Totally get it. For me, we had been together for years, had already built two houses together. So, I felt that he was able to find a houses similar to our needs and wants since he was there and I was back home running around with our two teens.
Honestly, I think I was just not in Kate’s corner after she started fantasizing about old Toby and really not trying to give new Toby a chance. To me Toby was really trying to show off SF to her to get her on board with it and she appeared to want to stick to the status quo. I felt like she only took the trip so she can say “she tried.”