I guess it's kinda ironic what I watched this episode precisely on the 20th anniversary of my grandmother's death. One of my earliest clear childhood memories was the day she was supposed to visit us and got lost on the way from the bus station - the road she taken literally hundreds of times before that. It was before the cellphones appeared and there was no way to locate her. I remember everything - my mom crying, the police being called, the phone ringing incessantly, the look on my mom's face every time it turned out they didn't call to say that she had been found... Strangely enough, I can't remember how she finally appeared (I know the story, of course), just that at some point late in the evening she was there and went straight to bed, saying she's very tired. But those agonizing hours filled with horrific tension are something I'll never forget. It was the day it became clear that her "senior moments" she had been having were way more than that. She went on to stuggle with dementia for a very long time and it got really, really bad. By the end she was unable to speak and was completely unaware of her surroundings. If they go there with Rebecca, it might well be the first time I'll actually cry watching this show.
I totally understand why Randall got concerned. Like people have said, it was way more than just misplacing her phone. It was also her borderline panic attack when she was unable to find it, even though she'd had it literally a minute ago and it had to be in the same room. It was the constant photo taking. It was her unable to have a meaninfgul conversation, always diverting the topic to safe small talk. Randall knows Rebecca better than anyone and he must have realized that's not how she acts and how their R&R time tends to be.
That said, the way he voiced his concerns in the end was horrendous. OK, I admit that the very thought of something happening to my parents pretty much paralyses me with fear and whenever they have a health scare (which happens more often now they're getting older) I tend not to act completely rationally. So I understand he might say or do something he'd regret later. However, to imply that he has been parenting her for the last 20 years was simply awful. For one, I don't even think it's true and so far nothing on this show has ever indicated it. Stepping up and helping her out during the rough time in the aftermath of Jack's death is not the same as having the inverted parent-child roles for two decades. If they try to portray it like that now, it's going to be a very stupid retcon. BUT, even if it was 100% correct and they did have a relationship like Susan and Julie on Desperate Housewives - throwing it in the face of a person you suspect might be seriously ill is a very shitty move.
I thought the rest of the episode was very fine, but I just haven't been in the right state of mind to really process it. I'll just say that I generally find Kevin's self-loathing to be somewhat over-the-top, even though I can understand where it comes from. Also, I've started to really like him with Cassidy and I'll be sorry if we don't see more of her. And I really loved Beth's "If you 'OK' me one more time" to Malik. And that it's really fortunate that Lyric Ross is such a good actress, because the Deja overload would be really tough to take otherwise. Didn't we already do the "Deja wants to see her mom, which causes great angst in the Pearson household" last season already? It wasn't too interesting back then either. Like many have said, show us more of Tess instead.