Well, they've done better with a chore wheel for 6 than I ever did for 2! I can sympathize with Danielle because I would read about some technique to get your kids to do x better, be super jazzed to try it, and then watch it crumble in front of me minutes later. Multiple halfhearted attempts later, I'd abandon it for good. Granted, I worked full time and was a (divorced) single mom, but young children are really mentally exhausting.
I get the crying because I had tremendous guilt too, especially after losing my temper (I always apologize to my kids as well!)
Since my ex had the kids every other weekend, I guess I got breaks too, although it definitely wasn't to go on vacations! Adam seems like more of an obstacle than help most of the time. IDK, she seems sincere to me and just has the usual mommy guilt/overwhelmed-with-it-all burden 🤷♀️