My god this season is dark. We've never had a couple who share a child pre K-1 on this show before (I'm pretty sure, anyway?), and to have two in one season is really rough. In both cases, the scenario is so upsetting for the foreign fiancee, because it feels like their parental rights perpetually hang in the balance.
Are Kalani and co. Mormon? I feel like they are, and have mentioned it a handful of times - including at the top of this episode - but I also might be making that up. If so, I can maybe muster some sympathy for her having a hella arrested development, being deeply ashamed of her sexuality, and projecting premarital sex and pregnancy as something the man "did to her"...blech. Whoever (her parents) and whatever (her religious upbringing) contributes to this whole mess, it's just all thoroughly fucked. Reproductive coercion is a very serious abuse, one I don't think Asuelo is actually guilty of (my guess is his big "sin" here is both of them deciding to use the ol' "pull and pray" method since he dislikes condoms, and he either fucked it up or it had its usual success rate at preventing pregnancy). Their whole situation is an excellent illustration of what conservative, sex-negative family values can result in (regardless of which religion it might be based in) -- adult children all still reliant on their parents, unplanned pregnancies, tons of emotional hangups and damage.
John and Fernanda's situation is the one I see over and over again in real life - a man in his late 20's and beyond, dating a teenager and getting pissed at said teenager for acting like a teenager - so I guess it's nice (??) to see it gender-swapped with Ashley and Jay. It's just hard to listen to all the talk about maturity issues, because 1.) of course there will be maturity issues with someone who has yet to fully mature and 2.) someone 10+ years older getting with a 18-20 year old doesn't really have much of a leg to stand on when it comes to maturity, either. It's not a good look on John to keep bringing up the drama at the club in Myrtle Beach, because god does that sentence in and of itself make me tired, and I'm younger than him.