I'm having trouble processing the 7 years timeline of Mon-el arriving and getting married.
Kara and Mon-el had a unique relationship. Very unique in that both their worlds were destroyed. Both came from planets that were enemies. Yet, they came together, despite the different background and how different their personalities were. Kara managed to help guide him for the better and even gave her only item that belongs to her identity, the necklace, to Mon-el. Mon-el went against his family and chose Kara and Earth, as well as become a hero, all for his love of Kara. They're literally soul mates.
So, with this in mind, we can see how deeply they were in love.
Let's assume, Mon-el met Irma right when he arrived in the future after going through the wormhole. Lets assume, there's no way he would develop feelings for Irma during the first year. That'll be too quick esp with the kind of relationship he had with Kara. It's a bond we can't understand because we never had to go through what they went through..
So let's say it's year 2, he may develop some feelings for her but he feels the guilt, and how it's still too soon. I mean for them to fall in love this quickly, they must've went through some deep crap. But I don't believe Mon-el is that type of guy.
So let's say year 3 is when he finally decides that it's time to let go. It's been three years and he develops feelings for her. I'll assume they were close friends first and after a year of development, they become gf and bf in year 4. That seems logical. They wouldn't rush into things. Just doesn't seem like the people who would.. Esp being heroes and all.
That would mean they got married pretty recent. I'd say year 6 or 7.. I say that because average couples prob stay as bf/gf for around 5 years or so before they settle. I know for sure though that there are couples who's been in a Relationship way longer and haven't gonna married yet. It's a big commitment. Because of plot, I'll assume they got married after 3 or 4 years of being bf and gf.. That would mean year 6 or 7.
This troubles me because this seems all too fast for a unique couple like Kara and Mon-el.. And I'm giving them a lot of wiggle room by fitting everything in 7 years and assuming they get together pretty quickly.. I don't think that would happen irl.. Maybe for normal couples.. But again.. They weren't normal.. He still has her necklace on too!
This also gives hope that if it was a fast relationship, it might not be as strong as the one with Kara..
On the other hand, it might be just that strong or more because of how fast they got together and married. That would mean they did go through almost everything together to build such a bond.. And that's unsettling for the Karamel fans.
I know Kara and Mon-el got together relatively fast but I'm assuming this is their first real relationship.. It's different and their situation put them in a unique spot.
Alright, who else thinks I'm overthinking haha
I just want Kara to finally be happy again and be with Mon-el..
Hopefully, like what others said, Irma will find his lost husband that is hopefully not dead and can tell Mon-el isn't over Kara since she is telepathic. This way it's a win win and no one is being 2nd picks.