Ok Lu's text seemed a bit harsh BUUUUTTTT I totally get what happened there. Dorinda comes in hot via text on the day of Lu's show so right there Lu's rolling her eyes at the inconsideration. In her initial response (which, IMO, should have been the end of the issue) Lu sends her a very positive and polite response/solution to the problem.
Dorinda still responds with attitude, aggravation and continues to dump this ridiculousness in Lu's lap even AFTER Lu has pretty much addressed the problem and offered up a fix. Now mind you Lu began her response to Dorinda with "I'm getting a mammogram..."
Once Dorinda ignored that detail and continued on her angry texts, I'm pretty sure the switch flipped and Lu was all like awwwww hell no! Lu's texts became more detached because now Lu's mad that Dorinda is expecting Lu to put her stupid issues with John above what she's got going on at the moment and at that very moment she is, and forgive me if it seems corny or over dramatic of me to say, getting a mammogram.
Look, the minute I heard Lu mention the mammogram I cringed cause I already knew that detail was going to affect the mindset of the exchange with Dorinda. No surprise that I was on Lu's side there because I think it's hella fuck up, after hearing that your friend is having a mammogram that your immediate response ISN'T "is this an annual checkup? Is everything ok?" Yes, at their ages it can be assumed that she was just going in for a wellness visit but even those are unnerving. I say this as a women who has had multiple thick breast tissue masses that prompted ultra sounds and check ups and even a solid mass that had to be biopsied (benign). And it all started in my 20's, which doesn't count the time when I was 16 and felt a lump that my doctor said should go away on it's own and it did (no mammogram that time).
You don't just blaze through something like that and continue berating your friend about your sorta boyfriend that you treat like shit on the regular and especially not after the response you received offered up a solution. No Dorinda wanted to bitch out Lu because John was mad at Dorinda and so she wanted to shift her anger onto a new target and Lu wasn't having it. I say good for Lu. One thing about Lu is that she cuts to the chase and she doesn't entertain the bullshit. And it's contributed to the label of being self absorbed but in reality I see it as her not letting them bait her into some foolish attempts are making her their whipping boy. Sure she grates and all that but Lu doing Lu really isn't the worse thing a person can do. Not in this day in age where everyone promotes "look out for number one first before you can make anyone else happy" Unless your Lu that is.
Lu is throwing herself into her cabaret as a diversion but these women want to penalize her for not finding the energy or strength to coddle them and their fake needs during her struggles. You know cause apparently even when you're life's a hot mess you're still expected to maintain perfect social graces at all time. And it also seems that none of these women can handle difficult circumstances within friendships without becoming completely unhinged and resent the fact that Lu can shift gears, steel up and push through so they've labelled her self absorbed, uncaring and a taker.
I'm sure she has taken but she was also trying her best to keep active and to keep reaching for whatever would stabilize her at the time and if she's wasn't as "gracious" as they wanted her to be in that process then I really don't fault her. I'm more offended at their unrealistic expectations of Lu and what they tried to hold her too during that time. So Lu's being self absorbed, ok, big whoop, but then through out the season the women slowly escalate all of Lu's missteps into some huge issue that ends with Lu being some huge friend abuser complete with heinous acts of joking on Tins for slurring during her beratement of Lu, Going off on her own for a 2 hour trip to the beach, trying to hog a massage table (which the episode that includes producer remarks pointed out that the ladies PAY FOR massages, hair and make up people ahead of time before a trip) and not being as gracious as they would like her to be considering she's a drunk and an ex con. I mean that's how it came across to me. People who want someone to cowtow because of some unfortunate circumstances either in their past or that's still ongoing. Just because you can't handle the way someone is working through their issues and aren't keeping your feelings as a top priority at all times doesn't mean it's open season on them. I feel like they never really truly tried to manage their expectations of Lu and instead used her obvious turmoil as a weapon against her all season. Just my opinion.
My thing is, if you can't keep your judgement out of your interactions with someone and plan on throwing shit in their face, or get easily upset with someone based on where YOU think their ego should be when dealing with you due to the unfortunate circumstances in their lives then Nah, you are just as terrible as the person you think you're better than. Even worse cause you're using someone else's troubles as a reason to behave cruelly towards them. These women were on a mission to shave Lu down using a situation that already knocked the wind out of her. They were just mad that it didn't knock her to knees so they could finally feel above her. The wind was knocked out of Lu but she continued to fight to stand tall and they resented her for not buckling, not even for a second so they blew up all of Lu's aggravating character traits into these unforgivable transgressions so that they could try to weaken her resolve.
If Lu's pissing you off then pull back. Don't make yourself some hostage, victim she's relentlessly attacking. If she bugs then put some distance and if you feel the need to "be there" then do it with no strings attached. Newsflash, when people are going through shit they may not be the most pleasant. Their balance is off, they have less emotional currency to doll out to others and reserve a lot of that energy for themselves and considering how they felt about Lu's personality BEFORE all this makes their constant criticism of Lu during this time absolutely maddening. Just because everyone "has their shit" doesn't magically make dealing with your own shit any easier and doesn't magically enable you to be some gracious entity at all times. I'll do my best to keep my shit from affecting how I treat you but if you are constantly in my space demanding pleasantries from me when you know damn well it's coming in shorter and shorter supply then that's where it becomes unacceptable and all bets are off. You want repayment of that emotional currency before I've even gotten through to the other side then what the hell was the point? That's like lending someone $20 for gas then asking for it back the very next day before they even get paid. It's ridiculous.
I think Lu was trying her best to simplify as much as she could in her life and it came across as short, chilly and not interested which to be honest who expects a person who's running on empty, trying to refuel, to dish out X amount of energy to deal with minor issues as if they are major problems? All season these women kept lobbying over petty grievances towards Lu demanding she apply serious attention to and depleting what little she had on bullshit. Meanwhile this takes away from her more grueling and pressing problems. That's how the whole season read to me and I don't think Lu was wrong to be reserved, arms length, and surface with them as she was trying to get her footing and figuring out the best way to navigate her new norm. The fact that the women refused to let her get her bearings before admonishing her every move is what left a bad taste in my mouth this season.