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Meliss

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  1. In all fairness, Sam may have told him that--and Neil was probably never there. However, I just read what he wrote & he said Neil was getting "everyone" oysters. So I go back to my original statement.
  2. I know we shouldn't do this, but what if we started bashing the men the way that the women are being bashed? Let's find certain unattractive physical characteristics about them & bring those up every time we post about them! It's only fair.
  3. Lordonia So from your experience, if you are not a person's type & they are not initially attracted to you, the marriage or relationship is less likely to work out? I think I agree with this. A lot of people (especially viewers of MAFS) really stress how attraction is not that important & that feelings can develop. That is also what the experts keep saying, too. This tv show is all about matching couples & seeing what happens, so they should try to get to know each other for the sake of the experiment. But, truly, how many relationships work if one person is going against their nature? Also, I think men are less likely to stay if not physically attracted, than women are. I think our society pressures women more to overlook a man's physical attractiveness. For instance, if a woman does not find a man attractive or her type, people say things like "she thinks she's too good for him" or "she must think she is attractive/good-looking" or that she is "stuck up" or "shallow." Conversely, when a man does not find a woman attractive, those things are rarely brought up. It's like, well, he just wasn't attracted, what can you expect? What do you think, is there a difference between men and women in this issue?
  4. I will agree to disagree. I'm not bringing up the Ashley thing again--it's one of those "beating a dead horse" topics that Drogo posted about in the spoiler thread!!
  5. You are right about arranged marriages in some cultures, past & present, in which women are at the mercy of her parents & husband with no say at all. I don't know if that is what happened with Neil's grandparents - I don't believe the details were disclosed. I have not gotten a vibe at all that Neil wants this. If you remember the finances discussion, she was the one who was "traditional" in that she felt he should pay more. He seemed to be on board with 50/50. I don't find him possessive or controlling at all.Did Sam ever own up to her mistakes or apologize specifically for her behavior? I did not see that. She has some regrets and made some generalizations here at the last hour, but she has not taken any responsibility. Saying "I deserve it" & other such statements about how Neil may want to divorce her is not taking responsibility to me. Perhaps she does behind the scenes, but I do not see a humbled person on her social media. You are right, there are evil people who commit heinous acts in this world. And "hating" someone on a reality show who has not committed any such act, does seem over the top. I see that more on social media than here though. You have compassion for Sam while others do not. I am one who does not & probably for the same reason as the others. Ive been in a relationship with a narcissistic bully & it made my life a living hell. So, yes, he did not commit a heinous act like murder, but he took 20 years of my life away from me. Whenever I see these traits in others I feel worried for the people who get involved with them. From what I've read from other Posters, they have experience either through a relationship with a person like this or they studied personality disorders. This post is to explain my opinion. In other posts, I wrote about my compassion for Ashley, like you have for Sam. You would probably strongly disagree with my opinion of her!
  6. Vanessa has a lot going for her- she is beautiful, sensitive & kind. She also has a good job & is a great cook. I think Tres really liked her & thinks she is pretty but she's just not interesting enough to keep his interests. This is what I see on the show so to be fair, she may be totally different in real life. I'm sure she's not always frozen in emotional turmoil & actually enjoys herself. I haven't seen her enjoying life much. She seems depressed. If I was matched with someone like her I would not find it stimulating. Tres seems to want someone more fun, energetic & intellectually stimulating. Not in the sense that she needs to be more educated but in the sense that she needs to keep up with conversation & be more witty. Having interesting hobbies would also help. Saying all of this about Vanessa is not to put her down - I just think Tres is more sophisticated. Vanessa is a home-body. A man will come along and love that about her, but it's not Tres. Tres is no saint though. I wish he would have been honest with her when his feelings changed towards her mid way through. When a guy acts like they are a couple & buys her things, it's really just playing with her emotions & that is wrong. I also think her reactions to the gifts has something to do with the lack of sincerity. He's thinking he wants to be nice to her because he does care about her. Unfortunately she has fallen for him so these acts of kindness are just leading her on. It's painful to watch - reminds me of all the times my heart was broken! Also this is my opinion & not a spoiler - I have no idea what happens on decision day!!
  7. Wanted to share something concerning Neil & Sam: My pre-teen daughter has watched a few episodes of this show in which I fast-forward thru anything inappropriate. I told her yesterday that the couples were making their decisions since she hasn't watched in a while. I told her that some people think Sam & Neil may stay together. She couldn't believe it! She said this about Sam: "she yelled at him and cursed at him and made him leave the house. He had to stay outside all day." She explained that it was so upsetting because "How could she do that to a person who saved her life?" (Referring to the honeymoon). Good question! I thought this was too precious to not share & a very wise interpretation!
  8. It was almost like the point of the entire article was to point out that it was not the Producer's fault that the show sucks & lacks integrity. No, it's the Experts that are behind all of it!! (Which may be true) Also, I noticed that the casting process does not jive with what David's mom said happened!! I have a hard time believing they are vetted that way & we all know about the background check process--anything goes!!
  9. I never said Ashley was feeling threatened or in danger nor did I read anyone post that. Did I miss something? I believe he made her very uncomfortable & she was turned off by his childish ways but not in any danger. I do not think having this criminal record means that she was in danger either. And again, I did not see that in any comments. I do believe her coldness was due to being uncomfortable & viewing him more as a child than a husband. JMHO Also his words did not match his actions or reality, so it had to be confusing for her-- Also I may be over the top or hypervigilant --but please do not call me an Ashley fan! :) A few weeks ago I could have said one thing nice about her, but now that I've read the accusations made online that David attacked his GF with a knife--that's messed up. If she is behind this story & I believe she is, putting out false information like this is deplorable & defamation of character. She should get what she deserves if she is behind it.
  10. I'm saying that even if my sister wronged me in the same way as David's brother, I would still protect her now. I would have told the story about what happened without saying that it was my own sibling that I caught with my ex.Maybe I'm just more protective of my siblings than others, but I could never do that to her. Now for the rest of this guy's life, every one knows this about him. Maybe you're right & his brother agreed to this. I find that odd, but it is possible he gave his blessing. He also left his sister in the dark & let her defend him on Twitter saying that the arrest was not him. Personally I would have come clean to her so she wouldn't look like a liar. Again, maybe I'm just more protective of my siblings than others. I don't agree with people digging dirt on reality show contestants. However, after everything that happened with Jessica last year, I believe the police record should be found and the Producers need to be held accountable. it should have been done privately & not on social media. At the same time, these idiot producers have to know this arrest record is available to the public. Did they warn David that his public arrest record could be accessed & published on the SM? This is exactly what happened to Sean last year- people on SM found that he had a felony for a DUI & put it out there. If the Producers conducted background checks & screened out contestants with records, this wouldn't happen! Do your jobs and take responsibility! The experts also failed these contestants because even after last year, they are not insisting that someone with a history like David's not be allowed in the show. On a side note, Sam would not even pass a psychological screening let alone extensive testing as a person who should have been picked for this show. She may not have an arrest record, but she is verbally abusive & controlling. I hope Neil can get away from her peacefully but I have feeling she will turn on him in a nasty way if he tries to get a divorce. This show is dangerously irresponsible.
  11. I think so too. And it promotes the "nice guy" act. Also the story behind the arrest reinforces the "victim" mentality he's been trying to sell this whole season. If he's truly taking responsibility for his actions, why throw his brother under the bus? So now everyone can hate him? David knows how social media works & the power of public opinion. Maybe he didn't care because he still doesn't completely forgive him. If he did, he wouldn't have given that detail. Again, deflecting.
  12. Agree about Ashley--I do not get her at all. There's been speculation that her ex started contacting her but even that doesn't explain all of her strange behaviors. And, more importantly, if she was behind the story that was put out that David attacked someone with a knife & that is not true, that is despicable. Even without reading a police report I'm pretty sure if he did that, the charges would be quite different. This also makes David's interview even stranger - why would he defend someone who put out a story that he attacked someone with a knife?
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