Mr. Funky has cousins and step-nieces with this mentality and I just don't understand it. For the step-nieces, some of it is alcohol consumption, but not all of it. For the cousins, I think it was just poor upbringing.
The cousins (and my husband) were all raised with some degree of abuse in their houses, and my late MIL and her late sister (one sister is still living) in particular were horribly mouthy, and loved starting fights. MIL would back down if it threatened to get physical, but her one sister wouldn't, and landed herself in jail a few times for assault. My husband was like that to a degree when he was younger, but the difference is that he left home at 18 and never returned - his cousins all stayed home - they were all young mothers (and one young father) and they were dependent on their moms for much longer. The cousins managed to get themselves in several abusive relationships each, so the cycle just continued. I had to unfriend all of them on social media because I grew weary of all of the constant back and forth between them and women their men were sleeping with on the side, between them and the current so's of their exes, etc, and their attempts to drag me in to it. I am pleased so see a number of THEIR kids are working hard on breaking the cycle - I remain friends with the kids on SM.
The step-nieces baffle me. Like I said, sometimes alcohol is a factor, but not always. The one step-sister is an alkie, and the kids were not always supervised, but the other one did her best to give the kids the best life she could, and yet there they are on a Friday night, posting about how proud of their men they are for getting in to fights at the various bars they are at. Like the cousins, there are multiple kids with multiple men, and no marriages - in both cases, their mothers made the same mistakes (well, my husband's late aunt did - his mother and his living aunt weren't revolving doors like step sisters were). Truly sad.