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  1. red12

    S01.E01: The Righteous Gemstones

    Was I the only one wondering if Gideon might be old enough to be behind the blackmail?
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    S01.E01: The Righteous Gemstones

    I grew up in evangelical christianity and I guarantee Jesse could rebound. There would be a few people who really are practicing Christianity for spiritual betterment who would leave the church but, many, many people would remain loyal to the Gemstones; especially since Dr. Big Daddy Gemstone appears to be relatively faithful and dedicated (so far). Even in the '80's and '90's the Power Team (https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=power+team+christian+ministry) made a lot of money regaling Christian audiences with their pasts as steroid and cocaine addicted bodybuilders before "getting saved" and becoming upright men of God. Nothing new under the sun. The writers have to be really careful with the blackmail storyline in this day and age when everyone knows how basically anyone powerful can recover from virtually anything. I peeped that too Bilgistic. Speaking to the redemption of these guys, you know Jim is remarried and currently broadcasting on Christian tv. His son is a minister as well but, more lowkey and hipster type instead of megachurch.
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    S09.E10: Are You Committed?

    If Iris had takers in this category, she wouldn't be on the show. I do appreciate that Dr. V called Iris on the fact that one can, in fact change their virgin status if they want. She keeps depicting her virginity as an essential feature of her personal make-up like eyes and fingers. The problem with her being with another virgin who is as naive as she portrays herself is he wouldn't know where to begin to try and please her and she can't tell him what to try. Keith is absolutely in an unwinnable game here and I feel for him. If he appears to opt out of the virginity gauntlet, he's not committed. If he has sex with Iris and still does not want to remain with her, he's an asshole who "took" her precious gift.
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    S09.E10: Are You Committed?

    Last night Elizabeth's behavior and words reiterated my observation during the "vanilla sex" episode that she is limited in vocabulary and possibly reasoning ability. I don't think she actually understands how to say "I need you to not charge into a room after me because it makes me feel stressed and anxious." instead of "Stop acting crazy!". So, when Jamie and his weird stare tell her he feels insulted, she's like "okay, don't be out of control." Inability to accept responsibility plus, limited vocabulary and emotional intelligence are a bad combo for these two.
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    S09.E10: Are You Committed?

    Deonna is delusional. She is making a classic mistake of a woman who is used to being pursued by a specific man. He.will.get.tired. She is also underestimating the amount of women who are waiting for him to re-enter the wild and are ready to provide the emotional interaction he wants. She needs a really good girlfriend equal to Greg's friend who will lay it out for her. Deonna, you in danger girl.
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    I understand. My intention is not to say I agree with people who have this issue but, to talk about something I know to exist even though it sounds off to most in 2019. There are variations and degrees of conservatism just as there are in fetishes and other more exploratory modes of expression. We are all on this rock together and it's helpful to know none of us are alone no matter how different we feel.
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    I agree that it is for many. But, in conservative and some religious circles, it is depicted as less intimate and dehumanizing because of the lack of face to face contact. It can be difficult to grasp this thinking if you have not been immersed in it. But, it exists. I have even heard of couples where there had to be a compromise to add a hand mirror to add the element of facial contact for the reluctant, more shame based partner to feel comfortable enjoying this position.
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    SnarkEnthusiest, I appreciate your perspective. I grew up in an environment that preached a lot of sexual conservatism (even though, plenty of folks were not living it). But, I am very inquisitive so, I read a lot of books (I'm old) before engaging in sex myself. Something I read is that "doggy style" was actually a basic, normal, go- to position for most cultures until Christian missionaries started spreading the word that it was animalistic, ungodly and somehow shameful. Hence the names and connotations of what Western culture considers "normal" face-to-face positioning vs. anything else. If you think about the fact that most people would have learned about the act from watching animals in the wild or a farm, not sitting in a classroom or watching tv, it makes sense too. I don't know if that little tidbit helps in any way, but I thought I would share. Also, basic definitely has it's place in life and should be appreciated. 😉
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    "Girl you know I, I, I..."😊
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    So, we were on my couch singing...
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    It seems every year there are people like Beth who have a glaring shortcoming in their personal lives they believe should not be up for discussion and are uncomfortable being presented for public judgement on tv. But, they take their asses onto a show where they are basically filmed most of the day and act shocked when their brand new spouse's and the audience's reactions are "How Sway?". I guess narcissism overrules shame. The phenomenon reminds me of how "rich" people with the flimsiest of riches and abundance of unpaid taxes are drawn to the Housewives franchises.
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    I swear the pets are at least as entertaining to me as the couples. Mr. red12 and I found it interesting that as Elizabeth was ranting about Jamie "dragging" her dogs and hinting at abusiveness, they were stretching and draped all over HIM and looking unconcerned as their "momma" was clearly upset. In addition, she didn't seem to give any indication that she was taking the dogs with her on her threatened exit back to her own apartment. I am also convinced Deonna's dog is way more into Greg than Deonna will ever be.
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    S09.E08: How Can I Trust You?

    Yep about Matt. I also want Pepper to give Amber some tools to stop being such a pushover. All Matt had to do was keep quiet, not say anything totally offensive and give her "affection". It's so sad that's all it took for her to basically feel okay and tell Dr. Pepper he made amends. She reminds me of all the female friends who wake you up in the middle of the night with their drama and get you worked up but, once the source of their addiction turns any attention their way, they are over it and you are pissed and missed your good sleep for nothing. Iris makes me mad. Again, there are Christian centered books on marriage prep and intimacy for those who want to abstain. She was not kidnapped in the middle of service and matched with Keith. She knew a marriage was coming and did zip all to get started gaining comfort with intimacy related topics. I know people who waited and there is a difference between "I am ready to go but, this is a sacrifice I am making to show my love for Jesus and start our marriage with less baggage." and "I have little or no info to share about what pleases me or what I am curious about trying so, if you love me you have to try to read my mind and there is little chance I have any idea what you might like either."
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    S09.E07: Where Is My Husband?

    Than you for this. I assumed I misheard her while trying to keep up with the argument. 😂
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    S09.E07: Where Is My Husband?

    I think they ask about kids in the interviews and I have no idea what the answers were. Yes, Matt has been distant but, I'm not sure which came first, him pulling away or Amber overreacting to things like him going to the guest bathroom because my first inklings of his distance was in scenes where she wasn't onscreen. Based on what I have seen, reassuring Amber about her fertility probably wouldn't have worked. For example, her conversation with her sister was all about Matt being the "old dad" not Amber's egg quality. Full disclosure, I agree with Matt's position on once you have children, that person is there forever. That is one of the reasons I was using multiple forms of birth control before I got married. I also confessed to having some anxiety once I was married, pregnant and starting to show because of the realization, "Now I'm in this for real. There is no way out even if we divorce. I have to maintain a relationship with my husband for parenting no matter what." We were and are happily married but, the anxiety was real. To your point about the experts, I wonder if they do call but, the footage hasn't been shown. That's dumb if it's true. I'm just speculating. I don't think Matt (or anyone) staying out all night without checking in is okay. But, it's also not a sign of emotional health to just repeatedly call a person who does not want to communicate with you to try and force it. It boils down to Amber's reaction being so exaggerated that it mutes some of the damage Matt is inflicting. I agree with you that he should have texted, I'm just not sure he didn't.
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