned about her husbands reputation as a result of unfounded cheating rumors, is she concerned about her husband's reputation being on the show, taking shots out of a dildo, etc?  I wouldn't want to invest with the RHONJ dildo shot guy.  I'll take the straight up suit sitting next to him, thank you very much.

    Okay, now let's talk fashion.  Teresa, stop with the godawful jumpsuits that give you bad cameltoe and make your ass look 5 times its size.  Jackie, I realize for so long so much of your identity was about being the skinniest girl in the room, but please stop dressing like a reject from a Whitesnake video.  And Margaret for the love of everything holy please please please stop dressing up in outfits that make you look like a grandmother.  And while we're at it, get Joe some fashion help, whatever was going on last night was not working for him and he was waddling around like a duck.  

    Did anybody catch WWHL?  Melissa and Jackie were on.  Jackie looks really good.  She's visibly gained weight and she seems a lot less stressed, anxious, and fragile.   She had removed the extensions from her hair and had a great cut/style going on and a really good outfit.  And honestly, where is that confident personality in the show?  It's like there was an entirely different person sitting there. 

    Melissa all but confirmed, without being directly asked, that she and Teresa don't really engage that much (she mentioned that she hasn't talked to Teresa since filming the reunion, but that she's talked to Margaret multiple times, for example, among other things). She did, however, say that they like Luis and enjoy them as a couple together.  

     

     

    25 minutes ago, heatherchandler said:

    Because SHE can't be the one everyone left, she has to be the one to leave.  If everyone left her, she would not be the top dog.  So she pretended that she was the one to storm off.  She is really stupid but even she can see that the group is sick of her and this may be the time that they finally all gang up against her.

    I still think they should just 100% ignore her.  She starts screaming at you?  Just ask somebody to pass the pancakes and ask how their weekend was.  

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  3. 13 hours ago, SoCal4Us said:

    ^ I understand what you're saying about being or not being judgmental, but still have a hard time not judging Jackie's behavior by the same standards as the rest of the housewives.  For myself, I find Jackie extremely boring so I fast forward through most of her scenes. I did see the one where she mentions that Teresa triggers her (relating it to her eating disorder, I think?).  Jackie came across as manipulative, to me anyway, which shouldn't be surprising since other disorders and addictions likely involve an attempt to manipulate others. I of course don't know and am not a doctor - just my opinion from watching that scene in particular.

    She didn't say that Teresa triggers her specifically.  She said that the situation last year and all the arguing with somebody in her friend (Tre) caused her so much stress that she stopped eating.  It's a slight nuance, but it's there.  \

    Honestly, it doesn't matter what WE think about the trigger itself, whether or not it is valid, etc.  Teresa has said "come for me and I'll come back 15 times harder" or something along those lines, and that's what she did last year, it was relentless.  And people react to different things, and nobody gets to say what's upsetting or stressful to another person.  If the situation upset Jackie and tipped her over that tightrope, then that's what did it.  Why people so insistent that it's not "enough" to do that, I don't know.  But just as people sat there and said it was shit for Dolores to sit there and say that Jen's tears weren't warranted, it's equally shit to say that Jackie's emotions aren't warranted.  

    I think they are all manipulative to a certain extent.  Jackie has manipulated plenty.  So has Marge, Tre, Jen, Melissa, etc.  These women are on RHONJ for a reason and it's not just for their regularly scheduled botox appointments.  So yes, you can judge Jackie's behavior by the same standards as the rest of the housewives, but that doesn't equate taking away from a legitimate struggle.  

     

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  4. I kind of liked it?  It definitely had a different feel.

    Kourtney seems really content, maybe happier than we have ever seen her.  All of that anxiety is just gone.  Good for her.  I laughed at everybody talking about how all they do is make out everywhere.  So it isn't just us.

    I almost thought that Kendall was going to say "I wasn't sick guys, I just didn't feel like filming yet." That would have been amazing.

    I was personally offended by their bbq menu.  Fried chicken wings, Stouffer's Mac and cheese and pre cooked burgers and they gushed over how great the food looked?  No.  It didn't.  It looked like the TGIFridays kids menu.  That is not being a foodie.

    I miss Caitlyn at the grill, the huge steaks, salads, corn on the cob, --- dinners and bbqs of the early years. 

    Why is Khloe praising Tristan for anything?  He is so sleazy. My god, get a backbone. And an std test for your extra wide hoo-ha.  

    Scott looks like he is going to have a breakdown.  He is not okay.  He needs a lot of therapy.

    You know, I can't blame Kim about this frustration over this sex tape.  Or maybe it is buyers remorse.  But honestly, it was 20 years ago, she is a mom with 4 children.  And we are still trying to get mileage out of this thing when there is so much more out there to leverage at this point?  

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  5. 1 hour ago, kristen111 said:

    Plus, they weren’t even ready.  There was still lots of stuff in the drawers and closets.  Movers don’t like to see that.

    On a hunch, Tre paid the movers to pack them and move them and that doesn't all happen in one day.  In the case of Tre it probably happened over the course of a few days because the house is so large and there was a lot to pack.  We saw them on moving day - when they came and packed what was remaining and loaded up the trucks.  Gia "packing her room" was probably for show - a couple of sweaters, or whatever.  If you have the movers pack you, you are not supposed to pack at all.  For them it becomes a liability factor.  If only they pack, they know it's done properly, and it limits risk.  If you're right there with them packing your china and wrapping it up, and you get there and it's broken, you can sue them for damages.  So they either just move you, OR they pack and move you.  

    I guarantee you Tre wasn't wrapping up her champagne flutes one by one and putting them in moving boxes.

    Our last move we paid for the movers to pack us up and move us. It was a 2 day process.  Day one they came and boxed up almost everything.  Day two they finished up what had been left out, and loaded up the moving van. It was worth every single penny.

    I agree that a lot of this has to be fake, we know that they don't blindly go into filming with no story arcs or plans in mind, writers have confirmed that (especially when season 4 rolled around and made no sense).  Honestly, how many of us have ever experienced this type of fighting.  I don't know about you, but I've never tossed a plate or pulled hair or whatever, and I also don't know a single person who has, no matter how angry or annoyed.  I did throw a drink once, but that was in the face of some sleazy guy in a bar who wouldn't leave me alone.  

    But what's more bothersome to me is not necessarily the banging and tipping on the table, or even the throwing of the plastic tableware, it's the absolute vitriol that spews out of Teresa.  To me that's the difference between her and the others.  It's like, even within the fake drama she loses so much control.  It's not fun, it's not empowering, it's not a rah rah moment, it's really disturbing how completely unhinged she becomes.  And we shouldn't use "it's not real!" as some excuse to justify this.  So yes - Melissa tossed a cheese plate.  Jen threw a drink and tossed a fork.  Margaret pushed Marty in the pool.  But you know it will more or less end there with just yelling.  Teresa goes so nuts you wonder when she's actually going to step over the edge and physically beat the shit out of somebody. 

     

     

     

     

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  6. On 4/9/2022 at 5:15 PM, Marley said:

    I don’t care who Jackie is friends with I just think it’s gross for her to exploit her kids feelings about the eating disorder and just have it all out there for everyone to see. Not everything has to be filmed. I also think she’s fooling herself in these episodes. Maybe she isn’t now but I think she was in the beginning.

    To be fair, I think that's possibly part of the process.  

    Case in point, the ice cream.  We saw her take a couple of bites.  We saw her give her kids a few bites.  She said to the therapist that she probably didn't eat more than half the cup.  Honestly, she was probably being generous in that estimation.  Then take into account that her kids ate some too, she ate even less.  But the reality is that as she learns how to take just ONE bite of ice cream, 4 bites of ice cream, half a cup of ice cream, etc. and sees that her world DOESN'T come crumbling down around her, the recovery will seem and feel more real.  

    As for the kids, I don't know what to think.  On the one hand she's said that she wants to shield them from it and has tried to even though Evan has said that they have always noticed that she eats differently from everybody else and have asked questions.  She also filmed scenes with her father, with her two younger ones there, talking about her eating disorder (in the past tense), so it's not like they didn't know that it existed - even if they were too young to understand what it really means.  So I guess she's tried and failed to shield them from the present day, not necessarily the past? 

    From my standpoint, the vitriol towards Jackie just doesn't make sense.  Why? People don't like her because she was a fan of the show before she came on?  She comes off as too confident?  She dared to cross Tre? (ding ding ding)  She has an eating disorder?  She isn't as honest as some people have pointed out?  She's hypocritical at times?  Because she doesn't believe that her husband cheated on her?  Because her hair frizzes in the NJ summer humidity and she wears too much light wash denim?  Because she can be smug?  Sorry but that's not a reason to fire her and with the exception of the eating disorder, you could literally apply those statements towards any one of those housewives, trading in and out a few words (labels vs. light wash denim).  It's also not a reason/justification for the level of hatred thrown towards her.  

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  7. 18 hours ago, MsMalin said:

    I was listening to Andy's Sirius show when he was talking about the reunion. He said a lot of deep.damage has been done. Didn't give details of course but he did say Tre had appendicitis the week before and she was wearing a skin tight jumpsuit. He told her before the show she was not allowed to scream because she could pop a stitch. Then during the show he put out a question which apparently led to a one hour screaming fight (Tre).

    He said he had absolutely no control over the ladies during the reunion. Sounds wild.

    There's video out there that shows him apologizing to Melissa for asking the question.  And according to spoilers it is:

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    Joe Gorga who storms off set during an argument about his relationship with Gia.  My issue with this is that the Gorga's are so calculating and fake about their storyline, who knows what's true vs. what's made up for the show, or what they plan in advance to play out in the show so that it comes off as real.  I'd have an easier time believing it if it were any other cast member at the table.  If Jackie stormed off? I'd believe it.  If Bill stormed off?  I'd believe it. If Frank stormed off? I'd believe it.  The inauthentic Gorgas?  Who knows what to believe.  

     

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  8. 28 minutes ago, mostlylurking said:

    Even with all the drama of having Tre and Juicy as parents the Guidice girls all seem to be turning out ok. Makes me feel better about my kids’ chances 😉

    Keep watching.  Gia seriously grates this season with all the HBIC attitude but I'm hoping we can chalk it up to being 20 and thinking you know everything better than everybody and she grows out of it.  

     

  9. On 4/8/2022 at 9:57 AM, TexasGal said:

    Jennifer would have looked great without the boa sleeves.

    Agreed.  And a different earring.  I know Chanel is her thing but I loathe the labels everywhere.

    Call me old but I remember when having the symbol all over everything was considered gauche and cheap - the people who didn't know better and who certainly couldn't afford the real thing thought it was a status symbol when all it did was make them look cheap and tacky and straight outta Chinatown knockoff row.

    Now it still makes people look cheap and tacky but the symbols are everywhere and the people who can afford the real thing have embraced such a tacky look.  I am eagerly awaiting for the pendulum to swing back the other way.

    Anyway, Jennifer would look great without the feather and a different earring.  Her best reunion look was the purple dress. 

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  10. 2 hours ago, sATL said:

    yep. he definitely had some memorable moments..

    And the board had a great discussion about that cook:  was it a  squid vs. octopus. I guess that is the beauty of living near the ocean - get those "products" in such a fresh-visual manner.. one just can't run to the nearest Kroger and get a 5lb squid to put in a pot...

    for once I didn't object to all of the flashback clips. I think I will miss Tre's house too - surprised Miliana took the packing  so well.

    And it was nice to come full circle on the venure - what 10+ years later since Joey's christening ? I wonder how much does it cost to hold an event in a venue like that - the staff, decor, food, and the rental...If the place is still standing after all of this time it must be affordable to those who are not on TV.. I would be like Marge Sr - as it would too take me 75 years to get there on my dime..

    I would guess around somewhere around 175 a head.  A wedding reception at the manor probably runs you between 225-300 a head, depending on time of year, day of the week and package selection and experience and food add-ons. That would include full cocktail hour with open bar, a 3 course dinner and dessert options beyond the cake.  It would also include full staff, including people assigned to just the bride and groom (need somebody to hold you champagne while you give a hug? Gotta pee but can't find a friend to hold your dress? Somebody is discreetly at your side that you don't even notice until you need someone).  It would not include music, florals or any other extras.  Price goes up if you have the ceremony on site.  Pricing for other events vary based on your preferences, but do cost less than the wedding packages.   Event venues like the Manor are common in Northern NJ (the manor, the rockleigh, Florentine gardens, etc.) and also popular for proms, sweet 16s, big parties like this one and the baptism, school fundraisers, etc.  They have all been around forever, and hold multiple events a night because they have so many different spaces.  

    Some might wonder why I didn't mention the Brownstone.  The Manor is considered much nicer than the Brownstone.  But same purpose.  The Brownstone is really just kind of average in the "event venue" world of NJ.  Not that it doesn't do a wonderful job, it does, but it isn't at the same level as some of the other spaces. Plus it is on a seriously shitty neighborhood in Paterson.  

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  11. They are all on social.

    Jackie's look theoretically should work, but I don't know, it doesn't do anything for her.  Great earrings though.

    Dolores looks like a super klassy escort.

    Melissa's look is just too predictable  and I think my disco barbie had the same outfit.

    Teresa looks like horrible.  She needs to learn how to dress, these tight jumpsuits do her no favors and between the shit personality and the stumpy body she's got these days, she needs some help.  

    Jennifer overdid it.  To be fair, Jennifer overdoes everything, she is just very...big.  But the hair, the accessories, the feathers and you are left with a big no.

    Traci's dress color is bad and the Daryl Hannah hair circa-Splash is tragic.  

    Margaret looks phenomenal.  

     

     

     

     

     

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  12. 9 hours ago, lilmarysunshine said:

    You can love them but they can destroy you in the process. Kanye West is sick. Was Kim K. wrong to leave him?

    At its core an ED is a mental illness. It is not easy being married to someone who is mentally ill. It is different from other illnesses in terms of compliance, etc. 

    Their wedding pictures show Jackie as skeletal so he knew what he was getting into but it does not make it easy on him and I can see him bailing if she refuses help. 

     

     

    The cruel and heartless language on this forum around Jackie's eating disorder is pretty horrifying, however this post raises an interesting point --

    Evan dated and married Jackie knowing that there were issues that people are pointing out as "reasons" for him to cheat, leave, etc.  For example, by the time she met him, this was already manifesting and by the time they got married she was clearly fully anorexic, it didn't just pop up then.  She never gave blow jobs - not just with Evan but with anyone.  And yes, they fell in love and got married and grew their life and family together.  There's plenty of good within that, and no doubt plenty of reasons to stay in love and be happy.  An eating disorder, or any mental illness, is not a death sentence to a relationship nor does it have to be.  Could it be?  Sure.  But they can also come out the other side of this happier and with a stronger and healthier relationship.  

    With therapy for an eating disorder comes the opportunity to also involve your family with your therapy.  For all we know that's happening.  For all we know Evan is seeing somebody too, as others have said it's not easy living with somebody with an eating disorder, or any type of mental illness.  Jackie has recently said that she's out of the danger zone, she's eating healthy, she has an entire team of doctors - not just a therapist, but a nutritionist and others.  She's a new clothing size, which she admits is a challenge but her team is helping her and supporting her.  And she said that part of the reason why she DID put it on the show was - for better or worse - a way to help keep her accountable.  Therapy for an eating disorder doesn't just heal the eating disorder, it heals the thinking, the insecurity and the way you look at yourself and your relationships.  It gives you tools to deal with those triggering challenges.  And it doesn't make your eating habits healthier, it makes your mental health better.  It's never just about the eating, that's one small piece of the larger puzzle.  It will also lifelong issue for her, she will be in "recovery" for the rest of her life.  Again, think of an addict who is in recovery.  It's the same concept.  

    So you know what?  GO JACKIE.  Sure, I wouldn't have done this on housewives, but if we're being fair the large majority of people wouldn't go on housewives at all anyway. 

    Nothing but positive vibes for her here.  So like I said, GO JACKIE.  I'm rooting for her and her family during her recovery now and in the future. 

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  13. 3 hours ago, kristen111 said:

    I’m really surprised Bravo keeps her, but Joe is Teresa’s brother, so there’s that.  Melissa isn’t nasty like the others and really doesn’t look for trouble, unless it falls to her.  Other than being a sister in law, she doesn’t have much to offer IMO.  Joes Schtic is boring already.  The sex, jokes, after her every minute, etc.  I’m surprised they put her on that Girls Trip.

    Honestly, this season I view Teresa as the weak link.  Or maybe odd man out is the better phrase.  Yes she is fueding with everybody (my god, isn't she exhausted by it all??) but there are other interesting dynamics at play.  I used to think that the show really did need Tre as that anchor but this season, not really. There is enough natural drama and humor between this cast without Teresa screeching.  Does Melissa need to be there too?  Maybe not.  But I can more easily see Teresa stepping out.  And I am no Melissa and Joe fan.

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  14. Teresa was there.  There's video of Andy telling her she's not allowed to yell at people, she just had surgery.

    Then there's video of Andy and Marg talking where he says he has no voice left, Marge says everybody is just yelling over each other, it's crazy, and then Andy apologizing to Melissa for bringing something up that apparently derailed everything for a really long time.  

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  15. 19 hours ago, Marley said:

    Jackie needs serious help. A small chat with a therapist and trying to eat some ice cream with her kids is not anywhere close to enough help. Evan kind of seems over it too. It’s very sad but Jackie does not seem to want to commit to actually getting help. I don’t know what’s happening in real time tho. I hope she’s getting help because it’s very serious.

    They said it was her second visit with her, and we only saw part of the visit.  And having a bowl of ice cream with her kids - just 1 - would be a huge step and a huge deal for Jackie.  I actually think she seems very committed.  You don't speak that openly with anybody - including your husband - about your active eating disorder if there hasn't been a small shift inside. Even for the paycheck.  Sorry, you just don't.  I think that is legitimately difficult for people who have never been through an eating disorder to understand, but you just wouldn't.  You would insist to your dying day that everything is fine.  Similar to an addict insisting they are fine.

    Keep in mind, we saw 5 minutes of that therapy session.  Not the whole hour.

    Being friends with Tre is like being in an abusive relationship.  I mean - if she wants to have the girls wear her stuff, how about not being a total asshole to everybody literally 5 seconds prior?  For somebody in her love bubble, she sure is miss pissy pants all the time lately.  And Gia says all this stuff and follows it with a smirk, all "oooooooh, I got you good."  So wipe that face off your head, baby Tre.

    And while everybody is confessing that they think Evan cheated, put me on the camp who thinks Gia probably DOES do drugs at parties.  

    Was Jennifer a bit drunk during her dinner with Bill?  It seemed like that margarita gave her some liquid courage.  I actually think that Bill seemed pissed off at dinner - quietly but highly pissed off.

    Tre and Juicy knew each other from when she was born.  She had said that his father was even at the hospital when she was born.  Joe has said he thought Juicy was family, he was always around because the families were so close. There is video of Tre and Joe dancing at her sweet sixteen together.  She said they started dating when she started going to bars and clubs and he would be there. 

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  16. I cried with Jackie.  I have suffered with bulimia for a long time.  I find this incredibly brave, but in some ways very triggering -- it is never just about the food and weight, it is so much more and those initial fears "will I still be loved if my body changes?" were so relatable.  Still trying to process some of what I watched but, I do know it was powerful.

    Teresa is such a piece of shit.  Get off my screen. Jesus.  And Regina George needs to take several seats or get hit by the bus or whatever. They are disgusting.  

    Oceanos!!!!  I LOVE Oceanos!  

    The game looked fun.

     

     

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  17. On 3/26/2022 at 3:10 AM, Marley said:

    Traci is trash and so is Tiki. I can hate both of them. I wish they would go away.

    They really don't work for the franchise. RHONJ had a personality and they don't fit into it.  Plus, they are playing a role of who they think they should be on the housewives.  And that doesn't quite work here.

    And honestly, I have to say, I think if they were to see Melissa now she wouldn't be cast either.  She was much more interesting in her original, spoiled, "and we pay our bills, thank you jeeezus" persona than what we have now.  

    If you are not authentic, it comes through. 

     

     

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  18. I thought it was a Caesar salad.

    So Jackie and her proposed therapy treatment -- clearly both Evan and Margaret thought that if they are first and foremost recommending in-person treatment that she should do that.  I don't blame them.  That is some pretty serious work they are suggesting.  And Jackie saying "I know what I need," oh dear.  No, she doesn't.  If she knew what she needed she wouldn't be where she is, she clearly does NOT know what she needs. 

     

    You can't say, "I had an eating disorder for 20 years, got better, I am good now! But I'm really not, I was just faking it by doing the bare minimum so I will get help I need." And then when they suggest what you actually DO need, you take the easiest path possible, insisting you don't need the medical professionals primary or even secondary recommendation.  She clearly thinks she is taking this seriously but the reality is she is once again just doing the minimum to get to a place where she feels a bit better and will think she is cured.  Her perception is so skewed, she had no idea what normal and healthy should actually feel like.   

    I hope what she is doing is working, I hope she gets healthy but nothing about that conversation indicated any sort of acceptance or acknowledgment that somebody might know better than her on her recovery.  

     

     

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