I have 5 grandkids, 8, 5, 5 and twin 3 year olds. Never had a grandma shower. We bought one port-a-crib, a high chair and booster seat and some special plates for the kids to eat on when at my house. In 8 years, I purchased two packs of diapers only because we ran out of the ones provided by parents after a blowout. We did not need a lot of things, most of the clothes would be outgrown anyway and in the event of an "accident or feeding issue, I have a washer and dryer and could clean up the mess easily. That shower was tacky and ridiculous.