I would really struggle in today's world I think, luckily for me the young people at my job haven't changed any pronouns yet. When I read your last sentence, I was thinking "wait, was someone else with her?" And you can say 'how hard is it' but imagine professors trying to remember the pronouns of 100 kids. And the plural contradicts everything we've been taught. I don't think people are trying to be asses, it's a very different mindset and takes some getting used to to get it right.