So much to say...Michelle is the biggest control freak I have ever seen. She is much like my mother who has also suffered bulimia and anorexia. The cutting of the doughnuts was so telling. She needs to have that control, and yes, a little sabotage. Michelle just can't let things go. My mother once scraped the frosting off a piece of my cake because it was just too much for her to not have control over what I eat. I see this with Michelle.
Watching Mary with Amy and Deanna showed me exactly why she lives with the Duggars. Amy doesn't need her. Amy has a normal, happy life. I think Mary is on abuse watch and does the laundry to spare the J'slaves. She is a saint to do it and a true grandmother.
One more thing. I noticed that when Michelle was talking about Amy she said, "My kids love her." She left out, "I love her." I think Auntie Michelle is not thrilled with Amy.