I think all the players in this episode have reasonable points & disadvantages, and hopefully will balance each other out.
Jon is "righteous" and honorable, yes. But he has a pathological refusal to take the time to coax people to see the same big picture he does. Additionally, he refuses to take the input of outside advisors, or make them feel included in the process of coming to the decisions he does. Of all the players who exhibits innate entitlement to do wtf he wants bc he's king, it's Jon. I've said it before, but he died to humans because he didn't understand them, he's won against the dead. If he marches on the way he is now, everyone loses.
Sansa loves her brother, but she has acquired hard-earned political acumen that Jon lacks. I don't see her as not trusting Jon, I see it as her being increasingly exasperated that he refuses to learn one iota of the "game" because he disdains it, despite the fact it is having immediate and serious consequences for everyone. Showing up having thrown away his crown and expecting everyone to be chill about it is dumb. Bringing enormous armies with no warning and no plan to feed them is a serious goddamn problem. Dismissing people's concerns about his decisions as inconsequential is why some Northmen have decided to screw it and stay home. Sansa could be a good balancing force for Jon, but he refuses to listen (e.g. his sneering at Arya for even standing up for her). He expects her to deal with the small potatoes while he wages his great war, but doesn't keep her up to date on any of his thinking*.
Dany has been taught through her entire lifetime of experience is that the only way to save herself is through strength & fear. Every faction she's encountered has tried to murder her and steal everything she's every earned for herself. Expecting her to have any soft skills at this stage of the game is a little silly. However, imo, she has a big step up on many other players in that she has excellent advisors, and she actually listens to them. Do they have argue from one end of westeros to the other to change her mind? Yes. But she hears what they're saying most of the time, even if she decides to go another direction. Dany's bottom line is being acknowledged as queen because that's the only way she could find value for herself. I think the day she realizes the title means nothing because she is inherently powerful & worthy is the day she blossoms into being a true queen.
Sam gets to be mad in the immediate aftermath of learning his family is dead...but c'mon. I see the theme is going to be to build a foil between Dany & John based on this incident, but I'm not buying it. Sam *knows* his father was a hateful and stubborn asshole. If he'd been in the Nights Watch, he absolutely would have lead the line to stab Jon to death, and yes Jon would execute someone like Samwell's father. The story also conveniently lacks any context, Dany executed the 2 most recalcitrant rebels in a terrifying manner and cowed everyone else into submission. Rather than cutting them down to the last man, which I swear appears to be the more "honorable" option in this multiverse.
Basically everyone needs to stfu and work together, because together they form one fully functioning imperial structure. Any of them alone is fairly unqualified, to me.
* edit: Also, I am not shocked Sansa is snitty right now. Jon's rolled up with the spawn of genocidal despots who's way stronger than any of them, and has immediately given her more trust than he's ever shown Sansa.