While I believe that very few people who view porn ever molest someone, it isn’t uncommon for molesters to use porn to groom kids. My first exposure to porn was at age 3. It wasn’t until I was much older that I realized what happened to me had anything to do with sex, I just thought I was being tortured. I also didn’t realize that my parents didn’t approve of what was happening and actually drew a false conclusion that they left me with the person to punish me. I remember what happened more than what was said, but it wouldn’t surprise me if my abuser told me they knew. Somehow in 1975 I decided there were cameras in our house that my parents were able to watch me through. I carried deep shame well into adulthood about not telling someone and confused silence with consent, even as I intellectually knew that wasn’t a realistic expectation for a 3 year old. I know I was too young to have the words to tell them, but do wonder if they made space for that conversation I would have been able to find a way to let them know.
So while I didn’t ever use porn as the label for what I was telling my kids, I did talk to them about it at a young age. If a book like this helps a parent facilitate those conversations, I’m not going to judge that.