ComeSitByMe

EVERYTHING you said down to the word. Initially I thought Heather was being a little standoffish and now I understand why. His immaturity and constant "smoking" -- let's just call it drug use -- were huge red flags. I doubt it's legal where they are anyway. It is pretty common to drink every day on an island vacation, not as much with the MJ. Lest you think I'm a prude, I live in a 420 state and voted for its legalization. Secondly, when she "abandoned" him in the cave...Good Lord! How much longer did he want to stay in there? They had their fun and to wrap it up they had a talking head and of course Heather assumed they were finished there and so headed out so the next group could go in. Derek acts as if since it is HIS honeymoon, no one else exists. His pouty neediness reeked to high heaven! Yuck. What a turn off. His comments on age are laughable. I'm in my 50's and have been single half of my adult life, albeit in long term relationships when I wasn't married. I have NEVER had a problem attracting men of high caliber in terms of education, class/culture and income. And I'm not stick thin, either. He is delusional if he thinks someone like Heather can't find a man. She could EASILY find someone who would blow a petulant, childish Mama's boy like Derek out of the water. I think she just needs a dating coach. She reminds me of someone who has been involved with an unavailable man for too long and It has made her wary. Pastor Calvin was completely inept in his counseling, shaming Heather for her feelings and completely reinforcing The Needy One's BS. He was really worthless. I was so disappointed. I think Lilly and Tom are cute for now but they don't have what it takes to last. Tom appears to want a non-conventional lifestyle in which he can surf every day and live 5 minutes from the water. His income precludes beachfront property, so he has chosen to live in a trailer and label it a "luxury bus." That's okay. However, he shouldn't refer to those who want tangible elements of stability -- such as a house --"materialistic." They just ultimately want different things, and unless he can see that he can still surf frequently and be a homeowner, they're doomed. Don't throw tomatoes at me, but If you're still reading, I think Nick is gay. Not a thing wrong with it, but this is the wrong show for him. Maybe he can't admit it to himself. I think Sonia has convinced herself that she is into him, but I don't really think she is. She wants to be married so she's convinced herself there is something more there for her. Is anyone else amazed with how great she looks without makeup? I'm really jealous!

I think the best way for Travis to understand the issue is to take his skateboard and spending money away and leave him in an apartment with a colicky infant and no air conditioning for a weekend.