I think what you're saying is a complexly nuanced critique that I'd agree with. I think the shift that occured for me was thinking he was a total racist buffoon. He is saying and has said obnoxious things that do have the effect of reflecting and perpetuating racial and gendered bias, but without the kind of malice that I orignially attributed to him. Like you said, actually pretty typical of what is embedded inside American culture, and possibly even within myself. Interesting things to chew on.