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The closing the legs comment had nothing to do with feminism, it was just a throwaway comment to say hey, there's more room on this seat on the bus guy, enough with the man spreading already. I thought it was kinda funny. It just meant he was taking up too much room on the seat, no need to read too much into that particular comment.

Oh Lakewood... you do make me laugh out loud for real.

I saw so many trailers of JJ and Josh going up against Andrew that I began getting pissed off at JJ. How did I not see that when I was watching that episode? *shrug* So he starts this crap again with Marquel. Quit it man. Didn't believe for a second that Andrew said 'blackie'. By the end of the episode, I felt Andrew's frustration and JJ can suck it. When Andi was questioning Chris, she felt too close to anger for me. If Chris had not revealed what the drama revolved around, I think it would have been very easy for her to turn. She did the same thing with Nick and when he wanted to move on, she said he was trying to downplay it. I kind of get it because I think anyone in that situation would be second guessing everything. But damn, she does like the drama. I still like Nick and I can understand those of you who don't. He was a big sour-puss on the group date. However, I do of respect his explanation of it. He told the truth. The sulking does nothing for your cause Nick. And quit it with the middle school poems. I'm keeping my eye on him. The whole thing with Cody was silly. Nick did nothing wrong with going to get Andi. It's something that they all wanted to do. The mocking comment (mock-com) was meant to be a joke. When he realized Cody was offended, he apologized. Why is Cody still here again? Oh yeah. Because she had to kick off the guy who was the real source of entertainment. Andi, why are you kicking off our eye candy and entertainment? I know they don't have any chemistry, but you're going with CODY? The date with Brian was weird. The cooking part of the show was cringe-inducing. Just so awkward. I know he's out of comfort zone in the kitchen, but c'mon man, buck up. I mean, really? You get a one-on-one date with Andi and screw up that badly? To me, he seemed soooo far out of his comfort zone, that he looked resentful. I wondered if he experienced some weird trauma in the kitchen or something. It's like he doesn't want to see where the food comes from. It just magically appears behind a secret door. Geez. He was determined not to like it before he took his first bite. And Andi spoke up just to save the date. I don't understand why he couldn't have taken just one positive thing out of that experience. I mean, not even one? Josh. Josh would have been kicked off from first rose ceremony if I had anything to do with it. But I don't. Sooooo, okay, kick him off. He's so full of shit it hurts my brain. He hasn't dated anyone in five years? Right. *rolling eyes* His explanation for why he left baseball was ridiculous. You play baseball. Then suddenly you realize that you can't have a family if you play baseball. So you quit. Uh, huh. The mime date should have been Josh's. All the shrugs and rolling of the eyes would make it mandatory. There is not one story or anything he's talked about so far that doesn't have a spin on it. Spin it baby, spin it! Also, can't get over the 'dramatic' leaning against the bleachers when he lost the basketball game. Just makes me giggle.

*high five*. I think we're sisters cause we've got the same mom. (you described her brilliantly!)

I guess I'm going to weigh in on the whole 'doing it for ratings'. I think, in part, they are. However, I know me a crazy momma when I see it. She's crazy and she is a snake. I see the reactions from Kandi. The whole denial thing or looking like there is no emotion looks to me like a defense mechanism. That's how she's used to responding when she feels like she can't control Joyce's behavior. And that statement is bullshit too. She can control her behavior and Joyce can control her own behavior. I abhor MJ. She makes everyone around her toxic. I wish God would take her up on the challenge she threw out there.

well I seem to remember catching glimpses of her behavior early on. Remember when she came to the lunch where Nene and Kim weren't speaking? MJ tried to really push it on them to say hello. I kind of gave the side eye to that a little bit. Something about the way she responded when Nene was checking her. I agree with everyone on here. The woman is vile. And Kandi is too old to be putting up with that kind of shit from anyone. Don't care if it IS your momma. As another poster said, you teach others how to treat you. She's just teaching MJ that she can continue on with no boundaries whatsoever. Ugh. It's sickening to watch. I used to really love Kandi. With all this MJ crap and letting her disrespect Todd constantly, it's really making me lose respect for her. Kandi? What do you think MJ is going to do if you disassociate yourself completely? Walk away? yeah, right. Not if she takes away the money honey. I can almost guarantee... your momma will be calling you first. And don't take her back until she APOLOGIZES. Every time she disrespects you, your husband, your friends or your child? Walk away and take the money and your presence completely away again. Keep doing it until it takes. It might take awhile. It may take years. But she will learn. Because she is only out for her own best interests. She is a taker. She does not care. She cares only about who and what will benefit her and she behaves accordingly. If she can't get anything from you, she does not care about you. Simple as that. It worked with my mother. My mom is still the same with those who let her get away with it. But she respects me now. My family is amazed.

Black is a combination of all colors when seen visually, but an absence of light on the spectrum. White is the opposite. The absence of light when seen visually, but a combination of all colors on the light spectrum.

As I think about it, I do agree with you. In my head, I was actually thinking about him just at least having someone on a consistent basis that he trusts that he can also vent to. Something about him just read to me he would be more apt to... continue... talking about his issues with a stranger rather than him feeling that he was unburdening himself on a friend. But you are absolutely correct in saying most people don't need therapy and get through grief naturally. My husband passed away three years ago unexpectedly after only seven years of marriage. I was just broken. Most people aren't sure what to do and how to help. The people who really love you want you to move on quickly. (in my family, at least) It's difficult to just keep repeating your stories, or expressing feelings and helplessness to the people close to you. Went to grief counseling for just a little less than 3 months. I was much more comfortable processing feelings with someone who objectively was paid to help. That's just me, I have to talk out my problems. And I wouldn't choose therapy for anything other than an extremely traumatic experience. However, on another note.... now all of America knows about Dylan's experiences so he'll probably have a ton of support.

Forgot to write about Dylan. He is going through too much grief. Get him off this show immediately. This is not healthy for him right now. I really wish he wouldn't have signed on to do this show. I could barely stand it when he was telling his story. This guy is going through the loss of two siblings within a four year period, making him the ONLY child left of three? I wanted to jump through my screen and hug him and just whisk him away into intensive therapy. Now. How can this guy possibly sort through 'romantic' feelings now? How? Andi did a disservice to him keeping him past that first one-on-one. Dear Dylan, I'm so sorry. Cannot imagine what you are going through with your loss. You have so much support right now... please get someone who can do grief counseling. Someone that you trust. Noticed when you said that what you told Andi was more than some of your 'best' friends know that have happened in your life beyond the past four years. That tells me that 'normally' you're closed up. I think therapy would greatly benefit you because you've 'now' added additional layers on your heart. I don't know you but I can read people. You're a great guy. You are an intense guy... just normally. Right now? You are in one of the most basic, deepest stages/needs of grief. In No Way... should you be on a reality show right now. I wish you the very best. From a Like Soul and Concerned Friend.

Hi everybody. Came over from TWOP. So happy to see the lot of you. Okay, finally caught up on the episodes. Nick totally reminds me of Vincent D'onofrio from Law and Order: Criminal Intent. Has the same quirky personality, sense of humor and looks. Love the deadpan expressions. I find him totally irresistible which probably means that he would break your heart into pieces. Watch out Andi. I'm still completely unsure what to think of her. Although I'm fairly certain that I like her on my tv. Would not want to tangle with her in person. She's just too emotional and gets riled quickly. I think she's got an intense everyday personality. Also think she's getting help on 'reading' the men because she's been spot on every time. Found it heartbreaking that Eric died shortly after. However, before I knew that he had, I thought he was clueless, really trying to get a read on her and somehow not being able to, and arrogant really. Sorry. My read on others: Andrew, eww. Just get him off my screen. Marcus reminds me of Stephen Baldwin. I cannot get past this so get rid of him also, he's smarmy, he's too clingy, gets involved too fast and he is an intense personality. He tries to come across as sincere, lighthearted, loyal... but I don't trust this guy is genuine and I don't like him. Marquel. This guy is a class-act. Not only is he good-looking beyond any reasonable expectation, self-possessed without being arrogant. He's creative, surprisingly sweet. He's got a great sense of humor, is not too intense and you just know the girl who gets him is going to be so lucky. It's not Andi. Definitely friend-zone, but I would be honored to have him as a friend. Please keep him on a little bit longer? Please? My prediction is: Brian. He's the right amount of awkward, hot, clueless, hot, cute, smart, physical, dork. I think he's perfect for her. He's a guy who would bring out the funny girl in her and keep the loyal, true-to-himself humble confidence that is only his. I think he would be able to ward away those bitchy tendencies of hers and bring out the sweet, quirky girl. They would be a great match. Andi... dump Josh M. immediately. He is the exactly what you thought. Not a good match. He's got too much ego. I love JJ. But not with her. Speaking very honestly here... 'some' people in her field are just not gonna dig him. He's got too much style. He's got 'Uniquity'. Love him! Just not for her. Let him loose. I love Patrick too. He's solid. I think he's stable, honest, a genuine guy. I don't think they have the chemistry that she has with Nick or the long-lastingness and humor she would get with Brian. Cut him. Love you all.