Slightly off-topic weigh-in: I don't think anyone is bashing a kid with special needs. The bottom line is that kids with special needs (that don't have very, very rich families) do end up either in mainstream society or a drift between institutions. Those who can function with mainstream society, do for awhile at least. Those that can't (at least in the US) frequently end up stuck in myriad of social bureaucracies that frequently leave them frustrated, alone and ill-prepared. If they are lucky, they get a good case-worker who will help them to obtain either employment, occupational therapy, vocational therapy and/or some sort of government benefit.
In my experience, most kids aren't half that lucky. I worked for many years as a street outreach worker then as pubilc defense attorney (pile on your jokes now.) I get angry at the fictional Adam and Kristina because they are broadcast to a world of people. 90% (I'm guessing here) of people with special needs don't have wealthy parents who can fit their children with emotional pillows for life. A lot of kids with all sorts of issues end up washing out of high school and college and just end up ill-prepared to deal with street. What I'd love to see broadcast is a way that these parents prepare their child for life without pillows. How is going to learn to navigate bureaucracy? How is he going to learn ask other people for help? Etc.
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What I'd like to see on this show, and doubt I ever will, is an episode where Adam and Kristina realize Max has to live in society and they don't let him come home when everything sucks.
And also everything Portia just said.