The actor that plays John, Eric Bana,is a total babe and if the real life John looked like him I could totally why Deb fell in love with him depite the red flags. But unfortunately the real John was just average looking so I am not really sure what the appeal was. To me stealing drugs and detoxing then letting people think you're clean when you are using again are forgivable as they are things I and probably a lot of addicts have done. Though I never stole from people who just had surgery as I never worked in the medical field. Could I do that if I had the chance? Hard to say but when you are dope sick it makes you do things you wouldn't do if you were well