I had to say this over here, too:
I'm truly surprised with the folks who defend Steven. Whenever he's on screen, I swear my two c-section scars zing with an asshole warning! Sure, he's scared- but she's scared, exhausted, healing and does in fact have to make the baby her whole world right now- if she didn't, the baby would literally not survive! And my god, the postpartum hormones are no joke. When he told Olga that she didn't need to worry about the baby so much, I was just like, "fuck you, you inconsiderate, gaslighting, selfish sin of a bitch." That's all you can do as a postpartum mother, because biologically, your body and hormones are screaming at you to worry about this tiny human who is just as dependent on you for survival as he was in her belly. Perhaps she's emotionally flat not just for physical exhaustion reasons, but postpartum blues/depression/anxiety! It's real, and it's terrifying and confusing... then throw an on the verge of losing his shit, 20 year-old kid that only cares about himself into the mix, and it's amazing she can be this calm.
My husband was TERRIFIED when we brought the baby home (we often laugh about it now, but at the time, the nurse telling us we could go home was the most frightening thing we had ever heard) but he never, ever called me an asshole, even in the throes of my post-partum anxiety attack where I demanded he not go to work because I was scared to be alone. He never made me get in the car after major surgery to go to a fancy park (for the men and nonc-section folks, it HURTS bouncing in a car. Oh, god, it hurts), and when we had to change our plans for the baby's good or my good, he went with the flow even when disappointed. He was just as scared as me, but he never EVER tried to equate his fear with mine, the woman who just had her insides ripped out, failed at breastfeeding and had hellish hormones running through her veins. He never tried t make me feel badly, or guilty. Steven is an utter nightmare, and ID program waiting to happen.