Whether Erika knew or not is not the deal breaker for me. It’s the fact that now she does know, she apparently isn’t horrified and disgusted by what her monster husband did and had been doing for years.
I do have to admit a certain admiration, tho, that she is showing up for filming. It’s ratings gold for Bravo and she probably can’t get out of a contract or something… but I’d be under a rock in total shame not snarling and baring teeth. But that’s Erika. I’m just a wimp, (but I do have a beating heart)