Of course, that doesn't mean as you marvel as they learn and grow you don't also feel some sadness when they progress out of each stage and march confidently towards the inevitable day when they leave the nest.
I didn't assume that she wasn't packing them up for future siblings or cousins. I would be shocked if she was throwing them away but I would feel no ill will towards her if instead she were donating them or even taking them to a resell shop. All three of the reuse options are very valid choices with different benefits.
Well, I'm sure the extra mothers and siblings would be happy to help her out if they all were a little closer geographically, this one can't be pinned on the foibles of polygamy only the realities of the modern world and transient nature of life today.
Please excuse a bit of a rant that has been building for quite sometime...
re: the expressions of difficulty, or feelings of sorrow, or assumptions of angst in regards to Evie... As a mother of a 21 yr old with a genetic disability, I did not and do not appreciate when people try to offer "comfort" with platitudes such as "I'm sorry for...", "It must be so hard for you...", "He will have a difficult life...", "You're so strong/ amazing/ resourceful/ etc...", etc, etc, etc and almost always with a look of pity in their eyes and sorrowful expression. Just the opposite, I HATE it! My son is NOT a challenge, he is NOT a hardship, he is NOT a lot of work, he is NOT living a pitiful life, he is NOT struggling through exceptional difficulties, and neither am I. Like ALL well adjusted children and young adults, he IS content with who he is, he IS doing the best he is able, he IS joyful and happy, he IS contributing, he IS thriving, and he IS a reminder to everyone that we are ALL worthy and have value. Just like all children, no two people are alike, everyone faces challenges and difficulties, no one is immune and everyone enhances the lives around them in very different and individual ways and just like my daughter, he has brought a great deal of joy and enrichment to my life. So what can you say when you find out someone has a child born with a disability? "Congratulations on the birth of you son/daughter. Let me know if there is anything I can do. Maybe bring a casserole for dinner since you'll be busy and tired with a newborn?" /rant