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  1. Thank you very much, very generous. So we agree on the first parts of each other posts, but not the last parts! Shannon has her flaws, but you really think hers are greater than 99.9% of the women on these shows? Who do you think is less flawed than her? And the only franchises I currently watch are Potomac, Atlanta, OC, and NY, so I probably won't know anyone from any other show you might mention unless it's from the first season or two of a couple of the other franchises. Ashley from Potomac seems pretty cool to me, relatively, and Cynthia from Atlanta. There are probably maybe one or two more I could come up with. Okay, thanks for posting this. I never read the blogs or anything. So perfectly understandable she didn't go if she had to support the kids.
  2. I haven't read all the posts, but I don't understand why David gets so much hate on here. Obviously, cheating on someone isn't cool, but probably 90% of the behavior we've seen by Shannon toward him since day 1 of her tenure on this series hasn't been cool either. We don't know what led up to the affair, since we've rarely gotten his side of things, but it's been clear neither of them has been happy the entire time they've been on the show. If David's only been happy two months, why isn't he allowed to express that honestly? Why are David's feelings any less valid than Shannon's? He has to suppress his truth, even in private, while Shannon's allowed to vent hers to foghorn Vicki, her daughters, her mother, that doctor she discussed David's libido with, and the rest of America? If you tell someone you're not happy in the relationship, as David has done many, many times, through word, deed, and body language, and you're informed that "divorce is not an option," what more do people expect of him that he hasn't tried? From what we've seen he's gone to therapy for her; put up with her lemons, buried crystals, hospital air, budgetless and possibly somewhat anal-retentive Christmas decorating rituals, and actual anal retention and required retrieval of wayward home colonic apparatus; bought her lavish gifts; planned a surprise second wedding and honeymoon; defended her against Terry during Lizzy's party, and against Vicki during the 70s party; and tried to comfort her by telling her he didn't care about the allegations Vicki made. But ultimately, if the passion's gone, it's gone. And she couldn't even muster up the support this season to go watch him run an event he trained hard to accomplish. Now if he were an abuser, certainly negativity would be justified. But Shannon, the only known witness to both alleged events, has steadfastly denied that, and Vicki's evidence has never materialized. Shannon could be lying, but without proof, there's really no way for an uninvolved party to know for sure. I really like Shannon, but I don't think I would have stuck around for another two years with someone who snapped at, insulted, berated, and condescended to me the way she has to David. She really doesn't seem to actually like him that much, which is understandable, given how he's hurt her, but then how can you really blame him for not wanting to stick around for a lifetime of that? (A lifetime of potato shaming! It's funny, because poor people tend to argue about money and the problems that arise from that, but seemingly, because they don't have to argue about money, their disagreements fascinatingly revolve around food: David not bringing enough wine for that first dinner party they threw and something about the service or side dish Shannon wasn't happy about, I think; David eating chips before dinner; David taking her to a sports bar for her birthday; Midwestern David and his potatoes; David not praising her quinoa; David drinking tequila in Mexico, and I think there was something she wasn't happy about him drinking during that party in her first season where she got in the charity fight with Megan; Shannon wanting to open a restaurant; David possibly learning to weaponize his chip eating with his silent, passive-aggressive crunching; then, has the dog been eating, etc., etc . . . Like Heather with the onion rings -- is this how rich women wield their power? And externally, Shannon actually throwing food across the table during her spat with Kelly, and trying to control the content of the drinks being served in Ireland. Can we have Top Chef Food Fight: Shannon and David, please? Even now, Shannon says the one thing they've decided to get together for is Sunday dinner.) Back to the point, maybe he's had to fake a lot of stuff for a long time with her, and hold his tongue out of guilt over the affair and not wanting to set her off, and now that he's on the way out the door, he wants to be honest. If so, I think that's a healthy thing. If I've been living in a world of fantasy, and you've only been happy for two months of our lives together, YEAH I want to know -- so I'll know what to look out for with the next guy. Truth can hurt, but it helps you grow. And Shannon has such great potential to grow into an amazingly evolved being. I think she's much closer to it than most of the women on these Housewives shows, who are way too bogged down in materialism.
  3. That was my first thought after the vote too.
  4. Thanks for getting me, even just a little!
  5. The soul always knows. I'm happy that you're happy, but I think it would be really cool if the human race could aspire to more than "fine."
  6. I don't know enough about the science to know how the egg supplied by one woman adapts to the body of another, but a child can't come into this world without a mother being involved somewhere. Women aren't just soulless egg factories. Genetics -- and infants' needs -- aren't something that disappear just because people may choose not to acknowledge them. I realize that Monroe will have a lot more than most children get, but I would suggest that we need to raise the standards of what other children get, not lower everyone else's. The fact that so many adopted children have, and often act on, a longing to find their natural parents would suggest that the human (and animal) soul needs more than safety and comfort. Of course love, as you mentioned, is the key element, and it's tragic that so many kids on earth don't get that; but love should be the baseline expectation for a child coming into the world, not some lofty height. Again, nothing is going to convince me that a baby who is pulled from its mother and immediately handed off to someone else, never to feel her warmth and rhythms again, is not going to sense that perceived rejection, possibly for the rest of their lives, no matter how much love is forthcoming from elsewhere afterwards. Part of the reason so many people in general end up in bad relationships is because they're looking to someone else to provide something they're missing from childhood, whether they're conscious of it or not. I don't think playing down the importance of a soul's earliest possible bond on earth is doing humankind any favors. Throwing water on a kid's head while you furiously do the math to find the richest possible godfather is going to make them bond with God, but the spiritual connection with a mother is meaningless?
  7. I was describing the process of surrogacy.
  8. Life is not always about what "one wants." One doesn't have to start with a newborn. The best decision for Jeff and Gage may not be the best decision for the baby, who is deprived of her mother's milk during her most formative period, for one thing, at the most basic level. And as she gets older, however nurturing Gage may be, there may be an emotional hole as she wonders why her mother essentially sold her like a piece of merchandise. Full disclosure: I'm a vegetarian who doesn't even approve of the way humans rip animal families apart or breed them because of their own desires to have cute little kittens or handbag puppies (I've seen way too many nature documentaries to buy the belief that animals don't bond to each other and feel emotional pain upon separation just like we do), so you're not going to convince me that human babies should be torn from their parents unless they are not fit to raise them for some reason.
  9. I don't think humans can will biology away, as much as they try. Milk production, estrogen, symbiosis -- it's not an accident. Now certainly not every mother or father feels a healthy bond to their child, and there are plenty of unfit parents. But bringing a child into the world expressly to separate it from its mother seems like an unkind thing to do, to me. There are plenty of motherless children to adopt.
  10. Really liking this season so far. I started watching again last season after a hiatus of many years. Are all the old-style challenges gone? Last season I noticed there was no auction (one of the very best parts of Survivor!), and I seem to remember there being a lot more intellectual and psychological challenges and not just endless physical ones. There were memory games, and ones where you had to solve clues to find things in the woods, and problem-solving ones that required more elevated strategizing than "Here's a thought: Why not get the heavier people to lift the light person to the top of this tower we're stacking?" Last season seemed to be about 70% swimming challenges, and 30% how long can you stand on this stump challenges. (With the obligatory puzzle or maze here and there, but how about giving the intellectuals more love?) Wasn't there once one where you had to be able to recite facts about your tribemates or something, to show how well you'd gotten to know them? More variety, please, CBS. Maybe they only did the less-physical challenges back then because everyone was starving all the time? Which doesn't seem to be the case anymore (which is a good thing -- no reason anyone should die for a TV show). I do miss the drama about who wasn't getting water enough and such, though. And whatever happened to Tree Mail? I'm old-school. (Yes, I remember the Conch Shell of Truth, or whatever it was.) Didn't they get riddles about what their next challenge would be or something and implements to practice for it? THAT'S what they should do. Tribes should have to solve a riddle to find out where one of the challenges will be, and if they don't make it in time they're automatically disqualified. Or any extra time they spend getting there compared to other teams gets subtracted from the time they have to complete the physical challenge. I love the creativity with the advantages this season, including strictly limited time frames, mandated passing on to other tribes, and secret placements in things like bags of chips. I feel like they're doing the quick expirations to avoid the advantage/idol Tribal Council overload of last season that resulted in things like the Cerie boot. Another cool part of this season is that the fallback policy of keeping strong guys around does not seem to be happening at all! Even all the "alpha" males pretty much seem to be allying with women or less-physically imposing men instead of each other. How are people just noticing that Devon's hot? Then again, I think I'm just noticing for the first time that there's someone named Roark. I literally was like, who the hell is that? I do think it seems fundamentally unfair to present a disadvantage as an advantage. I think for Devon the outside should have read something like "Another player has exercised their secret advantage on you." It still wouldn't have given the game away, but it would have kept the label from being fundamentally dishonest, which I think it was. So far I'm loving Lauren's play, and pretty much all the ladies'. I was pleasantly surprised that the woman allied with Allen was so easily able to overcome their differences and be pragmatic about the benefits of sticking together. He was growing on me despite his bumpy start, and I think he exited gracefully despite his obvious shock. Loved Cole folding sheepishly with, "I did tell Ben," after Jessica simply stared at him accusingly for a bit. I don't think she should necessarily give up on him on a personal level -- he doesn't seem to be a practiced liar, which is certainly a positive when it comes to men. If I were her I might start treating him as counterintelligence -- feeding him info that was advantageous to have spread around and only telling him what he needed to know on the way to Tribal. 'Cause now that he's known as so loose-lipped, people are probably automatically going to believe everything he says. Hmmm, maybe that could be a good strategy for him if he decided to start lying. He'll be like the anti-boy-who-cried-wolf. Maybe he PLANNED THIS ALL ALONG . . . Joe definitely isn't my favorite -- especially after having lobbed that potato away last episode that someone was offering to eat because he was pissy about how it was prepared; I would have been PISSED! -- but so far he's no Hantz-level villain; just comical, and it's good to have variety. I haven't seen some of the seasons with the people other posters have been comparing him to, but with his penchant for sowing discord by making up lies about other people and trying to keep people off balance, he reminds me of a much clumsier and less-sophisticated Sandra. A Clouseau to her Sherlock.
  11. So I guess I'm the only one so far who found what seemed to be a nod to the Godfather with all the cutaways to outside action during the baptism somewhat unsettling. It was a great device in the film, but I personally wouldn't want any baby ceremony I had to recall that sequence. But I find religious ceremonies creepy in general anyway. And I guess I'll be the small voice on here to say that babies should have a mother. That's nature's design.
  12. They should have a Best of Housewives Showing Their Medical Papers show. They could have Vicki emphatically clutching her flu diagnosis, Brooks and Vicki trying to sway Tamra with his testing records, Aviva from NYC storming in with her asthma(?) note . . .
  13. Pretty much nothing's going to look like it did when you were younger. That's life. Accept that, and thrive. Physical appearance is certainly an important part of life, but maybe as you get older you realize there's more to life than worrying about how you look all the time. It's all just personal taste, anyway. Personally I'm generally not a big fan of really short hair on any woman of any age (with some exceptions), but I know lots of people do like that. I think this applies equally to short hair. If anything, I think long hair offers more camouflage for poor condition because you can always throw it in a ponytail or braid it or something. Not too many options with short hair other than a hat. I do agree that the super-bleached blonde look doesn't suit too many women, like a lot of the ones on Real Housewives of Orange County over the years.
  14. Maybe she just didn't feel like wearing makeup? Is not wearing makeup equivalent to making a sex tape now?
  15. I'm a big proponent of holism and natural health, so I've never understood voluntarily (or even involuntarily, most of the time) cutting one's body open at all. And I don't understand how a man who loves a woman would ever want her to slice her body open and throw a bag of toxic goop inside. To me, such a request would have me leaning toward Dumpsville. I have the world's saggiest boobs, but that's the way they're going to stay, 'cause I'm all about the real thing. And any man who doesn't like the package can move on. So many of the Housewives' breasts to me have just looked so painful, like the skin is actually screaming out against the tension. It's a phenomenon I don't understand. I guess many women use it as an attention-getting device; but I think the thing is, once they get that attention, if they don't have anything else of substance to offer a man, that attention often wanes. And then I guess they just keep going bigger to get more and more attention.
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