I have always loved Michael, and Jane and Michael's relationship, but I am trying to be open-minded and see the appeal of Rafael and this episode did nothing to enlighten me as to why I should be rooting for him. Goodness, all he does is throw around ultimatums to Jane and when she doesn't answer him fast enough, he takes their son, and kicks her out!
He's so good with Ro and with Alba. But with Jane, he only seems to be happy with her if things are going his way. And he has always been this way with her. He issues commands all the time. I've been re-watching the past seasons, and that seems like a lot of what their relationship is, Rafael commanding her, and Jane trying to figure out how to keep him happy. Ugh.
Granted, he did NOT have to go get Michael when Rose told him he was alive. That was a true act of love, to let her know Michael was still here, but I think he was hoping the amnesia would protect him a bit.
I understand that he is scared of losing her, but tightening his grip by issuing demands is a sure way to lose that battle, in my opinion. Jane isn't wishy washy because she's surfacey, she's trying to figure things out, and Michael told her he still loves her and wants to be with her, but he also wants her to be happy. I don't think Rafael has said that to her yet this season.