I don't ever remember Dean not allowing Rory to have friends. When? If you mean Jess, well, most people wouldn't be okay with that. Dean did respect Rory's wish to spend the night alone doing her laundry--he was just stopping by with ice cream for a quick break. Also, since her mom was gone overnight I do think Rory's motivation was just having the house to herself. Dean did make a sarcastic remark about Rory not liking the housewife thing the next day but characterizing that as pouting for days seems extreme. He came to the rehearsal because Tristan went to Doose's the day before specifically to taunt him about it, and then Dean left when Rory asked him to. And remember, Rory had kissed Tristan at the party and was afraid he would tell Dean, so there was probably a suspicious vibe there anyway. If by the gift you mean the bracelet he gave her, Dean could hardly make her feel awful about it when he didn't know it was missing. I do agree Dean was annoying and insecure and shouldn't have been offended just because Rory didn't say she loved him too, but not sure I would call it emotional abuse. Rory didn't handle a lot of it particularly well either, probably because it was her first relationship.