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  1. Don't kill me, I'm 65 and have "great hair" and have never had hormone therapy, but I started out with too much hair so there is that. I wonder how long that's going to last! So perhaps it's just genetics. I wish she would cut it a few inches, though. I just like it better the way she had it before. Victoria's weight is like the elephant in the room, no pun intended (seriously, no). I have to imagine that Theresa must talk about it with her daughter off camera but on camera it's silence. I guess if she has medical issues they may not want to disclose that on the show. It doesn't help that she wears the same ginormous oversized tee shirt all the time. She is an attractive young woman and is not doing herself justice. I get it that she is a SAHM and has more on her mind than her appearance, but there are health concerns too.
  2. I have to give this show its due as just about everything about it has improved from season 1. I even like Abby's new boyfriend. He's good looking and I like their on-screen chemistry. And yes to Roz coming back next season. I do hope there is one. I can't imagine why not but these days I know better than to assume.
  3. I think my reaction was based more on who it was coming from rather than the comments themselves. I probably don't register those comments so much with posters I don't recognize.
  4. At least what you thought about Bennet and Amelia was based on what you saw on the show. I thought their bare feet didn't look too hygienic myself but again, based on what I saw with my eyes, not something I pulled out of the ether based on my experience with someone in my personal life. Also, men like Chris and Puke were doing particularly despicable things to their spouses and like you say, probably deserved being called those names. Emily might have personal failings and a drinking problem but is she on that same level of evil? I don't think so. And I'm even including that make out session with the Aussie guy at the bar especially if she was doing it after she and Brennan had agreed that they were going nowhere and she was above board about it with the show. I've been saying I don't think she deserves the particularly nasty names she's been called, not that any other woman would either based on the behavior we're talking about here. I think there's an ethical difference there.
  5. I was specifically responding to these and other similar comments: And other than seeing numerous discussions about her cleavage and choice of wardrobe I have not been aware of seeing comments like the ones above when she was on the show. I would normally remember that. In fact, I was surprised that the specific posters that made those comments actually had those opinions because I'd never known that about them before. YMMV. I don't mind a discussion about the pros and cons of the new and old host but I just feel like there's a fascination for Kristin that makes people want to find more fault with Padma just to justify it. That's of course my suspicion, no one has to agree with me on that.
  6. Wasn't it that "Clarapist" forwarded or showed them to her? I don't know if that was mentioned. It was at times hard to follow this video. Although I do think some of the "tea" was from "MAFSfan" too. It took me a while to figure out who she was talking about when she called Clare "Clarapist". Wouldn't it have made more sense to call her "Clare-apist"? At least it would have rhymed with "therapist". Well, almost!
  7. Thanks to you and whoever else pointed this out but I am well aware of that and did allow for that in my post about this when I said the following: Also, my opinions about both Kristin and Padma have been formed by watching both of them not only on this show but in other situations when just being "themselves", and I still feel that Padma has the edge in the warmth department overall. YMMV. That's OK, not everyone I like is warm and fuzzy! I'm also a little concerned about how people have lined up to bash Padma after she's gone. I don't remember people bashing Padma so much when she was on the show. In fact I thought most people defended her. Go figure.
  8. I've had a few people I knew as a kid die, but I'm 65, although a couple of them died decades ago. I think it depends on the job. I've never had an easy work situation but it wasn't always so draining that I didn't have time or energy for anything when I got home. Some stress is more destructive than others. In one of my least happy job situations I was able to go to grad. school part time and even bike ride after work in the warm weather. Of course I was much younger then! I would say that it was only in those cases where I had those "horrible bosses" that I didn't have energy for anything else. Of course I never had children so I don't know what that's like. Both of my parents worked full time after I was 9 and it was never easy for them either, especially when my mother also went to college at night, although I was already a teenager by that time. I have to admire how they were able to give me the attention I needed back then. I was an only child and pretty introverted so I didn't need tons of parental attention anyway. They were of an older generation so they weren't as hands on 24/7 with me as parents are today, and I was a latch-key kid, although my grandma lived in our building and I went to her house after school. Back then we used to say it "took a village" to raise a child. Anyway, if a job is that horrible that you're completely depleted after the work day I'd definitely say it's time to change jobs. A job is not worth your mental and physical health. I learned that lesson late in life when I almost got an ulcer because of a horrible boss (see above for that story). I also believe that situation was indirectly responsible for me losing my gallbladder. I was so stressed out I wasn't paying enough attention to my diet and I gained weight. I was already in my mid 50s at the time. Also, please don't take this the wrong way but this is one of my language pet peeves. This is intended only its educational value - the phrase is "per se" not "per say". Here's an explanation: https://www.dictionary.com/e/per-say-or-per-se/ Also note that while I have my grammar/usage pet peeves I am no stranger to committing such mistakes myself. As they say, "those that don't do teach"! 😉
  9. LOL, yeah, I still see them once in a while, they've been around since the '70s. They're based in the Bronx. They also serve Fairfield County, CT. Another one I used to see is "Nice Jewish Boy with Truck" but I don't think that one's around anymore.
  10. I still record the show and delete it if none of the recipes appeals to me, which seems to happen a lot lately. And even on the episodes I save there might be one interesting recipe on it, which I fast forward to watch. And most of the time after I watch it, I don't save the recipe to make later. So that just goes to show how over this show I am. And now I can finally say I'm literally "just here for the food", LOL. 😉
  11. No, Brennan has avoided disclosing why he doesn't find Emily attractive and a lot of people have been speculating that it's his disapproval of her lifestyle that's the reason, and also why he's claiming that he's "protecting her" by not revealing that reason. I have seen a lot of speculation from both Brennan supporters and non-supporters that he doesn't respect her for her lifestyle despite what he's said on camera about caring about her. He can care about her and not respect her at the same time. I don't think that's a stretch to conclude based on his behavior and overall demeanor toward her. Why would he be putting it in those terms of "protecting her" if there wasn't something he knew about her that he thought was potentially damaging to her? And what would that be other than her lifestyle? It's hard to imagine. I personally feel that Brennan's primary motivation for not revealing why he isn't attracted to her is to protect himself from looking bad on camera, not necessarily to protect her. He has resisted saying anything on camera about this to a really extreme degree, and seems overly concerned with how he looks to the public. It's not just me that thinks that - it has been mentioned by the women on the show too, which is why I feel that way. I'm not just speculating here without reasons to back it up.
  12. Speaking for myself here, but there's not one thing I've posted about the men that isn't traceable to actual behavior I've seen of them on screen. I have not called any of them insulting sexist names. Just about the worst I've called Brennan is a possible narcissist but that could be said of either a man or a woman. His disrespect for Emily has not been questioned by either side, it's just that some people think Emily deserves that disrespect. I don't. I have not doubted that she possibly has a drinking problem but I have not supported disrespecting her on that account and whatever she does in the bedroom, nor do I think she deserves to be called names like "floozie" "ho" and "loose woman" for it either. And speaking of projection, I'd like to know how anyone can assume any of these people "smells" just because they've "known people like them". Becca's hygiene has been brought up repeatedly. Like anyone knows how often she bathes! There's more on-camera evidence for Brennan's lack of respect for Emily's lifestyle than Becca's supposed lack of hygiene! Has anyone seen dirt on her? No! And yet some are convinced of this and that she must be "lazy" despite a lot of evidence of her having a very successful photography business. And as far as Austin goes, Becca herself said he was gaslighting her so talking about that comes directly from her mouth and what I've seen him do on the show, not from "projection". I have seen him leading her on with my own two eyes, it's not "projection". He is on camera acting like he's into her so how that could be projection I don't know. I have empathized with Becca's feelings having been in a similar situation once, but I have not projected my own experience onto hers. I have tried to understand her perspective in the unique set of circumstances she is facing on this stupid show. If there was indeed producer manipulation and things left on the cutting room floor that would make the men look worse and the women better it's not projection to talk about that either. Nor to conclude based on what was seen that someone might be a narcissist. Perhaps "speculation" is a better word. But that's what everyone does here all the time. It's fine to speculate but it's not OK to denigrate someone's lifestyle. I don't support Emily's lifestyle either but I still wouldn't call her the sexist put downs I've seen her called here. I have never once called a woman any of those things nor a man either. It's fine to disapprove of someone's lifestyle but to call them those names is another story altogether.
  13. Congrats on the interview, I hope you get it! I would have loved to go back to work at a university but somehow it never happened for me. After working in the business world for so long I think I got typecast. I also just didn't hit the right situation for me. I recently looked at a former coworker's Linkedin page and found that she is now working at a university I interviewed with in 2019 in a different department. I wish that opening was available when I was looking as it would have been more to my liking. In my case it doesn't help that I was at least 10 years younger than most of the people that interviewed me. I know that age had a lot to do with me not hitting it right at that time. That former coworker is over 15 years my junior. I tried to mask my age creatively on my resume and I do look younger, but today that's not enough. They have their ways of knowing how old you really are. That horrible female boss I had at a university was when I had just gotten out of grad. school and got a position as a counselor in a federally funded counseling program for disadvantaged students. It was a small department and I was the only counselor. I should have known something was wrong when the head of the program was so enamored of me she acted like I was the greatest thing ever to walk through her door. She told me she chose my resume out of 700 that had been sent to the Chronicle of Higher Education based on having gone to her alma mater. She was gushing and nice for the first week, then suddenly it all went downhill. She started criticizing every little thing I did and telling me I had to do things that were frankly unethical, like go through the new student rolls and sign students up for the program without their knowledge or consent! She forced me to go to the student dormitories to interview them when they hadn't even made an appointment for a session, and if I didn't do enough of it I had to sit through a daily "abuse session" where she listed all the things I was supposedly not doing right. I was young, fresh out of grad. school and idealistic. This was the LAST thing I thought would ever happen to me! It sent me into a panic and near nervous breakdown. My husband was so upset he went to the Dean to complain but the university acted like they had no power over this woman because she "technically worked for the government". BULLSHIT. He even went as far as to complain to NY State and the Federal gov't. about all the unethical things she was making me do. You see, this program would lose its Federal funding if it didn't fulfill certain quotas in terms of enrollment and sessions. And obviously it was in danger of losing that funding, hence the unethical stuff. Well, the State and Federal gov't. heard my husband out but nothing happened. I then found out that I was the 7th person in 5 years to hold that position. I found the evidence in the file cabinet in my office. I ended up calling all of those people and got an earful from each of them! It turns out I was her "next victim" and they all had the exact same experience! All of them left the position after less than a year. I managed to get all of them to meet with me at a restaurant where we had a very cathartic dinner together sharing our tales of woe. They all thanked me and said it helped them get over what was a very traumatic experience. Anyway I ended up quitting that job soon after. As it turned out, I got unemployment insurance anyway because I had only worked there a few months so my former employer was the one to be paying it, and I knew and had a good relationship with the head of HR there, which helped. We had a big recession that year (1991) so I ended up collecting UI benefits for an entire year thanks to double digit unemployment. I was so traumatized by this experience I was just as happy not being required to interview for the first 6 months. Plus we had just moved to CT so it was an adjustment. It was after that that I ended up in the business world. I got a job at Deloitte as an admin. where they taught me Windows 3.1 on the job. I was very happy there for 4 years. It was one of my better job experiences for sure. I needed that. I ended up staying in the business world after that. Whoo, sorry I went on so long! I share this stuff in case anyone is wondering if I brought my lack of success on myself in my career. I can assure them I did not. I had very shitty luck. I hope you are far luckier than I was!
  14. Thank you, I agree with you 100% about everything. You, me and at least a couple of others are similarly upset about the frankly sexist shaming and character assassinations happening here, and that's what we're reacting to so strongly. These insulting comments are precisely what got other threads shut down on the board recently. Do we really want that to happen here? And I'm sure you know this but there's a difference between criticizing these people's behavior and insulting them personally in such a nasty fashion. It's one thing to wonder if they are lying, acting or delusional and another to conjecture that they "must smell" or are lazy. If we see evidence of poor hygiene or laziness on screen, maybe, but when that's not even a thing on the show and the person is a successful business owner, it's not. It's one thing to speculate whether a person has a drinking problem, or is engaging in immature behavior not suitable for a marriage, but quite another to call them a drunk, slut, "ho" that no man would want and all the rest. Thanks for posting about this!
  15. LOL, good to hear! I've been married so long I gave up reminding my husband a long time ago. I hope you have better luck.
  16. Well, the good news is I did get my laundry done! And even better, the rain appears to have moved through faster than they thought it would and it petered out well before the middle of the night. Yay!
  17. That doesn't mean it's evenly split in the world. I wonder how hard they had to try to find examples of the other way around. No matter how I phrase the search absolutely NOTHING comes up about men marrying female inmates. It's ALL about women marrying male inmates. And I consider that pretty telling.
  18. This is interesting. I've actually had more male bosses than female. I've had some horrible female bosses. Judging from the way the other women I worked with felt about them, I was far from alone. I think it depends on the field and the basis upon which you work with women that makes the difference. Women in high positions in the corporate world are no piece of cake to work for in general. I more often found myself better able to get a fair shake from male bosses than female ones. Of course there were a couple of male bosses that were awful too but they were the exceptions. And I was no stranger to sexual harassment either. But despite that the female bosses were by far the worst and after a couple of bad experiences I actively avoided jobs with them. In my last job the really nice male boss I had for a few years left and a woman took his place. She was a raging malignant narcissist that almost gave me a nervous breakdown and an ulcer. In less than a year literally half the department left under her (at least 12 people!) and I regularly had to counsel people in tears in the supply closet on a daily basis - and that included men! As her assistant I became the "lightening rod" for her abuse. When I complained to HR about her they were sympathetic and clued me in that she would probably be transferring soon to a Midwest office. Fortunately it happened only a couple of months later or I might have had to leave. I would love to say that my experiences were the exception, but after working for over 35 years I saw enough from the sidelines with other people's work situations to know that this kind of experience was by far not unique to me. One of my best female friends who I met through my last job and we both had similar experiences with female bosses over the years. Her last boss at our company was yet another example. I don't doubt that this may not be typical in other types of businesses or organizations, although the other "most horrible female boss" I ever had was in the field of Education at a university counseling program. My long time BFF worked for decades at a university and had similar experiences with female bosses. I have known a few women that preferred to work with women but they were the exceptions and all I can say is "God bless" because despite wanting to work with female bosses they never seemed to like me no matter what I did.
  19. Thanks for posting this. None of this is any surprise to me. It squares with every one of my hunches and perceptions even before hearing these behind the scenes details. I think this woman is on the right track. I also think that one of the reasons the episodes were so whitewashed of any of what she's finding out really went down behind the scenes is because that one producer was slanting and editing things to make the women look bad. Her "friendship" with Austin made her pretty biased in that regard so that's likely why we didn't get to see some of the things that would make the women look better and the men worse. I hear Emily about Keisha bringing her husband on to pile on in criticizing the women's behavior. That wasn't lost on me either and it pissed me off. What a load of crap.
  20. I hate to say this, but judging from how many women actually marry convicted male murderers and other men with socially unacceptable pasts that they are fully aware of, it's obvious to me that this kind of thing doesn't work the same way in reverse. Men in general seem to have higher standards for their women when it comes to socially unacceptable behavior based on sheer statistics. There's even a new show on Lifetime about "Prison Brides". There's no such phenomenon for men marrying women in prison. A brief Google search confirms that it's not even a thing. So while fewer women might be down with marrying a man with a "sexual/partying past" or even "present", it's likely not as avoided by women who are looking to marry men as it is by men looking to marry women even if everyone is honest and open about their behavior. And THAT's part of the double standard right there, and why I don't agree with you.
  21. Men usually don't tell women that they engage in that sort of behavior because they know it might put them off. I am sure I was not told the truth by men in my past either. But it is still more socially acceptable for men to engage in this behavior than women and it is still less socially acceptable for a woman to engage in it than a man in our society. And yes, I am looking at the behavior. I think it's brave that Emily has admitted to it publicly. I know virtually no women would have been that open about it decades ago. They're generally still not because they know people would judge them for it. Unfortunately there are still a lot of people out there that would call Emily a "ho" or "floozie" or "loose woman" while they would never use those kinds of insulting terms for a man that did the exact same thing. The sad thing is that there are a lot of men out there who would engage in that behavior themselves that would still judge a woman for it. And that's probably at least part of the reason Emily hasn't gotten called for a second date. If she admits to it or gives the impression that she engages in it, it's unfortunately going to work against her. Is it stupid for her to do that? Perhaps, but the double standard about this is still unfair to women and to her. Also, it's not fair to assume that her behavior is that extreme even if she admits to engaging in that behavior. She may not be doing this every day or week or whatever someone might assume. That said, Brennan strikes me as a pretty uptight sort of guy. Another guy might not have been so hung up on her behavior and wouldn't have jumped to all sorts of negative conclusions about her. Another guy might have at least given her a chance. I've seen people that engage in that sort of lifestyle meet the right person and suddenly settle down and not want to do it anymore. I'm not saying Emily would necessarily do that but it is possible. If she was looking to get married perhaps she was ready to stop bed hopping. Did we ever hear what her thoughts were on this? No, but obviously Brennan was shut off from hearing her and jumped to his own conclusions right away. I can't imagine that she seriously thought she could get married and still maintain that kind of lifestyle. If so I'd say she lives in a dream world and needs help. But I have a feeling there's a whole side to this from her perspective that we haven't been allowed to see because the show itself is making her look as bad as it possibly can.
  22. He didn't have to. The look on his face said it all. And that's one reason he kept harping on about how he was "protecting her" as if he was doing her a favor. According to him, if he really spilled how he felt and listed the reasons why, it would be damaging to her public image. I personally don't believe that this was his motivation. I think he was keeping his mouth shut so as not to look like the bad guy that would talk down about a woman for her lifestyle. But stupid him, he doesn't realize we've figured him out anyway in spite of keeping his mouth shut. And he did leak some stuff anyway. If anyone remembers season 4 when that flight attendant Heather was matched with that guy Derek who supposedly "smoked too much" (although we were never told what, people just assumed it was weed), it was a similar situation. She obviously looked down on his lifestyle and called it quits after only 10 days. She kept to her word and was completely gone from the show. A lot of people saw her as the bad guy in that situation and defended Derek. BTW he's still single and going on Spring Break with the guys at 35 while she's married and had a son in 2020. She's kept all the details very quiet on her personal life but there's enough on her private Instagram for people that can see it to know that. And that's an example of the double standard right there! The party guy got all the sympathy while people saw Heather as a "bitch". OK he didn't have a reputation for sleeping around but I'm sure that wouldn't have mattered (and let's be honest, I'm sure he's no choirboy). People blamed Heather for not giving things a chance with him when it was obvious to me and some others that even without the smoking he was not a good candidate for marriage. She could have been nicer about it, but so could Brennan be nicer about Emily (and he doesn't look great even though he's trying to avoid looking bad). It doesn't seem to matter what a woman does in this type of situation! Even when the tables are almost turned people who adhere to a double standard between men and women see the guy in a more positive light and don't disrespect him for his lifestyle, while the woman that can't accept it is seen as the "bitch".
  23. I've basically been procrastinating. I really should be doing laundry but I'm watching YouTubes, puttering in the kitchen, making shopping lists, watching backed up episodes of cooking shows, setting the DVR to record movies on TCM, reading this board, adding stuff to my Amazon watch list, you name it. The weather here is rainy and yucky too. Tonight it's supposed to rain buckets. Just what we need after the rainiest season ever up here.
  24. Another one of my favorite Python sketches with an ant in it. If you watch it to the end there's also the Spanish Inquisition. It's only 7 minutes and worth it!
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