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NutMeg

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  1. But that's just the point, there is no "reality". You and I could watch the same man perform, you'd think he's great and I'd think he's lame (and vice versa). The whole point of the show is that people remember things in different ways, and this season I've finally realised that it's not about who is right and who is wrong in their perception (to be fair, I think I realised that earlier, but you know, perception and all, maybe I'm wrong) but that the important point is how they view and remember events. For instance, it's normal for Alison to think her dad wants her kidney if he mentions waiting for a kidney the first time he meets her. But if you go from the dad's viewpoint, you get that it's not necessarily true, maybe you just want the child you just reconnect with to know that you might not be there for long. THANK YOU! I kept wondering why I had never heard this Otter name while everyone seemed so sure that was what he was called.
  2. Yes, I've been thinking of a lot of films and series, and realising that if things were told from the antagonist point of view, I would agree with them, but the way they're told is supposed to make us by default side with the protagonist, and we often do, even when in reality we'd have more sympathy for the "antagonist" (for lack of a better word, it's not always really an antagonist).
  3. I had exactly the same thing, including not hearing the alarm, and I had it a couple of times, years ago. Got the same treatment you got, and there was this magical feeling of getting your hearing back! As I understand it, it's not so much a build up of wax, but a case of a piece of wax, can be big or small, that gets right where it shouldn't. Could be the shape of your ear canal, or whatever else (happened to me when I lived in South East Asia, never before, never since, so go figure; one GP told me they were used to seeing European patients with that problem.) But (and this is way more than a pet peeve), after a number of occurrences, I decided to consult an ENT specialist rather than the usual GP, just in case there was an underlying reason that would be spotted by a specialist. The guy I saw (supposedly a well reputed specialist in his field) looked at my ear, dismissed any possibility of ear wax as it was all clear, sent me to hearing tests which indicated major loss of hearing (well, dah...), then to an MRI, because he thought it was likely that I had whatever the name was (weird that I can't remember the name now, but at the time it was in my mind all the time, and googling it let me know that it was the cause of Beethoven's surdity, so yeah, pretty dire prognostic, although nowadays there is a way to operate, but the results are not garanteed ...), on the basis that it happened more often with "Caucasians". The MRI came out inconclusive, meaning that it was possible I had that bone issue that was causing hear loss. Between the diagnostic, the tests and the results, I lived weeks of hell, and became a horrible person. I started getting angry at people for the flimsiest reasons, like my child telling me "but I told you" when I obviously couldn't hear a thing, or the staff at counters that I felt weren't listening to me. It was hell, I felt bad, and I was scared, and I felt no one understood. Music had always been important for me, but everything sounded weird, like a stereo turned to mono, and it sounded so bad. I went to a concert that I was very much looking forward to, and only heard very flat music. I was doing my best to get used to losing my hearing and still enjoy it while I could, and it was harder than I could have expected (I don't know if anyone ever did the "if I HAD to lose one sense, which one would be the worst?"). Then one day, I don't know why, I said to myself, sod it, I'm going back to the GP, won't tell him anything, just see how it goes. And, halleluiah, there WAS a tiny piece of wax lodged near my eardrum, so tiny that all the sophisticated machines had missed it, but the syringing dislodged it, and let me tell you, after that, getting my hearing (and future hearing) back felt like the most amazing miracle. And that was the last time I ever had that problem. @theredhead77, I hope you flight was not too painful (and sorry about highjacking your post with my very long tale)
  4. This may have been my favourite episode so far. I was starting to get tired of all the indications of things not being right, so I've enjoyed the clear illustrations we got this week. I also liked that other characters noticed and commented. (They kind of are the Greek chorus, aren't they, whose only purpose is to oh and ah and comment on the main characters.) I find Adora fascinating, and cannot stand Amma - which is probably due to the quality of Patricia Clarkson's acting. (Incidentally, yesterday, I also watched The Party, in which Clarkson plays a sharp witted woman who I found rather endearing.)
  5. The first time someone told me about the plot of Big Eyes, I screamed "this is so much like Colette's story". I don't want to reveal too much about Colette, but she was indeed exploited by her husband and later went on to live her life on her own terms, and what a ride that was :)
  6. It may have more to do with how we acknowledge publicly that things make us uncomfortable. There are many movies from the 90s that I didn't like (fratboy "humour", bodily functions, casual objectifying of women, etc.) that were huge box office draws. I was scratching my head at the time, thinking I was the only one who did not find those funny. True for the main plot, but it's still a good watch for Marilyn Monroe's performance. But I see it as a bittersweet movie, not as a comedy.
  7. Yeah, what's the deal with that? Mine started doing this quite recently, and none of my previous cats did. Anyone knows what could be the reason?
  8. Thanks for the advice Re. computer and heat, @Moose135, @bilgistic and @JTMacc99. Bilgistic, thanks also for the reminder of what noise to look out for. Yippee, no funny hard drive noise! That's a huge relief :)
  9. My pet peeve of the week: it seems that high temperatures causes my desktop to shut down and restart (it's in a sunny area with no aircon). At least, I think so. Because I contacted two shops that didn't agree on the cause (they wanted me to change my HD). Then I talked to three other techs who all think that's the cause (one says I should change or clean the fan, which makes sense, but he won't be back from holidays for another two weeks, and the other shops want me to leave my HD with them for a week). So instead of working morning and afternoon, I now work afternoon and evening :( because that's when my desktop is in tip top shape ;) I just hope those who think the cause is the heat are right.
  10. I read today about a man in his 90s who's been writing to his pen pal for 81 years, it was such a sweet article (and it brought back memories of having a pen pal way back then). https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/aug/03/experience-writing-french-pen-pal-81-years
  11. This was linked from an article I read this morning: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jan/07/im-struggling-to-find-love-through-online-dating-mariella-frostrup
  12. I've realized that this show reminds me a lot of Top of the Lake - beautifully filmed, lots of weird characters, an official murder plot that takes the back seat to character exploration, etc. (I'm not sure if it's good news for people for whom the destination matters as much of or more than the journey. Writing this as someone with no idea where we're going - i.e. not spoiled)
  13. I think it's time Kat experienced some work setback. And Jane's sob story takes the back seat.
  14. It made total sense to me that Helen would rush back to Vik after the tomb-like experience of the sensory deprivation tank. I like that they then had their most heartfelt conversation since the verdict fell.
  15. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/28/alexander-mcqueen-isabella-blow-annabelle-neilson-fashion-fabulous-three I really like this article, not only is it informative, but it also reads like a modern take of themes dear to F. Scott Fitzgerald.
  16. I cannot help but feel that Madison the character might be based on one or several real people that one of the writers had a beef with. Some kind of "personage à clé", if you wish.
  17. @BookWoman56, I like your whole post, but this in particular resonates It's funny, isn't it, how even though we know that to be true, we keep expecting things to be otherwise. I'd do well to keep it in mind :) "Home" is a whole set of places for some of us. I've long ceased to consider the city I (mostly) grew up with as home, and I've since met a couple of other parts of the world that became more of "home" for me. It's interesting that you had toyed with the idea of moving back to your hometown for years (and I'm truly sorry it was under such circumstances), and then ended up doing then then reverting tracks. For the longest time, I was just the opposite, in constant wanderlust, and it's only recently that I've felt the need for an old familiar place. Thanks again for your post, it's really helped having your perspective.
  18. Follow up, in case some are planning or will have to go through a geographic and/or life changing move: it's not easy. What surprised me, after months that I thought were just settling in, was the grieving that jumped on me, for what could have been, for what I left behind, for all the hopes I had that didn't blossom. It was indeed surprising, because I had been looking forward to this change, had planned for two years and I know it's a good one for me. But I had underestimated the grief. For such a long time, I was in the planning, then the actual practical details, etc., and now that I've stopped moving it's been catching me. Outwardly, you wouldn't know: I'm happy to learn new skills, interact with new people, and I enjoy doing so. But then when I'm left alone I'm frozen in indecision with anything and everything. I know it's a phase, I know it will pass, I just wasn't expecting it.
  19. To chip in on the kids menu topic, I never found any listing that mine would go for, so we always ordered regular meal for him. The fact that it was all nuggets, spaghetti, etc. may have something to do with that. Even at a young age he would rather go for lamb shanks, lamb chops, etc. Yes, I have a meat loving child (and have to scramble to remember to buy it and how to cook it when he visits now).
  20. Hey, I get how hard it is to sit down to binge watch. I have to "thank" a bad flu for discovering Mrs Maisel. And cold winter Sundays for Grace and Frankie. For the rest, just my proclivities to procrastinate.
  21. I'm sorry you had to go through that :( Just to be sure, I never forced my child to eat anything. Because, as a child, I was never forced to eat anything, just asked to take one bite, and if I really didn't like it, I was free to skip it. Which I was and am still grateful for :) Can't imagine having to eat all of something that I really didn't like until I puked, ewwww... Among the things I didn't like as a child are zucchini and eggplant, which I'm quite ok with now, btw. I think it was the slimy texture rather than the taste that I disliked back then. I'm actually with you regarding warm milk - I've always only liked mine ice cold, can't even drink room temperature milk.
  22. I knew I had seen this thread before, finally found it again. The year past, I've dropped The Handmaid's Tale and Westworld. It's a first in that I was a faithful viewer of their first respective season, but somehow kept up postponing watching them until I decided to delete them. I think in the first case it might be that I could do with less distopian horror because the news gave me enough to feel worried about. In the second case, it could be that the S1 finale lost me. At the same time, I finally binge watched The Marvellous Mrs Maisel, as well as Grace and Frankie, and enjoyed them both. And I was super happy to see Imposters back. And I watched Unreal until the ending implosion. And I binge watched America's Next Top Model last month. So I'm wondering if it is just me, or if other are also seeing their interest in shows that they used to like wane. I think the first time I noticed I was much less keen was with the latest aired season of House of Cards, because by then real life had become crazier than fiction. So that's one reason, but not the only one. I also bailed out on Mr. Robot sometime during the second episode of season 2 and never looked back. So, yes, for now, I'm taking a break from dystopian, and exploring more fun options, like Versailles, Harlots, and anything else you wise people can recommend.
  23. I got my son to eat almost anything because he saw me eat it too and enjoying it, so he was eager to try :) I honestly thought kids not liking veggies was a myth, until I met my nieces and nephews. Ouch. They made me realize that picky eating is far from being an urban legend.
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