I’ve seen this before, when two people with very inflated opinions of themselves link up. It’s like their narcissism extends from each person individually to form a narcissistic bubble around both of them, and they just feed into each other’s egos because the are both the bestest. Couples like this can be very closely bonded to each other, but tend to have a harder time forming genuine connections outside their relationship because their awareness of how others perceive them is flawed and their egocentrism is high.
I think she probably also feels particularly threatened by Nicole A because of her fan favorite status. Nicole is very clearly still hurt that her win isn’t thought of by many as a “good” win. And to whomever mentioned this—Victor is away a lot for work, but yes, I think he “takes care” of Nicole and that is the dynamic of relationship that is fulfilling for both of them. One of the reasons I got so frustrated listening to their podcast was how constantly condescending he was to her, not in a mean way, but treating her like she knows nothing and he knows everything and he has to teach her, a dynamic she fully plays into, when in reality she was a medical professional before she quit to be an influencer, so as annoying as she is, she’s not an idiot and probably knows better than he does about a lot of things.
Also, just a quick note on ASD, as I do a lot of clinical diagnosis—a lot of people have qualities consistent with ASD, or any disorder, for that matter. We talk about the Autism spectrum, but really any diagnosis is a spectrum, from people who have very few consistent qualities to people who have many consistent qualities but at a low degree of severity, to people who have many consistent qualities at a high degree if severity that impacts life functioning. The most important part of diagnosis isn’t necessarily what qualities you have but the degree to which those qualities impact your day to day functioning. I have had so many friends tell me casually that they believe themselves to be on the spectrum. I guess you can make a case that EVERYONE is on the spectrum, and that’s really the only way any of them would be correct from a clinical point of view. There are lots of people, particularly very intelligent people, who struggle with social skills and have difficulty interacting with others, and especially people who are not as intelligent as they are. There are lots of people who are “quirky.” But most of those people can still navigate social situations well enough that it doesn’t significantly impact their day to day functioning in the lives they’ve set up for themselves, which is what should prevent them from actually meeting criteria for a clinical diagnosis. Obviously if you armchair diagnose yourself you’re going to be missing some nuance in that threshold.