I thought he was laid back thru whole thing. My husband came in to a situation with two boys one who at the time was 7 and the other 2. He took it all in strid and raised them as bis own. Their dad disappeared, nevir paid child support. Both boys at 16 and 21 changed their names to the man that that raised them and has been in there lives, other one left 10 years ago.... Just shows you step dad can be your world