See, I think this is what everyone is trying to tell her. I know someone used the word entitled. It's like entitled on steroids. They all have narcissistic characters or they wouldn't be on a reality show. But Luanne expects everyone to defer to her needs and wishes first. And she's not kind about it. That's why the yelling COFFEE was so funny. The rest of them would have been messing about the kitchen asking about coffee and opening drawers etc. Luann just stand in the middle of the room and yells. And no matter how she protests this is exactly the behavior that had them all rolling their eyes at the countess.
When Bethenny asked her why she thought they would want to go to her cabaret show 5 times in one month she didn't say, you're exaggerating she said, why it's what I enjoy.
I'm not sure I buy the whole ROL story but she is delusional at this point.