Well, without being controversial (or maybe being controversial...whatever) - I don't think there's anything wrong with a man (or woman) freely acknowledging what is being called SSA. Missing in the comments (and I didn't watch the show) is - is this man attracted to THIS woman? OK so, normally you have SSA. We aren't talking about normally. We're talking about the woman right in front of you, who you want to marry. Attracted to HER? all good. Not? Wait. If you're committed to a heterosexual marriage despite SSA - WAIT for that one rare moment when you really ARE attracted. No such thing as 100% anything. Including "gay." That's my opinion, and I'm sticking with it.